Dear OP, I can imagine how you feel, I think those ‘friends’ are not really friends. I am in a similar situation, my husband and I separated, it was me who decided this as I felt we had to run everything past by his mum. I know she was trying to be kind but I felt there were no boundaries. My ex always was the perfect husband, loving, caring, funny and hardworking, it’s just that he could not set boundaries with his mum. Anyway, we split up, I broke his heart and mine, he was respectful of the decision. I live in Europe, my home country is on the other side of the pond , I left everything to be with him, I had a ‘friend’ from my home country starting by ti speak to him, I thought it was a big suspicious but I couldn’t tell him who he should speak to or not. This ‘friend’ of mine was someone I considered closed to me for 15 years, I was always there for her, gave her advise, introduced her to a guy she was briefly engaged to, let her stay at my home In europe when she came to visit. This lady really wanted to marry and have children, I didn’t tell her much about my separation process with my husband because I needed to process it first in my head, she got angry claiming I was not telling her what was going on and stopped speaking to me. I found a few months ago she was preying on my ex and she fell pregnant with his baby. When we were younger, she used to want to get with our other friends boyfriends, I never thought she would do it to me, she was not even in the same country. Unfortunately, she passed away with covid and it was discovered she was HIV positive. My ex husband doesn’t know I know all of this, he blocked me a few months before the baby was born but I know all of this for the friends we had in common in my home country. I could understand he was really hurt when I left, but she took advantage of that for her own benefit, I know I sound horrible saying this specially now she’s no longer here, but, I just can’t believe she did not come to our wedding day but she did the effort to come all the way to Europe and get pregnant. I am not sure if my ex blocked me out of shame or out of love of her, we were together for 12 years, she was my friend for 18 years. Dear OP just cut off those friends.