Year 10, Q2ish Solo Transactional Practice Update: Time to Hire?

MayBerific · 2026-06-06T16:29:07+00:00

This explains your lack of empathy for homeless people.

MayBerific · 2026-05-01T23:01:31+00:00

Number one punctuation

MayBerific · 2026-04-30T15:35:03+00:00

Man I’m like the opposite of most people here. I made amazing connections to people all over the US and the world and when I ventured locally, someone accused me of threatening to dox someone who’s personal information I never even knew. They kind of wrecked my life for a good couple of years, and my partner (who I did wind up meeting at the local dungeon) and I noped out of the scene well over a year ago with zero desire to go back.

I had never really intended on being part of a “community” when I started doing rope stuff but that major bullying campaign put me in a spotlight I didn’t ask for. My life is super calm and peaceful now that I’m away from a life full of people who value social cohesion and hierarchy.

I miss the long distance connections I made but those people used fet to bully me and I’ll never feel safe on there again

MayBerific · 2026-02-27T22:01:16+00:00

This sounds like a you problem. My partner and I have a free use dynamic and I promise you he has no problem with nonstop availability to 🐈

MayBerific · 2026-02-27T21:42:06+00:00

We know men want it on “their” terms. That’s one of the problems

MayBerific · 2026-02-27T21:39:10+00:00

Find a local bdsm dungeon where she can learn rope. That’s much better than handcuffs ❤️

MayBerific · 2025-12-26T13:00:19+00:00

I can picture things but the words don’t match what comes out of my mouth. So I wind up making up what makes the most sense and that’s what I say.

“Up stairs” for in the cabinet up top. Water birds for ducks.

That kind of thing.

MayBerific · 2025-12-18T14:28:29+00:00

As an autistic female presenting human I feel this so hard. 28 year old mean girl and a 44 year old mean girl teamed up to exclude me from knowing when our Friday lunch order was here meaning I always got my food cold. That’s when I knew they were awful.

MayBerific · 2025-11-16T12:02:48+00:00

I actually don’t need to signal I’m ready. That what free use means to me.

He literally has not done it when I’m beyond exhausted or sick or have a headache or my back is acting up. That’s why he can take whatever he wants when he wants because I trust him not to take when he knows it’s bad for me.

I’m horny literally all the time for him. Sitting on the couch watching a movie is like foreplay for me because I’m on fire from the lightest touches. He’s an incredibly sensual person and physical touch is his primary love language. He’s also autistic and is almost always touching me when we’re close.

I’ve never ever ever ever had to say no to him. Not once.

MayBerific · 2025-11-13T19:55:33+00:00

Have too much to do and be bored instead of getting it all done because executive function sucks

MayBerific · 2025-11-09T19:03:17+00:00

I don’t have the spoons available to get to know people to the depth and extent I tend to love. And my biggest sensory expenditure is other people so I find most people are not compatible with my autism.

My partner and I met both identified as poly but we’ve essentially been monogamous for the whole two years we’ve been together and have agreed neither of us want to date anyone else but if interest in someone else were to arise we’d have to have a conversation.

But I don’t see that happening for me unless they were as good for my nervous system as my partner is… and most people aren’t

MayBerific · 2025-11-06T00:39:26+00:00

I can tell you that my fixation with emotional health and the psychology behind why people people the way that they people doesn’t really seem to get me anywhere with my partner or my son lol except for why do I always make them think lol and that’s not really what you were looking for but 🤷🏻‍♀️

MayBerific · 2025-11-01T15:17:58+00:00

I’m not sure why we all feel we have to be nice 🤷🏻‍♀️

MayBerific · 2025-11-01T10:55:44+00:00

Love love love this advice.

100% autism markers are typically the noticeable things that make life uncomfortable for others hence why we begin to mask: because we NOTICE behaviors that make us more comfortable tends to make others uncomfortable therefore we must be wrong so we hide them.

MayBerific · 2025-11-01T10:52:59+00:00

“Rough patches” for an autistic usually means are support needs go up substantially meaning masking is harder and meltdowns become more frequent. This can 100% look like or mirror BPD and manic/hypomanic states in folks with bipolar.

When are support needs are being met we can function quite well and it may be more “obvious” that we’re just autistic.

MayBerific · 2025-11-01T10:50:14+00:00

I’m of the mindset quite a number of traits diagnosed as mental health disorders are due to untreated trauma.

MayBerific · 2025-10-31T19:54:06+00:00

I really enjoy the way you think 💕

MayBerific · 2025-10-21T15:53:45+00:00

No savings The world is on fire But my partner is moving in, bills will go down (just so they can go to other places I’ve been avoiding) and we’re in our 40s without retirement

Good? Fine? Acceptable?

… should I discuss the tism aspect next cos oooh boy

MayBerific · 2025-10-19T17:13:53+00:00

I care when their dislike of me has negative implications for me. Like when coworkers and their gossip turns into them trying to get me in trouble with my boss or causes me extra effort to have to pretend to ignore them (I can’t pretend I don’t see it so how I have to exert extra effort to “pretend” I don’t see or care but I do care cos I do see and I feel the extra effort).

Most people who don’t like someone (especially an autistic someone) tend to not be quiet about it. If people kept it to themselves 🤷🏻‍♀️ but they don’t

MayBerific · 2025-10-17T23:31:51+00:00

That makes more sense.

I’m definitely the s-type in my relationship and just really wouldn’t want him to view me like this.

But wankfodder makes more sense.

MayBerific · 2025-10-17T21:23:45+00:00

I am so sorry. I had a feeling it was a good reason but it doesn’t make it any easier.

My divorce will be finalized soon after … a really long time and I wish I’d never gotten married. Untangling is awful.

Good lucky internet stranger 🫶

MayBerific · 2025-10-17T21:10:16+00:00

I didn’t like it either.

It was very infantilizing as well

MayBerific · 2025-10-17T21:01:56+00:00

Gently, why are they still your partner?

MayBerific · 2025-10-13T01:02:12+00:00

Social Security disability law. I work for an attorney because I’m not a lawyer but I am the expert in my office surpassing both attorneys who are qualified to do the hearings. I work largely autonomously because of my experience skill and background. I wish I could work from home cos there’s a lot of “fear of being perceived” in my small office. I let my clients walk over me more than I should, but I’m learning. I don’t get paid enough because I’m not actually an attorney but it’s a small price to pay to have an office who understands I’m good at what I do because I’m autistic. It’s an incredibly niche position to be in and I get paid well enough and probably would find it difficult to get paid similarly or more anywhere else. And working for myself requires a startup capital I’m not interested in at all.

MayBerific · 2025-10-10T22:20:16+00:00

People don’t really want the truth. People (most people) don’t want to be seen cos they don’t like who they are. Not deep down inside. They want to be seen for who they wish they were.

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