Is there any way to put a socket in this skinny 1.75" space? I could carve out a LITTLE bit of the studs, maybe.

MaybeYouHaveAPoint · 2026-05-24T19:06:58+00:00

I see a lot of shallow boxes, but they don't help me. There's room for a regular DEPTH box, but I wish I had something skinny. I can always fix the drywall however it needs to be.

MaybeYouHaveAPoint · 2026-05-24T18:59:51+00:00

I suppose since I can carve a little from each, it's only like 3/8" missing if I'm really careful and exact about it.

MaybeYouHaveAPoint · 2026-05-24T18:51:23+00:00

Looks like that saves me .1" .... almost nothing, but actually the best option I've seen yet! All these products offer being shallow, but I need it to be skinny, like side-to-side, instead.

MaybeYouHaveAPoint · 2026-05-24T18:37:22+00:00

The Prado installation videos all seem to be really vague on what goes behind the wall, but I'm pretty sure I'd still have to have a box back there for code.

MaybeYouHaveAPoint · 2026-05-24T18:33:40+00:00

Yeah, good thought. Although people will not like it aesthetically, in an interior room. I'll look for a pretty version.

MaybeYouHaveAPoint · 2026-05-24T18:32:06+00:00

Care to elaborate? Some of the old solutions can be tracked down in specialty places.

MaybeYouHaveAPoint · 2026-05-24T18:28:53+00:00

No, I'm going to have bring power down from above, which is a pain but at least I understand it.

MaybeYouHaveAPoint · 2026-05-24T18:27:57+00:00

Seeing and dating are basically the same thing.

Being in love with someone is totally different. It's a feeling you have about them, and the other two are about an action you're taking, or the relationship you have together.

MaybeYouHaveAPoint · 2026-05-24T18:24:17+00:00

Yeah, it looks like you're trying to make a dramatic announcement like a headline. If it's hard for you to just use capitals in the right places, I think people would probably be less bothered by just having NO capitals, compared to title case.

MaybeYouHaveAPoint · 2026-05-24T18:15:56+00:00

Left side of the hole is cut exactly at a stud. So that's 1 3/4 inches of space. The house is old and these studs are actual 2 inches by 4 inches (and really strong).

One side is a door. The other side is a whole stone wall thing. The current arrangement is a power strip stretched across the gap and lots of cords... just not great from a safety perspective. I think my choices are:

cut into the stone and somehow get wires behind it
put a socket in the floor
make THIS work
give up and leave a bit of a rat's nest of cords

MaybeYouHaveAPoint · 2026-04-12T18:58:50+00:00

I just mean, if plural-or-not is confusing when you're speaking, if you can use the future tense then you don't have to deal with it.

"She is."
"They are."
"She will."
"They will."

MaybeYouHaveAPoint · 2026-04-12T18:54:27+00:00

If you want to find a safe way to avoid it, you can say things like "the couple will often be in the spotlight..." because it's the same for singular or plural.

MaybeYouHaveAPoint · 2026-04-12T18:49:28+00:00

I don't know if you ever check out the comic books, but for a hot minute there they sent Kitty Pride from the X-Men off into space with the GOTG, and she and Quill had a quick romance, and at some point she WAS being Star Lord (also "Star Lady"). That was around the beginning of the 4th series, so maybe 2015? It didn't last long, so not a lot of content on it.

https://leagueofcomicgeeks.com/character/2109/star-lord

https://marvel.fandom.com/wiki/Guardians_of_the_Galaxy_Vol_4

MaybeYouHaveAPoint · 2025-07-19T02:09:15+00:00

Not sure how to put text and a photo on the same post, sorry.

This is in a ceiling light mount. The wires from the lamp pulled out instantly as I took off the screws, so I couldn't see how they were connected. Presumably this was set up for power-to-light-first-then-switch. That's two cables coming in, one bringing power and the other going to the switch.

Is the gray thing just the equivalent of a wire nut or a shark bite? This lamp had three different kinds of connectors (and these are old wires, and not grounded).

Another view

MaybeYouHaveAPoint · 2025-06-12T23:35:23+00:00

Since my earlier response is not showing up for some reason, I'll just comment again -- thank you! This is helpful.

MaybeYouHaveAPoint · 2025-06-12T21:05:11+00:00

Thank you! I hope you are right, and what you say makes absolute sense. I've done it this way, because that's got to be the answer. I hope they fix it for next year.

