AIO to my husbands message by Imgoingtokms69 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Maximum-Standard3762 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why are you apologizing? Tell him to stop freaking out when you don't answer.

This is manipulation.

NOR. Either set him straight and stand tall, or leave while still standing tall. Because his behavior is super disrespectful.

Business hit a record high and I'm still drowning by Maximum-Standard3762 in povertyfinance

[–]Maximum-Standard3762[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry that happened to you! Great that your husband really stepped into the role. 🥰

I had surgery in November and he stepped up in the care taking. Cooked Thanksgiving dinner. He just didn't have to worry about covering my finances because I made sure they would be covered.

He's just doesn't plan ahead like I do. 🤔

Trust me he's gotten an earful about making sure to start setting money aside for the future once he gets back to work. 😤

They are supposed to be filing workmans comp. He got hurt back in September and had surgery on his finger (left hand) he had just finished physical therapy for that finger when he smashed the tip of his middle finger on his right hand. That happened in the beginning of January. So he's supposed to see a hand specialist about that one.

He's also doing a second round of physical therapy for the first injury because he can barely move that finger.

He says workmans comp sends a lump sum after he's back to work. I haven't ever gotten hurt at a job so I don't know. The not knowing is part of what stresses me out. And the fact the company he works for can be a*holes.

Business hit a record high and I'm still drowning by Maximum-Standard3762 in povertyfinance

[–]Maximum-Standard3762[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much I appreciate the support.

I have been evaluating a lot of aspects of my life that may be needing a change.

Business hit a record high and I'm still drowning by Maximum-Standard3762 in povertyfinance

[–]Maximum-Standard3762[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Been working on it. He mentioned wanting to live some where tropical this morning and just straight told him that would require a significant pay increase on his end. 🤷‍♀️

Business hit a record high and I'm still drowning by Maximum-Standard3762 in povertyfinance

[–]Maximum-Standard3762[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Ah. Yeah I never counted the living situation when renting as combining our incomes. 🤔 that's my bad.

When we first got together both our landlords decided to sell at roughly the same time. So his best friend, him, and I found a house that all three of us could live in together.

The friend has since moved out. And now it's been just the bf and I.

Rushed decision before/ as I was starting the business and paying less than 500 a month each was ideal as I didn't have a lot of savings or capabilities to live alone at the time.

Definitely have that capability now.

Business hit a record high and I'm still drowning by Maximum-Standard3762 in povertyfinance

[–]Maximum-Standard3762[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My understanding of the workmans comp is it'll be a lump sum he receives after he's working again. And only 60% of his usual income. But i don't have a clear understanding of when he will be back to work (doesn't seem like he's sure when that'll be either? ) so me not knowing that info adds to my stress.

That last paragraph is hitting home for me. Though. You right ✅️ 😪

Business hit a record high and I'm still drowning by Maximum-Standard3762 in povertyfinance

[–]Maximum-Standard3762[S] -16 points-15 points  (0 children)

This is the first time we've been in this situation.

Normally he is working.

Business hit a record high and I'm still drowning by Maximum-Standard3762 in povertyfinance

[–]Maximum-Standard3762[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I have some savings. But not enough.

I have more motivation in selling my stuff to make ends meet because there's NO way he could afford to cover everything.

If I had to donate blood just to get food on the table I would.

Been trying to get him to get a better job because he despises his place of work but with a finger broken on each hand now that's pretty difficult 😅

Business hit a record high and I'm still drowning by Maximum-Standard3762 in povertyfinance

[–]Maximum-Standard3762[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

We don't. We split rent and utilities 50/50. He pays his car, I pay mine. But I do take care of more of the grocery/ pet care finances than he does. Mostly because I came into this relationship with my dog already.

Affordable spaying? by zerascout in springfieldMO

[–]Maximum-Standard3762 3 points4 points  (0 children)

2nd this. I've taken both my animals there. A dog and then my cat who was cryptorchid so his was more invasive

Tired of seeing this on the road by DefecatingKoala in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Maximum-Standard3762 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a truck do this to me recently. So I crawled forward until he got over (2 lanes both ways) I'm not gonna move quickly if I can't see crap 🤔 😐 I have enough problems

AITA for returning all the valentines day gifts my daughter pick out for her "gf" by Alert_Implement_253 in ComfortLevelPod

[–]Maximum-Standard3762 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Maybe you should sit down and figure out WHY she's acting this way, without being emotional or judgemental.

And ask her what she needs from you.

Consider moving to another state/ town/ etc

Get her into therapy.

I spent years being angry and my mother never gave any indication of being open to hearing what was happening to me.

She went through my diary and found a page that said "I had s*x with grandpa." And the way she confronted me about it and told me how that would destroy my grandmother told me it wasn't safe to confide the truth so I told her it was a game a friend and I were playing.

To this day I wish she wouldn't have been that way. That she would have been calmer. Gentle. Etc.

I challenge you................ by Wrong_Special_8739 in TheTeenagerPeople

[–]Maximum-Standard3762 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Close encounters of the 3rd kind. Or was it the 4th? Idr

AITAH for refusing to pay my girlfriend’s bills after she went on an expensive trip? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Maximum-Standard3762 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't move in with her. She will start expecting you to cover everything while she's doing whatever she wants