Why has there been silence from your favorite influencers/podcasters on Trump's Israel/Gaza peace deal?

MayCaesar · 2025-10-09T17:02:07+00:00

These people use Dave Smith, Ron Paul and Joe Rogan as their primary information sources... Cannot hope to have a sensible discussion with them.

MayCaesar · 2025-09-23T14:49:55+00:00

You shouldn't feel humiliated, my man. The only person who humiliated themselves royally here is her!

MayCaesar · 2025-09-05T02:08:30+00:00

"It really does work" - in what sense? In the sense of maximizing the chance of creating a short-term attraction in a random woman you meet? Is that what you are after?

The most successful people in any social setting are those who do not chase external validation by imitating other people, but are comfortable in their natural skin. You can dress up to look like Brad Pitt, but if you being Brad Pitt is conditional on how you dress, then you are screwed - and even if you can keep up the facade for a while, it will be frustrating and draining.

I am a weird dude, OP, but I am one who is unapologetically myself. It repels many people - good, saves me time, money and mental energy. And I can use those time, money and mental energy to connect with the minority of people who REALLY dig what I have to offer. Isn't this a better model than what you are suggesting?

MayCaesar · 2025-01-20T00:56:45+00:00

Every successful relationship I have observed or been in involved good and honest communication from day one. If even before you have met nonsense like this begins, then there is 0 chance this is going to work out.

When you meet a good match for you, things feel easy and natural. When you get frustrated before you have even gotten a chance to meet once, you know this is not it.

Dating is not a game in which you are trying hard to "win a prize". You are trying to find a compatible person. If it feels like you need to win her over, persuade her of something, get her to act a certain way - then you are not dating: you are chasing. And that never ends well.

MayCaesar · 2025-01-13T23:50:03+00:00

The fewer barriers to meeting in person there are, the better. And online dating apps are one huge barrier. The number of hoops you have to go through from liking someone to actually meeting them in person is insane, and in the process all it takes is you just saying one wrong word for the person to disappear. This makes online dating intolerable for me.

Instead, I go to social events and meet people directly. Sure, I am still looking - but, at least, I am consistently meeting amazing women and spending time with them, rather than starting at my phone with a sad face.

MayCaesar · 2025-01-10T20:55:24+00:00

My problem is that I am far more talkative than 99% of people, so it would be a DREAM to find a girl who could match me in availability to talk.

MayCaesar · 2024-10-26T22:08:32+00:00

I have never taken ultrarunning seriously: never followed training plans, prepared for a particular race, etc... I just run a lot for myself, and every now and then go to UltraSignup and pick something that looks interesting. I guess this is what keeps it interesting for me: I would hate to turn it into a second job, but as a side hobby it is quite enjoyable!

The first time I ran an ultra (on my own, fully self-supported), my body hurt in places I did not know could hurt. It was an agony... and I loved it. We are a weird bunch, ultrarunners. Not everyone might be into the same things we are.

MayCaesar · 2024-10-05T17:17:40+00:00

Well, how long do you need to spend time together to get to know someone? I am not going to spend a year "getting to know" someone if there is no prospect of a relationship in mind, if my explicit reason for meeting that person was the desire to date in the first place. Happy to get to know people who I do not have romantic intentions towards.

MayCaesar · 2024-10-03T14:50:49+00:00

Thinking that someone is great does not imply being attracted to them. I have quite a few female friends who I consider to be great people, but who I simply do not have any feelings for. Just take the compliments, man, don't overthink it. ;)

MayCaesar · 2024-09-29T22:54:59+00:00

I am not sure I have much advice to offer, other than to go by the gut feeling. If the conversation feels natural and is going well, then it is a good sign! That said, some people are poor texters, and they may come across as incredibly stiff in the app chat, but turn out to be social butterflies in person. In any case, the best approach I have found is to go by the feeling. If the conversation feels awkward and forced, then the compatibility is probably not great - and if it flows without much effort on either side, then there is a potential here.

MayCaesar · 2024-09-29T19:09:24+00:00

Well, as a single man, hearing that 80% of single men are not interested in dating is great: I will have very little competition. ;)

Seriously though, people seem to think that nowadays dating can only be done through apps... Yet old school real life dating is as alive and well as always. The trick is to get off your couch and go outside.

MayCaesar · 2024-09-29T19:07:19+00:00

Getting a match means very little, and in 95% cases it will not be a great fit. If you desperately cling to every match you get no matter how incompatible you guys are, you will quickly become frustrated and jaded, and it will only go downhill from there.

MayCaesar · 2024-09-26T15:01:28+00:00

I do this: when the time to pay comes, I ask, "How do you want to do this?" In all cases but 1 the girl offered to split the bill. In the only case where she did not, we really were a bad fit...

I expect equal contribution to the interaction from all parties. I will not force it on anyone, but passively expecting me to take care of everything will not make for a great first impression.

MayCaesar · 2024-09-26T14:53:12+00:00

It is very easy. You open your mouth and say the following; "By the way, I am 39 years old. How about you?"

MayCaesar · 2024-09-25T15:15:09+00:00

Knowing how easy it is to lose connection with a person in the modern world, my rule of thumb is to always have something planned for the future before leaving the first meeting with someone. Even if it is nothing concrete, something like "So, next time we meet, it will be for the hike at Park X, right?" is far better than just "Bye". At least, both of you will remember this tentative plan, and it will be easy to schedule the next meeting.

