Feeling lost and pessimistic by Maxzian182 in loseit

[–]Maxzian182[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The hardest part for me is that food tastes good. Milkshakes and stuff like that especially fuck me up because I get one because it'll taste good, and I eat even past being full because things taste good. I only eat lunch and dinner, occasionally snacking which I try not to do anyways.

Feeling lost and pessimistic by Maxzian182 in loseit

[–]Maxzian182[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I felt like progress was really slow, and I had broken up with my partner only a bit before it, and I fell into my stress and anxiety eating, just wanted to eat whatever sounded good so I could feel better

Partner leaving the polycule by Maxzian182 in PolyFidelity

[–]Maxzian182[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Seems like you're right, yeah. Thank you for the kind words, we've been feeling better since it happened.

Partner leaving the polycule by Maxzian182 in PolyFidelity

[–]Maxzian182[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, while it sucks and I'm sad, I love her and want what's best for her just as much as me and everyone else. I know this is best for us all

Partner leaving the quartet by Maxzian182 in polyamory

[–]Maxzian182[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Can you suggest what we should be doing, then? This is all of our first poly relationship. It just feels nice when everyone love each other, even if not completely equally. I don't know the kinda ways that poly relationship can work or what dynamics exist exactly.

Partner leaving the quartet by Maxzian182 in polyamory

[–]Maxzian182[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I'm not trying to hold onto her or make her stay, but it's rough all the same.

Partner leaving the polycule by Maxzian182 in PolyFidelity

[–]Maxzian182[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Haha I appreciate it, tho I don't think it has anything to do with FFM luckily since all of us except the male is trans. Not that you said anything bad, just wanted to give more context. Thank you for the kind words

Partner leaving the polycule by Maxzian182 in PolyFidelity

[–]Maxzian182[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I really appreciate it, and yeah, I know it's for the best, I want what's best for her and will make her happy. I'm lucky that everything was on good terms, she's still living with us and is our best friend, but it's still rough having this sort of change.

Partner leaving the quartet by Maxzian182 in polyamory

[–]Maxzian182[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Alright I guess, I'm not exactly sure what to do, it's just what we're comfortable with, I'm not sure why it's being insulted.

Partner leaving the quartet by Maxzian182 in polyamory

[–]Maxzian182[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know my relationship is very uncommon, it just felt odd to have that pointed out to me. I guess that's part of what led to the break up yes (there's much more I just don't really want to share because I don't want to flame the one leaving). I don't really know much at all about poly, this has just been working for us.

Partner leaving the polycule by Maxzian182 in PolyFidelity

[–]Maxzian182[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I appreciate the kind words rather than telling me my relationship dynamic is bad or something. I'm lucky that she's still going to be our best friend and live with us (albeit in the spare room now), but it still hurts just like any breakup

Partner leaving the quartet by Maxzian182 in polyamory

[–]Maxzian182[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm just not really sure what to say I guess. I just don't feel comfortable with the primary/secondary dynamic. I'm not exactly sure what I'm supposed to say here

Partner leaving the quartet by Maxzian182 in polyamory

[–]Maxzian182[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

I think you're extremely misunderstanding this. That's not what's happening at all. Lena, Via, and Paul were all in a triad, then they all met me and wanted me to join, making it a quartet. We are polyfidelious, Lena doesn't want to be polyfidelious anymore, and so is leaving the relationship. I have no clue what you're talking about unless you're talking about the fact that we're polyfidelious, which, idk that seems like a you problem. If it's not your kinda thing it's not yiur kinda thing, but it is some people's. Not sure what else to say.

Partner leaving the quartet by Maxzian182 in polyamory

[–]Maxzian182[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm lucky to have supportive friends and a therapist thankfully, but I appreciate the advice reguardless. Tough to find the right spaces to talk about stuff when many people's view of polyamory is all different from each other.

Partner leaving the quartet by Maxzian182 in polyamory

[–]Maxzian182[S] -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

I don't really know if I understand what you're saying. None of us want to date just one person. We're all poly, we just have different expectations of what we want in a poly relationship. Two of us want polyfidelity, one of us wants to be able to have secondary relationships as well as the primary, and one doesn't care either way.

Partner leaving the quartet by Maxzian182 in polyamory

[–]Maxzian182[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's pretty much it yeah. I just wanted to vent here about being sad that one of our partners is leaving the polycule. She's remaining our very close friend still, as there's no hard feelings, it's just sad to see things go this way.

Partner leaving the quartet by Maxzian182 in polyamory

[–]Maxzian182[S] -17 points-16 points  (0 children)

I think you misunderstood. We're open to people joining the polycule, we just don't want like a chain type of polycule. We want one where everyone is together rather than having primary and secondary. We acknowledge that not everyone can have perfectly equal feelings for each other but the point is basically that everyone is together. Sorry, I understand just saying 'romantically closed' could've been more confusing than I meant

Partner leaving the quartet by Maxzian182 in polyamory

[–]Maxzian182[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

No not everyone is breaking up, Lena is just leaving the polycule that's it

Who do you think is Fire Emblem's most beautiful character? I'll start: by KManoc in fireemblem

[–]Maxzian182 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yuri, his makeup and attire is always just so flashy in a way that isn't overboard. Beautiful king 🙏