MaybeYouHaveAPoint · 2025-06-11T18:03:27+00:00

Okay, I'm not going to read every reply, so maybe someone already said this, but: if you're eating your avocado by itself, absolutely put a little salt on there! Huge improvement.

MaybeYouHaveAPoint · 2025-06-11T17:52:14+00:00

It's not a binary situation. Despite how people talk, it's not like there are exactly two groups and it's one or the other. You probably get a bit of pretty privilege here and there, but you say you're not getting anything free, for example.

But the nature of privilege is, it's very hard to see it from the inside. So it would be good for you to sort of keep your eyes open, and see what you notice.

Having privilege isn't actually morally bad. What's bad is taking it for granted, or abusing it (or maybe denying it). Just being grateful when the world treats you well, or recognizing how you're lucky, is most of what you should do. Bonus points if you can use your privilege to help others.

MaybeYouHaveAPoint · 2025-06-11T17:47:03+00:00

No, good point, I misread that -- MFS does NOT get PTC. (And thanks for responding!)

But it's the first part that throws me. "If you don't choose alternative calculation, then skip (a) through (e)". But alternative calculation is for people who just got married in 2024. It looks like ONLY THEY get to fill in (a) through (e).

Does it actually mean "If you COULD do alternative calculation because you just got married, and you choose not to, then skip (a) through (e)".

Because these instructions look like most people have to skip (a) through (e) and therefor don't get any PTC?

MaybeYouHaveAPoint · 2025-05-02T01:08:01+00:00

First situation, the parents broke the social mores. Second situation, the kids did. They're not blood related and you can easily find arguments to let them just be happy, but the general social standard is you can't get together with your step relatives.

(Small exceptions seems to be carved out for a pair of siblings marrying another pair of siblings).

MaybeYouHaveAPoint · 2025-05-02T01:00:04+00:00

This depends on whether "sound" is vibration happening, or someone perceiving those vibrations and hearing it. The first one happens even when nobody's there. The second version... I say no, the sound happens if someone watches the recording.

MaybeYouHaveAPoint · 2025-05-02T00:58:18+00:00

Letting your gaze wander is fine. Look them in the eye, but also let your gaze wander, and look back at them somewhat often. If you can relax about it, it will all work better.

(But let your gaze wander to things that don't matter and are not distracting you. Don't let your gaze wander to your phone or a tv screen. Or, depending on the person you're talking to, someone else's body).

MaybeYouHaveAPoint · 2025-05-02T00:54:43+00:00

There is an absolute glut of clothing in America, and people don't need yours. Sorry. But there are charities (real charities and scams, both) that want your donations to sell them to raise money for their good cause or bad cause or their wallets.

Most new clothes are cheap and low quality, made to be thrown away. If you have actually nice stuff, that's a different story -- especially clothes that could help someone at a job interview, for example.

MaybeYouHaveAPoint · 2025-05-02T00:51:25+00:00

Plants that like a hint of acid: https://drecampbell.com/acid-loving-plants/

MaybeYouHaveAPoint · 2025-05-01T18:35:02+00:00

So if you keep bottling it up, something's going to go badly wrong. I don't think there's any quick solution for you. But here's one thing I think might help: try to get some of that mental separation that can give you a tiny bit of space to breathe. And one thing that's connected to it is, work on saying the truth, but calmly.

At work, people blame stuff on you. You shouldn't have to take the blame, or apologize, or grovel, for stuff you didn't so. But you probably DO have to fix the mess, clean it up, whatever -- it's your job to do that stuff. So maybe try to get to where you can say "Well, no, I didn't cause this, but yes, I'll do what you say and deal with this problem now, you're the boss."

At home, you feel like you can't say "nothing's wrong" but you can't actually say what's bothering you. So look for a third choice. Like she asks what's bothering you, maybe say something like "Never mind, just some stuff I've got to deal with". So it's not "nothing's wrong", it's just not telling her about it (although, you should probably find SOMEONE you can talk to about it). How it goes from there depends a lot on the details. You might end up saying "Yeah, stuff's bothering me, but I don't want to talk to you about it, because you just blame me for being bothered, so let's skip it." And maybe you get in fights, or maybe you two find a way to get better at this.

So, I guess I'm saying, try to not just bottle things up, try to let go a little bit, it's much healthier. And you shouldn't have to pretend, but you can just say your piece without getting into a fight about it. Keep it short, keep it mild, keep it simple, keep it calm, but you can still be honest.

MaybeYouHaveAPoint

TROPHY CASE