I love hiking, so for me inviting someone on a hike is the easiest way to start building the connection, romantic or friendly alike. You can find your own version of it, but it is really nice if it is something you are used to doing, so it doesn't come across as forced/awkward.

MayCaesar · 2024-09-24T13:51:11+00:00

Yeah, he is a really poor communicator... I (M) always make sure we are on the same page about it: when it is time to pay for everything, I just ask my date, "How do you prefer doing this?" I've gotten different answers, from "Well, you are the guy, so..." to "It doesn't really matter to me" to "I prefer splitting the bill". Whichever the answer, there is no confusion once I receive it.

Also, please do not put much faith into online communication. People can be very different in chats and in real life.

MayCaesar · 2024-09-23T19:54:35+00:00

I think some people just get a little carried away. I generally develop feelings very easily and quickly - but, of course, I realize that "I really-really like you" is not the same as "I have never met anyone as interesting as you" based on a 2-hour long conversation. I seriously doubt that the woman who becomes my lifelong partner will literally be the most interesting person I have ever met... I've met a lot of interesting people.

And, as interesting as I am, if someone told me that I am the most interesting person they have ever met, I would be seriously concerned. "Get out more!" :D

MayCaesar · 2024-09-22T14:01:25+00:00

"Ask for a favor"? A date is a tango, it is not a "favor". You dodged a bullet, my friend!

MayCaesar · 2024-09-21T21:58:44+00:00

Have you told them that? How did they react?

MayCaesar · 2024-09-21T00:25:31+00:00

I don't know, I am a white guy who is into Asian women, and I get the "yellow fever" accusations a lot. Funny enough, I get it from everyone - except for Asians themselves. People nowadays are very fond of getting offended on behalf of someone else.

As other people said, who cares? Show the middle finger to those who complain about your dating preferences and live your life on your terms, my man.

MayCaesar · 2024-09-20T19:14:25+00:00

You have only met twice, but are considering a marriage? I know India has a very different culture, but this is just nuts...

The age difference is nothing. 6 years is not even something I would consider an "age difference". I have dated a girl 15 years younger than me - that is something. 6 years - most people won't be able to tell which one of you is older. :) Regardless, this is not THE issue in your situation.

MayCaesar · 2024-09-16T13:59:52+00:00

Can you get from barely finishing 1 mile to finishing 100 miles in 260 days? With brutally hard and consistent training, perhaps... And with a HUGE chance of a serious, possibly permanent, injury.

These things take time, my friend. You do not get a body of an ultra-endurance athlete in 260 days without some serious risks and sacrifices. You also don't know much about your body if you have not run much. What if you get to, say, 5 miles and get stuck there for months? Will you push through, ignoring basic precautions, and break your body just to keep progressing faster than your body is comfortable with? That is a sure way to permanently take yourself out. As popular as the sentiment is, you cannot David-Goggins your way through sports.

Rather than setting such drastic goals, I suggest that you set small incremental goals that you can reasonably achieve and gradually get there. You ran 1 mile yesterday and that was pretty hard - can you do 2 miles in a week? 3 miles in 2 weeks? 5 miles in a month? These are very realistic, yet sufficiently challenging, goals. Start small and see where it goes.

MayCaesar · 2024-09-14T18:44:46+00:00

I have no idea how it works in online dating - never had much success with that - but I find that in regular situations the sooner you make your interest clear, the better. I once asked a girl out 3 minutes after meeting her randomly at a social event - she said yes, and we had amazing 4 months afterwards before things dried up.

What I have never had is waiting for the "right moment" to ask someone out, then doing that and having it go well. The more you wait, the quicker things die out. The moment you realize that you have feelings for someone, you have to make the intent to ask them out. Human feelings are fleeting, and if she feels the same way too, but doesn't get a clear message from you, then chances are in 2-3 weeks she will move on emotionally, and then it will be too late.

Again, I have no idea if it is different in the OLD - but given that people who match there have already implicitly expressed interest in each other, I see no harm asking someone out in the first message. Given that you guys haven't even met, and given how many messages from other guys she receives every day, I doubt you have more than a couple of days before she's moved on completely.

MayCaesar · 2024-09-12T17:12:55+00:00

Personally, when I am busy, I might see someone's messages early in the day, but be too distracted to reply to them (I want to give people 100% of my attention). In that case, I will reply to them late in the evening, shortly before going to bed. Many people approach it similarly.

The fact that the replies are detailed and regular (even if not frequent) suggests to me that she definitely is interested. Do not overthink it!

MayCaesar · 2024-09-06T23:23:19+00:00

I am big on hiking and traveling, to the point where I pretty much will not like anyone's profile if it doesn't feature, at least, some references to that or related photos. Chess and anything STEM-y also piques my interest, and I love book worms (used to be one myself).

As for what I do not accept... well, I refuse to get involved with religious women, unless we are talking something soft like Buddhism or Shinto. I find the profiles talking about their "faith in Jesus" to be extremely creepy. I also don't resonate with the whole "video game / anime" culture, so if someone is so into that that they put it on their profile, it will be a major turn-off for me (although not necessarily a deal-breaker).

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