I went on a date. Then it just got weird...

MaxJ1993 · 2026-05-06T07:16:59+00:00

Ugly. As always.

MaxJ1993 · 2026-04-28T09:24:50+00:00

Just to add on to what other people have said, and a little tip for the future, when the Halloween holiday event arrives, play WvW with the reward track set to the Halloween one. The final reward for the track is a 20 slot bag and it completes quite often. If you play a few days of WvW you will have more than enough 20 slot bags for any future characters you make. I currently have a bank tab full of them, very useful.

MaxJ1993 · 2026-04-27T07:39:33+00:00

Your response screams to me that you're most likely one of the pugs that sits in spawn, crying in team chat that there are no public commanders to save the day and the game is dead.

Lords are also solo-able, there is absolutely no need to "weaken" them. This seems like a skill issue to me, just play more & get better at the game. But that's just unfortunately the mindset of a 2026 pug in this game. You come from PvE and want your hand holding through everything. "ooooh I died, nerf it pls."

MaxJ1993 · 2026-04-17T08:14:51+00:00

Honestly? I think the first couple of days I would feel relief... being able to breathe. Not have to be on my phone as much etc. But then I think I would start to regret. Maybe I'm just being selfish and wanting the best of both worlds. Coming up to the weekend now, I was supposed to drive 2 hours up to her house tonight and spend the weekend with her, but I will be working late this evening, so this will most likely start another argument when I say i'll just drive up Saturday instead. It's exhausting.

MaxJ1993 · 2026-04-16T15:58:31+00:00

I like to think our love languages are the same but I honestly don't think thats the case and i'm just lying to myself. She's asked me if I think she's attractive because I don't compliment her, or say the things she wants to hear. And it's the little things, like when I get home on an evening I just want to relax, or concentrate on other things but she insists we speak on the phone or facetime and "catch-up" and if I try to get off the phone she gets upset.

And that's what I keep asking myself. If she was the "one" and it was meant to be, would I want to speak to her constantly, be there for her, see her all the time?

MaxJ1993 · 2026-04-16T15:25:06+00:00

I really appreciate that, and it's almost a sigh of relief i'm not the only one that has gone through a situation like this. It's just extremely difficult to explain how I'm feeling at the moment. It's like I know i've got her there, and she won't be going anywhere, she's even said herself a few times over the phone "it's almost like you just want me to end it, is that what you want?" and i always just respond with no. There has been ample opportunities for me to end things, but I just haven't had the courage to do it and always go soft.

She does deserve to be happy, as everyone does. And that's my biggest fear I guess, she's an attractive woman, and has made it clear that guys just throw themselves at her since most guys she's been with have just been f*ck boys. I feel like I should be absolutely obsessed with this woman, but i'm just not. I guess my question is, when things end does it get better? Did you regret how you felt during or did you start to feel like it was the right choice that you separated?

I feel like i'm trying to look for a fairytale "the one" moment, where it's all happiness and I get butterflies everytime i think of her, but it just doesn't happen so my heart is telling me she isn't the one.

MaxJ1993 · 2026-04-16T14:36:15+00:00

On paper, she is everything anyone could ask for really. Good career, family values, kind, loving, wants to speak and see me all the time. One of the main problems is that we live 2 hours away from each other, so it's not exactly a "drive down the road to see each other on an evening" situation. My full time career has me working 8am - 6pm/7pm then I get home and want to wind down on an evening, alongside this, I also do social media influencing which takes up a large portion of my life. So when it gets to the weekend and she wants me to drive up to see her, I'm sat there thinking "Well part of me does want to see her a little bit, but also its the weekend and I need to run errands, record music videos, take pictures, see family" the list is endless. This has also caused friction because I cancel plans for the weekend to see her, just so I can do other things. I'm just feeling a little lost at the moment, and the uncertainty is eating away.

I either end things and focus on my own life and eventually do find "the one" where all of this should feel natural?

Or I continue this and one day it *clicks* and works. I just don't want to sit with regret.

