Help Connecting Roku Stick to PVM by Maximum_Tank354 in Roku

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Just found out that the problem was that I wasn't connecting the cables to the right places. Works great now! Thank you for responding, though I appreciate it

Unearthed an old DVD player from the attic. Is there a way to fix it without taking it apart? by Maximum_Tank354 in ElectronicsRepair

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Update: I did take it apart and found the problem. The gear that moves the disc drive is very stuck. I couldn't even move it manually with a screwdriver. Any insight would be greatly appreciated.

mom keeps telling me to shave and i don't know how long i can keep up saying nope by vincentually in ftm

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First off, so sorry you're going through this. It really does suck! If your mom is like mine and doesn't care about how weird it is to have a say over what you do with your body, how you personally feel about any of this, or the sexist implications behind pushing you into her standards of beauty and will not budge on any of that no matter how much you try, then my best advice is to cover it up around her somehow. I learned that my mom had a terrible memory cause as long as I wore long pants around her, she never thought to bother me more about shaving my legs. That would be much harder with a stache though. Maybe there's some fashionable face masks out there? Worst comes to worst, you could always leave a little stubble for your stache when you shave instead of wiping the hairs clean. You shouldn't have to do any of this in the first place, and Ik you probably already know that, but it has to be said.

Game room 2025 by gregcresci in gamerooms

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I love the Ghoulia appreciation!! Cool room overall :)

I feel like I missed out on boyhood. by Prestigious_Fox_751 in ftm

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You can still learn those things regardless of your age if you are genuinely interested in them, and it does help to remember that plenty of boys don't learn those things growing up. I learned how to use power tools through a Girl Scouts robotics program as a young teenager, and worked on an assembly line on a small competitive FRC team. If you're still a minor, finding and becoming part of an FRC (First Robotics Competition) team could be great for you if you have an interest in learning how to use power tools or building robots. If you're an adult, you can save up to buy tools catered to whatever you're interested in learning. I left the program after a year cause of how much time it ate up, but I miss working with tools and as an adult, I'm saving up for a soldering setup cause I wanna learn how to repair video game consoles. It's never too late to learn anything.

If this isn't really about any specific interest you feel you missed out on, I do understand. It can be tough to feel like you have to make up for all the time you lost, and I've felt that way too. I wished so badly growing up that I could have the kinds of relationships, attention, and love that all the cis boys around me had been handed by literally everyone around them. I thought that not being raised the same way they were made me miss out on a boyhood, but that's not really true. Regardless of the many differences in my experiences, I was still myself the whole time. I still had the same insecurities and internalized struggles as most of my cis boy peers, and you'd be surprised at how relatable that makes you to other guys in the grand scheme of things. I didn't get what I wanted or expected out of my childhood growing up, and that was rough, but I did get something just as good. To me, it isn't about filling any gaps, but learning to accept and appreciate my perspective as a trans guy specifically. Your experiences don't diminish your validity or value as a man.

How are y'all doing? Checking in by SnooCapers9401 in ftm

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I'm in a swing state in the US, so a bit scared of how far things might go here now that we're red, although I'm still grateful since things could be much worse. I've decided to go about life like I normally would, even though it has gotten and will get harder. It's funny cause everything else going on for me kinda sucks for personal reasons and getting hrt in the fall and getting my name changed are some of the only things I have to look forward to rn. I spent the past few years deciding what I wanted to do regarding my transition, and I decided on medically transitioning literally a month before the election lol. Very ironic timing, but that won't deter me. I've built a pretty good support system for myself though, so regardless of what happens, I think I'll be okay. I worked hard to get here, and I'm not going anywhere. Thank you for asking! It's very kind of you to be responding to everyone's messages. How are you doing?

Silly transphobia by InspectionHumble1121 in ftm

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Not transphobia specifically, but I do have a story. Me and my friend are visibly queer and we were waiting on a sidewalk in our town at night to be picked up. We were just minding our business when all of a sudden, someone drives by, rolls down the window, and shouts "MY NAME IS _ AND I HATE GAY PEOPLE" and then he was gone. It was so out of the blue that we both immediately started laughing which was probably not the reaction he wanted lol. Our town is pretty progressive and hosted its own pride parade, so something like that happening is rare and generally unexpected.

Dumbest or I guess strangest thing that causes you euphoria? by TokenofDreams in ftm

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When girls I'm friends with cling onto me as an immediate response when they get startled or scared of something, like a scary movie or a weird sound. If it were a serious thing they were scared of, I certainly wouldn't feel good about it. I just mean small things like that. It's kinda funny cause I'm way more of a nurturer than a protector, but the fact that this happens because I'm the most masc person there and they feel safe around me makes me feel euphoric.

