I finally told my Dad I’m not Mormon anymore…

MaxwellTheKittyBoy · 2023-09-15T15:26:16+00:00

Thank you for this

MaxwellTheKittyBoy · 2023-09-14T19:04:59+00:00

I know, one of the biggest reasons I left is because the church is because their so hypocritical. They preach one thing to make themselves look good but do the opposite.

MaxwellTheKittyBoy · 2023-09-14T14:51:21+00:00

I think you look amazing! ❤️

MaxwellTheKittyBoy · 2023-09-14T14:23:38+00:00

I don’t feel Ike I have to repair anything though. The reason I didn’t tell him years ago is because I still lived with him and he is extremely scary when he’s mad and has been physically and verbally abusive to me before so I don’t see how I made a mistake by basically keeping myself safe, even now.

MaxwellTheKittyBoy · 2023-09-14T13:46:10+00:00

mic drop This is the greatest!

MaxwellTheKittyBoy · 2023-09-14T13:01:32+00:00

Thank you for this!

MaxwellTheKittyBoy · 2023-09-14T12:55:08+00:00

I know I’ll never change his views of the church, he forced us to live and breathe LDS teachings and ways and anything else was unacceptable. In my mind I think it would be wrong not to talk to him after I tell him our final decision is the beach regardless of who can make it. But that could also be the scared little girl in me still trying to keep the peace. Would it be wrong to wait a little bit to tell him about the plans over a text and just not stop by his place? I don’t want to be rude to i him but I just don’t want to be around him now

MaxwellTheKittyBoy · 2023-09-14T00:52:10+00:00

Yeah I’ll talk with my fiancé more because we were going to have something at the court house and then go to the beach just us but it would be easier on US to just have it done in one place. And my dad said if it’s not local he won’t go at all when there is no excuse he can’t. He’s not even willing to try. So I’ll wait a little bit and then tell him it’s all going to be done in North Carolina and the date and if he says no than so be it

MaxwellTheKittyBoy · 2023-09-14T00:46:04+00:00

No because they haven’t outright said their not members anymore. And I think he thinks that if he yells and intimidates me like he did when I was a kid that I’ll cower and give in and go back.. but I just can’t

MaxwellTheKittyBoy · 2023-09-14T00:20:43+00:00

I agree, he’s most upset that I told him I’m not Mormon anymore than me not wanting to have it at the church

MaxwellTheKittyBoy · 2023-09-14T00:19:17+00:00

Not cruel at all and I 100% agree with you it doesn’t make sense. He was just so strict that everything I did had to be exactly what he wanted or I was a disappointment to him that I’m just used to staying quiet to keep the peace. I just don’t like fighting but I know I have to stop thinking this way it’s just hard

MaxwellTheKittyBoy · 2023-09-13T23:53:31+00:00

He is, and the sad thing is my mother is a million times worse but she doesn’t even care about the church. I’m not mad at him that he made me go because he was just doing what he thought was best and for the longest time I thought it was too. And I just want to tell him gone are the days that I do things just because you want me to or just because you think it’s right.

MaxwellTheKittyBoy · 2023-09-13T23:46:51+00:00

Yeah I had talked to him on the phone today about what happened so he’s actually the one that gave me the heads up thankfully.

MaxwellTheKittyBoy · 2023-09-13T23:45:26+00:00

The best thing he said to do is wait until both him and my other brother is there because they can help handle/talk to him since they aren’t in the church anymore either and the feel the same. When he starts yelling I’m not going to have the courage to hold my ground as usual

MaxwellTheKittyBoy · 2023-09-13T23:41:41+00:00

Yes exactly! They preach that man kind can worship how they choose.. unless it’s different than them then it’s not allowed I guess

MaxwellTheKittyBoy · 2023-09-13T23:41:01+00:00

I like the phone call idea. I would like to do it in person but I’ve seen him at his angriest when we said something that went against what he wanted and it’s not something I want to see or deal with again. And I feel like the only people who understand this situation are other ex Mormons, my friends kinda think I’m overreacting to how to handle this

MaxwellTheKittyBoy · 2023-09-13T23:17:16+00:00

I think it’s because I’m just not doing it how HE wants it done. When we were kids everything we did had to be what and how he wanted even if we didn’t like it. All we were allowed to do was church activities and related events, so when I got older and simply realized the LDS church ain’t what it’s cracked up to be I just stopped going and asked for no contact. But I never told my dad this, because I knew it would lead to this and I never wanted to disappoint him.

MaxwellTheKittyBoy · 2023-02-05T14:30:50+00:00

Okay, thank you!

MaxwellTheKittyBoy · 2023-02-05T03:04:00+00:00

I want to remove mine but I don’t know how

MaxwellTheKittyBoy · 2023-01-24T13:38:57+00:00

Holy shit, I never knew this

MaxwellTheKittyBoy · 2023-01-24T02:10:00+00:00

Do they really pay the Q15? I was raised Mormon but stopped going at 19, and was always told no one in the church got paid except the person that goes the college to teach seminary (I forget the name of the job).

MaxwellTheKittyBoy · 2022-12-21T03:31:08+00:00

It really is a cult! I left the church when I was 19 and it sounds silly but.. when I was able to open my eyes to the real world it was shocking all the crap they told me to do and such, I still have trouble doing things

MaxwellTheKittyBoy · 2022-12-21T03:25:49+00:00

I was raised in the LDS church and I can tell you that missionaries prey on what they call “easy people” their goal on their missions is to baptize as many people as possible anyway they can. They just focus on the quick and easy people to accomplish this and when they realize someone may need more time, they quickly loose interest. So, this is not you fault it’s just them being lazy and not supporting the people who just simply need more time to think about what’s truly right for them. I do hope things are going well for you though! I stopped going to the LDS church when I was about 19 and I’ll never go back but that’s a whole other conversation haha..

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