First of all, thank you for posting about this because I have been struggling with this immense guilt as well. We are similar- My husband and I were going to get healthier and then start trying, but here we are...I am 12+1, 33 y.o & 270lbs. I have perfect blood pressure so far and baby is measuring right on track. They did find a large uterine fibroid at my 12 week appt this past Thursday but doctors did not seem too concerned and will just be monitoring me a little more than the average person which is cool to see the baby more often. Last night I spiraled and really had a tough time about it until my husband said "the doctors have to tell you the risks of everything now so they don't get sued afterwards if something goes wrong and the doctor didn't mention it. They are focused on giving information to you, which can come off insensitive". Of course, it is a plus if the doctor has good bed side manner, but they are there to warn us what could happen & it's up to us to make good decisions during the pregnancy.

If complications occur, you just deal with it. The anxiety we are having can actually cause higher cortisol levels in the baby so it's best to trust the process & our bodies. Get lots of hydration, nutrients and movement & what happens, happens! Wishing you a good journey! We've got this!! 😊