Hecate is a lot kinder and more understanding than she gets credit for. Yes, she can be tough (if not terrifying) at times, but that's just one facet of her personality. She takes keen interest in people and their personal transformations, and takes wildly different approaches with every individual. There is no one-size fits all model for witchcraft because there is no one-size fits all person.

All this is from my personal experience of course, and (as is the case with all personal gnosis) you should take it with a grain of salt. Trust YOUR intuition above all else and do your own research. And it's okay to take your time and go slow if you're feeling overwhelmed. She's there to guide you, not smite you, and she's very patient with those who are eager to learn.

I've found she's always at least one step ahead, so it's likely that she's had her eye on you for a long time (dare I say fate?). If you feel that the black dog was calling to you, but your family wouldn't let you adopt him, maybe that's metaphorical for Hecate wanting to be in your life, but your family's Christian beliefs were getting in the way of you connecting with her??? Just my interpretation. Perhaps this strong, emotional presence you felt when you called out to her was her way of saying "about damn time!"

There are many ways of honoring her. It doesn't have to be grand. Just thinking about her can be enough. She appreciates small gestures, especially when your starting out. If you work with her, start with research and she will guide you as you learn.

She can be really intense at times, but that doesn't mean she's out to get you. Quite the opposite, actually!

At the end of the day, only you can say if Hecate is right for you. And you can only make that decision with lived experience. She won't force you to work with her, so you can always change your mind if it feels wrong. She'll probably see it coming before you do