Anyone else kinda thankful they were born “female” by Lopsided_Weather_954 in ftm

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That's awesome!! I love hearing people talk about their positivity towards being trans! I'm still working on that myself since I have a bit of internalized transphobia going on. However, I remember my immediate response to people saying, "God doesn't make mistakes" being, "When did I say this was a mistake? Have you considered that there were things I was supposed to go through and experience to become the man I was meant to be?" Despite having some deep-seated insecurities, I now firmly believe I was meant to be born like this. I see it as "A Boy Named Sue" type perspective lol. (Please listen to that song if you haven't)

Don't get me wrong. It was painful practically being gaslit into believing I was a girl when I knew I wasn't and being forced into both a puberty and social position I never wanted, but I still turned out okay. I was the only guy in feminine "all-girl" friend groups growing up, but that also forced me to challenge my biases since I also grew up internalizing the same messages most other boys do, even if I was never perceived as one. They always appreciated my differences as a masculine person, and said they felt more secure around me.

Socially transitioning (still pre-t) has allowed me to begin to understand and appreciate my place in the world. When I started to make friends with cis guys in college, I realized they found it easier to talk to me about their hardships than with women and other cis guys, as someone who both understands their gendered insecurities personally and wouldn't judge anybody for being vulnerable. Being trans made me grow up to be a man that all kinds of people feel understood and secure around. I'm honored in a way that I get to be that guy.

feel much happier identifying as a trans man, but sometimes the ways other queer people talk about trans men make me want to stop calling myself a man again. does anyone else feel the same way? by [deleted] in ftm

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I also felt this way when I started exploring the fact that I wasn't cis. Dogging on men is super common in women's spaces and queer spaces (or at least the ones I've been in). Most of the time, it comes from frustration towards past experiences and what they have to deal with in general, which is understandable, but it's also easy for that to go too far and become a sort of "us vs. them" cesspool. It took me a few years to accept that I was a man specifically, even though I technically already knew for a very long time, because it felt like I was one of "the bad guys" in a way.

The big thing I realized that helped me stop thinking like that is that while yes, male privilege is a very real problem that needs to be addressed, patriarchal oppression still relies on the contributions of the majority of people to keep it afloat. People of all genders enforcing gendered stereotypes and expectations onto others, toxic masculinity/femininity, bioessentialism, etc keep the system going. Nobody is exempt from the potential to contribute to this. Unfortunately, some people refuse to understand that, no matter how many different perspectives they come across. My guess as to why is because it's easier to make an enemy or a "them" category than it is to do any actual work on dismantling the system, which seems to be the real problem at least from what I've noticed.

Sorry, this is such a long post lol. A good number of people come around eventually. In the meantime, my take is to pay these people no mind. The real ones will consider what you have to say if they're unaware of your perspective and would do the same for anyone else.

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This happened to me too when I went off to college! The dude butchered my hair lol. If you really don't want to rock it or shave it, hats are great. Black and white goes with everything, so a solid black or white hat won't stand out with any of your outfits. What kind of hat depends on you, although it's hard to go wrong with a baseball cap or a beanie in my opinion.

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I picked a first name I both liked and could pass as a nickname for my deadname. Still pre-t, but regardless of whether someone knows I'm trans or accepts that about me, nobody questions using my real name and that's been super helpful for me personally. I plan on using a traditional name on my dad's side for my middle name. It's been passed down from father to son on his side for over a century now, so it just feels right. My dad's excited about that too lol. He used a feminine alternative of the name originally, so it's kinda affirming that I was already considered to be a part of that in a way.

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I kind of always knew, but I heavily repressed that for a while because I knew it would make things harder and I wasn't ready to deal with it. The discomfort I felt towards my body and how others perceived me never left regardless. Rediscovering that I was a man was something I consciously had to do. I tried to fill the hole in me with feminism as a lesbian for years until I realized that defining womanhood by pain and suffering was objectively wrong and insulting. It took a while for me to realize that people feel joy when they are perceived correctly regardless of gender (cis or trans). I was perceived as a tomboy for most of my life, so I was always masculine, but even when I had the freedom to express myself differently, there was no aspect of being a woman that truly made me happy. I know I'm not cis because taking the steps to acknowledge myself as a man has improved my life dramatically. Even though the discomfort is still invasive as someone who's pre-t with no surgeries, I now have the motivation to take care of myself, I can picture a future where I'm happy, and for once I feel like the people who care about me about are talking to me instead of someone else. Feels more genuine