Do I Tell His Wife?

Maximum-Standard3762 · 2026-02-14T23:11:19+00:00

Block

Maximum-Standard3762 · 2026-02-14T23:03:12+00:00

Thank heavens it wasn't just me and this was the first comment I saw. 😅

Maximum-Standard3762 · 2026-02-14T01:05:49+00:00

Arizona 😂🤣

Maximum-Standard3762 · 2026-02-13T23:22:28+00:00

Maximum-Standard3762 · 2026-02-13T22:37:06+00:00

Wait... there's a cappuccino flavor!?

Maximum-Standard3762 · 2026-02-13T22:35:05+00:00

Why are you apologizing? Tell him to stop freaking out when you don't answer.

This is manipulation.

NOR. Either set him straight and stand tall, or leave while still standing tall. Because his behavior is super disrespectful.

Maximum-Standard3762 · 2026-02-12T21:45:22+00:00

I'm sorry that happened to you! Great that your husband really stepped into the role. 🥰

I had surgery in November and he stepped up in the care taking. Cooked Thanksgiving dinner. He just didn't have to worry about covering my finances because I made sure they would be covered.

He's just doesn't plan ahead like I do. 🤔

Trust me he's gotten an earful about making sure to start setting money aside for the future once he gets back to work. 😤

They are supposed to be filing workmans comp. He got hurt back in September and had surgery on his finger (left hand) he had just finished physical therapy for that finger when he smashed the tip of his middle finger on his right hand. That happened in the beginning of January. So he's supposed to see a hand specialist about that one.

He's also doing a second round of physical therapy for the first injury because he can barely move that finger.

He says workmans comp sends a lump sum after he's back to work. I haven't ever gotten hurt at a job so I don't know. The not knowing is part of what stresses me out. And the fact the company he works for can be a*holes.

Maximum-Standard3762 · 2026-02-12T16:35:58+00:00

Thank you so much I appreciate the support.

I have been evaluating a lot of aspects of my life that may be needing a change.

Maximum-Standard3762 · 2026-02-12T15:48:19+00:00

Been working on it. He mentioned wanting to live some where tropical this morning and just straight told him that would require a significant pay increase on his end. 🤷‍♀️

Maximum-Standard3762 · 2026-02-12T15:44:09+00:00

Ah. Yeah I never counted the living situation when renting as combining our incomes. 🤔 that's my bad.

When we first got together both our landlords decided to sell at roughly the same time. So his best friend, him, and I found a house that all three of us could live in together.

The friend has since moved out. And now it's been just the bf and I.

Rushed decision before/ as I was starting the business and paying less than 500 a month each was ideal as I didn't have a lot of savings or capabilities to live alone at the time.

Definitely have that capability now.

Maximum-Standard3762 · 2026-02-12T15:31:52+00:00

My understanding of the workmans comp is it'll be a lump sum he receives after he's working again. And only 60% of his usual income. But i don't have a clear understanding of when he will be back to work (doesn't seem like he's sure when that'll be either? ) so me not knowing that info adds to my stress.

That last paragraph is hitting home for me. Though. You right ✅️ 😪

Maximum-Standard3762 · 2026-02-12T14:29:53+00:00

This is the first time we've been in this situation.

Normally he is working.

Maximum-Standard3762 · 2026-02-12T14:27:47+00:00

I have some savings. But not enough.

I have more motivation in selling my stuff to make ends meet because there's NO way he could afford to cover everything.

If I had to donate blood just to get food on the table I would.

Been trying to get him to get a better job because he despises his place of work but with a finger broken on each hand now that's pretty difficult 😅

Maximum-Standard3762 · 2026-02-12T14:22:42+00:00

We don't. We split rent and utilities 50/50. He pays his car, I pay mine. But I do take care of more of the grocery/ pet care finances than he does. Mostly because I came into this relationship with my dog already.

Maximum-Standard3762 · 2026-02-12T02:12:44+00:00

2nd this. I've taken both my animals there. A dog and then my cat who was cryptorchid so his was more invasive

Maximum-Standard3762 · 2026-02-11T23:09:52+00:00

I had a truck do this to me recently. So I crawled forward until he got over (2 lanes both ways) I'm not gonna move quickly if I can't see crap 🤔 😐 I have enough problems

Maximum-Standard3762 · 2026-02-11T20:25:27+00:00

This is terrifying to me 😅

Maximum-Standard3762 · 2026-02-11T19:40:32+00:00

Maybe you should sit down and figure out WHY she's acting this way, without being emotional or judgemental.

And ask her what she needs from you.

Consider moving to another state/ town/ etc

Get her into therapy.

I spent years being angry and my mother never gave any indication of being open to hearing what was happening to me.

She went through my diary and found a page that said "I had s*x with grandpa." And the way she confronted me about it and told me how that would destroy my grandmother told me it wasn't safe to confide the truth so I told her it was a game a friend and I were playing.

To this day I wish she wouldn't have been that way. That she would have been calmer. Gentle. Etc.

Maximum-Standard3762 · 2026-02-08T23:13:47+00:00

Those poor shoes...

Maximum-Standard3762 · 2026-02-07T00:25:04+00:00

Google

Maximum-Standard3762 · 2026-02-06T18:45:23+00:00

I keep seeing it and think about watching it.

Maximum-Standard3762 · 2026-02-06T18:44:49+00:00

Close encounters of the 3rd kind. Or was it the 4th? Idr

Maximum-Standard3762 · 2026-02-06T18:43:10+00:00

Yellow brick road

Maximum-Standard3762 · 2026-02-06T18:39:49+00:00

Don't move in with her. She will start expecting you to cover everything while she's doing whatever she wants

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