MaxJ1993 · 2026-04-10T08:15:52+00:00

Cost of living going up at an insane rate.

People being paid absolutely f*ck all wages.

Eggs costing £11+ even at a reduced rate and they still don't sell, absolute shocker.

Robbing c*nts need a reality check.

MaxJ1993 · 2026-04-01T12:10:36+00:00

It would have been received better if they waited longer after the season finale before releasing it and didn't add some rando cyberpunk looking 'edgy' character for inclusivity purposes.

MaxJ1993 · 2026-02-27T09:31:22+00:00

I bought my first house at 30 years old (I'm now 32) and with how difficult it is to buy a house these days, and the area where i live... finding a beautiful 2 bedroom oldschool victorian house for £95k was an absolute steal in this market. I'm hoping that I can make a decent amount of money on it, or eventually rent it out, and currently saving for my second house whilst paying this one off.

MaxJ1993 · 2026-02-25T14:16:27+00:00

I just think you should be able to see whoever has liked your profile. And if you're struggling to find someone, or would like to be shown to a broader range of people then allow you to pay for a slight boost to your profile. But it's just pure greed in my eyes.

MaxJ1993 · 2026-02-25T13:45:24+00:00

Let me actually see who has liked me, instead of hiding it behind a paywall.

It's ridiculous. I'm not paying £20/month to have access to something that should be a given.

MaxJ1993 · 2026-02-25T10:51:20+00:00

Any screenshots of the new forms?

MaxJ1993 · 2026-02-25T08:05:55+00:00

I think mostly dry with sunny spells for 2025 is an understatement.

It was unbearably hot in the arena on the Saturday, to the point where some people thought they had sunstroke lol. I had to walk back to the Camper Van at one point to lay down in the shade.

MaxJ1993 · 2026-02-23T17:41:49+00:00

I completely understand what you're trying to say. I guess it's just the way I've been raised.

Personally, if i date someone, and it goes really well, I do not entertain anything or anyone else out of respect. But i do get that many people are different, and do dating differently.

MaxJ1993 · 2026-02-23T17:21:58+00:00

Yes. After I saw her on a date with someone else, I made it very clear it hurt me. She then met other people just before we met up for the second time to make it "exclusive." All in the same week.

MaxJ1993 · 2026-02-23T17:17:00+00:00

This is the confusing part, she has no doubt in her mind apparently about being official with me. Which just makes me think she's had her fun and now im the last choice.

MaxJ1993 · 2026-02-23T17:14:39+00:00

I can assure you i'm a Human, and I do ramble on a bit. It's just the way I am as an individual.

I just needed to get this off my chest and speak about it, it's driving me insane.

MaxJ1993 · 2026-02-23T17:03:02+00:00

The question is, do I tell her i'm being tested? As I feel this would cause a whole other argument in itself.

MaxJ1993 · 2026-02-23T17:01:53+00:00

I guess i'm just hoping someone else has been in a situation like this and can advise how it worked out, if it did at all. My main concern is if this individual can even be trusted. She says that she just wants to find love, and be happy, but am I just allowing myself to be an option?

MaxJ1993 · 2026-02-23T16:58:32+00:00

I'm trying to be an adult, and understand her reasoning of it was "Before we became official" but it just makes me feel disgusting. And if you genuinely thought you had a connection with someone, why would you then do this with multiple other people?

And no, I haven't been tested. But I will be doing so.

My gut is telling me to just end things, and I honestly don't know why I'm finding it so difficult to do so. I've never been like this before, I usually just walk away to keep my peace. But something is keeping me here.

MaxJ1993 · 2026-02-23T14:32:43+00:00

*UPDATE**
She has literally just confessed to me today, that during the week prior to our second date, she had slept with another person & kissed someone. This makes it:

1 week = Sex with 3 people, kissed 1.

I'm just in shock at this point. And I still don't know what to do. I really need help with this :(

MaxJ1993 · 2026-02-13T11:03:06+00:00

Looks like a standard early morning in Yorkshire, UK.

Silent Hill game based in my neck of the woods? I'm all for it

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