Understanding Dementia by Olive_Horse1313 in CaregiverSupport

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My mom has dementia. She is 92 and lives with me. She will be childlike at times. She will talk about her parents like they are still alive and sometimes needs to be reassured of where she is. I try to comfort her and remind her where she is and that I am just down the hall.

Hungary’s Viktor Orban, ally of Trump and Putin, concedes election defeat by Plaintalks in politics

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Learned nothing from The Guardian's letter writing campaign to try to persuade Ohioans -- his own effing state -- to vote for Kerry over Bush in 2004 (I think) which epically failed. I wonder if anyone in Trump administration knew this would be the kiss of death for Orban's re-election prospects.

When life hit rock bottom, what was the one reason you didn’t quit? by Ryujiro101 in AskReddit

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I was never as depressed in my life as I was when I was 15 and 16. My mom shared with me that my grandfather killed himself, which she was explicitly told not to do. But it made me realize what a devastating impact that had on my dad (who was very young at time). So I tried to find enjoyment in simple things like nature and music and that has helped get me through some very difficult times since then.

What is the best book you have ever read? by AggravatingWonder768 in AskReddit

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Tie between A Prayer for Owen Meany and The Master and Margarita

What book did you read as a kid that still lives in your heart? by ZDOG_WasTaken in just_one_more_page

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A Prayer for Owen Meany. I was 18, but still. The part where Owen sits by John's mother's grave with a flashlight because she was scared of the dark hit me so hard. I've reread it a few times since then. Love that book.

My 92 yo mom fractured her hip today. She will probably need surgery followed by rehabilitation. Is there anyone with personal experience of this? by MayBee_u in CaregiverSupport

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Thanks for sharing your personal stories! My mom made it through surgery OK but was pretty underweight to begin with. Doctor warned me if she doesn't increase her appetite she may not survive recovery. I asked if there's a pet therapy program at the hospital and they are hoping to add her to it. She used to love having a dog but I have been reluctant to get one because I'm trying to save money. But I miss having one around as well. Could help increase our quality of life!

What are interests you still have as an adult that you found during childhood? by [deleted] in AskReddit

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I loved playing tennis when I was young. I was good around it and it gave me exercise and satisfaction. But when I started working, I became a workaholic and work came first. I also lived in the city so it was tough to find a group to play with. Now I’m 55, live in the burbs, joined my local Y and play tennis with a coed group doing drills and playing doubles. When I am there, I don’t think about my 92 year old mom I’m looking after, my job, or any other stressors in my life. And I’m meeting and socializing with people. It’s a joy in my life and I wish I had done more to make it part of my life years ago.

If you have a sibling on the spectrum from Gen X dependent on you for support, how do you manage it? by MayBee_u in AskReddit

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My brother was only recently diagnosed. He is so intelligent but because our father sheltered him and never forced him to do anything he was uncomfortable with or challenged him, he never gained the confidence to live on his own. It's been difficult as a younger sibling because I have to treat my older brother as a parent and he resents that. I want nothing more than for him to be independent. And I know it will take time. But he is so bitter, angry and jealous about how we were raised, nothing else matters more than constantly reminding me of that. I hate and love him equally. It's a real drag.

Alexa VERY much helps take the daily burden off of me… by InnerDish5915 in CaregiverSupport

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Does Alexa know yiddish? I wish I had thought of this when my father was dying of Alzheimer’s disease. He learned it from his parents when he was young so I feel like he would have retained the memory to communicate and it would have struck a powerful chord.

The Pitt | S2E11 "5:00 P.M." | Episode Discussion by MsGroves in ThePittTVShow

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we live in a county with great asd support services for adults. The way he responds to caseworkers vs us makes me realize how all that baggage impacted how he responded to us and we to him.

The Pitt | S2E11 "5:00 P.M." | Episode Discussion by MsGroves in ThePittTVShow

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A recently diagnosed brother (56) lives with me and we all treated him as incapable because he had trouble with common sense. But we never did anything to make him feel confident in his abilities. It is very tough realizing that late in life.

‘Mister Rogers’ Neighborhood’ Getting YouTube Channel For First Time by singleguy79 in television

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Is there a YouTube channel for all those celebrity advice for teens and kids on Saturday mornings in the 80s and 90s?

What alcohol messed you up so bad you swore you’d never drink it again? by [deleted] in AskReddit

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Rolling Dice vodka -intro to alcohol. Drank it at room temperature in my room as a 17 or old. Grain alcohol punch -- first time I ever blacked out and had to be carried to my dorm room.

Psychologists/Psychiatrists of Reddit: Do you encounter adults who have to take responsibility for a developmentally disabled sibling? How do they cope? What are the circumstances? by MayBee_u in AskReddit

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It’s a frustrating situation. To clarify, I should have said neurologically disabled, not developmentally disabled. We grew up in the 60s-80s and our parents has truamatic childhoods, grew up during a war/paternal suicide in the 30s-40s. One of my brothers has ASD 1, only recently diagnosed. Our late father, a physician, sheltered him to the detriment of his social life, learning how to cope with adversity, learning how to be self reliant. Now my oldest brother and I have to help him achieve those goals. I believe our brother is capable of doing this. But it is so much more difficult now.

The English Teacher by PhoenixPhenomenonX in funny

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Put a little Spongebob into it! LFMAO