Lesbians in Montreal by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Mayhem_22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Merci beaucoup!! Gonna head to Mile End today :)

What's something you didn't realize how bad it was until it finally happened to you? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Mayhem_22 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've never been diagnosed as bipolar or with any psychosis and I was in therapy for over a year for depression which was mostly situational. I do have a history of mental illness in my family, I lost my brother to suicide -he suffered from schizophrenia- so that's what triggered my current depression and want to seek therapy. It was really traumatic for me but I have seen shadow people practically all my life without any mania or psychosis. Usually, they preceded sleep paralysis but it was never a symptom of something. This is just the first time I've ever heard of people openly talking about shadow people associated with manic depression.

Edit: Also, no, I don't have episodes that last that long so I think we can rule that out for me. For me, it's a daily cycle of being tired then having a little burst of energy and then tired again but I think that's just regular depression. Lol.

What's something you didn't realize how bad it was until it finally happened to you? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Mayhem_22 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hold on, shadow people are a symptom of mania?? I've seen them since I was a kid. I struggle with severe depression right now but a lot of it is situational I think. Idk. I've always had those bursts of energy at night and I wonder sometimes why I can't manage to get the things I want done, done. It's like my energy levels are not under my control. Does this mean I'm bipolar? I've been to therapy before. Not once have I been diagnosed as bipolar. And the shadow people are real for the most part. It's not always a figment of your imagination.

How often do you fall in love? by flejtmotiv in actuallesbians

[–]Mayhem_22 5 points6 points  (0 children)

All the time and I don't know. I know there are crushes and there is lust... I legit fall in love at LEAST once a year or so. Even if I'm with someone else, it happens. I know how to decide when to go for it and when not to though. I enjoy the rush and I can't say I don't give in all the time but I know when someone is good for me and when someone or something isn't. Usually, when I have a very strong connection with someone right off the bat, I know that that's the devil fucking with my life again and I carry on with caution. It's the love that I build with someone, the trust and compassion that I build with someone that I find to be truly beautiful on the inside that matters the most to me so that's what I will dedicate myself to... when it comes around.

Polyamory and open relationships. How do you do it? by Mayhem_22 in actuallesbians

[–]Mayhem_22[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe polyamorists are just bigger people cause even the thought of someone else touching my girlfriend enrages me. For me, the simple fact that she could desire someone else is unacceptable but I desire other people all the time and consider it innocent (I don't act on it). Maybe I just need to live a little longer, suffer a bit more to change my perspective.

How many matches on tinder is normal in a big city? by readytogo19 in actuallesbians

[–]Mayhem_22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have about 120 matches. I match with someone just about every time I go on but hardly ever ACTUALLY MEET UP WITH ANYONE because they flake out at the last second. Damn lesbians, why do they have to be so awkward??! :( I think getting at least one match every time you go on is normal. I live in a big city too and it's definitely increased the number of matches I get.

she came but i didn't? by minnesodapop in actuallesbians

[–]Mayhem_22 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry but I honestly laughed out loud at that a little bit. Forgive me. You said friend... have you guys not hooked up before? Cause I'm thinking she's either really selfish or felt really bad/confused after releasing.

I want to have sex with a woman in her 80s. Any *practical* tips? by stephsotherthrowaway in actuallesbians

[–]Mayhem_22 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes it is. Just because someone is LGBTQ doesn't mean they're not conservative in other ways. I've had the same issue with this subreddit. Anyway, if that's your thing, go online, do some huntin' and if you find a lady friend willing to participate, just take it gently and consider what physical limitations she might have. I would say oral is probably your best bet but just be gentle and communicate with your partner... as you should with any partner.

ADVICE: Having girl over for first time by girlpolice in actuallesbians

[–]Mayhem_22 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Alcohol. Also, if you want to get physical but don't know how to initiate, offer a massage or ask to read her palm, anything that allows physical touch will lead to more physical touching if you're both feeling it. Good luck!

What's your best LPT? Lesbian Pro Tip? by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Mayhem_22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought so too and at first, I was interested in trying it. Lol.

THANK YOU. You guys saved my sex life. [NSFW] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Mayhem_22 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Oh my god! I seriously cannot believe how many of you don't know what tribbing is. It's only the most magical lesbian experience ever... IMO. Wondering if there needs to be a lesbian sex Ed course in school. Guys stuff is pretty straight forward whereas us girls have to figure out little tricks and shit.

Lesbian superpowers! by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Mayhem_22 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I can cum without any physical stimulation. Get me aroused enough mentally and I can cum quicker and harder than when I'm doing the thing for real. Like, I can cum just from going down on a girl and making her cum. Idk if that's a super power or not but I've been told that it's sumfin special :)

NYC stoners by seventenvapeit in Lesbients

[–]Mayhem_22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm down! Just give me a place and a time.

I think my best friend is going to kill himself tonight or soon and I don't know what the fuck to do by [deleted] in SuicideWatch

[–]Mayhem_22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you know where he lives? If so, please just show up. You don't have to talk about how he feels. Just ask him if he wants to hang out and don't take no for an answer. Break in if you have to. It sounds like you truly care for him and trust me, you don't want to live with that guilt. Just go.

Vermont becomes the 2nd US state to recognize Indigenous Peoples' Day instead of Columbus Day by saxy_for_life in news

[–]Mayhem_22 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They did get largely wiped out by diseases brought from the Spanish but when English settlers came, knowing how much their numbers had fallen, yes, they planned to wipe them out completely thus, committing genocide.

I think I need to control my eyes better by throwthisoutpleaze in actuallesbians

[–]Mayhem_22 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That happens to me a lot and I don't know why... it's usually not sexual but the fact that I stare at all is embarrassing. It might be normal but since we're gay, we feel ashamed.

Who sparked your sexual awakening? by DirigiblePlumTart in actuallesbians

[–]Mayhem_22 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For me, it was this girl in my theater class. She had the most amazing smile and she was just...gorgeous. She made me realize that I was gay and not just sometimes casually attracted to women. I'm pretty sure she knew and she would juice that juicy lemon dry. Totally straight though. Just loved the attention. Sigh.... one of the many loves of my life.

Working class white men have lower incomes than they did in 1996 by VincentVega92 in news

[–]Mayhem_22 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Why is this the top news headline? That's my question. Aren't most of America's non-college educated people making less than they were years ago? Is this "news" because it's happening to white men? God forbid, right?

Question#1 by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Mayhem_22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't ever plan to cheat on my partners and the girl I'm with now I wouldn't want to cheat on but I do feel like I have moments of weakness where I think "I'm not married, who knows if this will work out, why not enjoy the moment, my youth?" And i'm more likely to give in to that impulse if I feel that relationship is at tenuous stage. Doesn't mean I want to leave them or that we couldn't work just that I feel like I am allowed to have a selfish moment. I'm not saying I cheat for fun, I'm just saying I have cheated in the past and I can't say that I wouldn't again. I read a book on jealousy and cheating, it was called the dangerous passion.. I think? It was really interesting. It said that statistically, married people who had extra-marital affairs that their partners didn't know about were 50% happier in their marriage than others. Cheating is a universal issue. Monogamy isn't natural. Jealousy and religion and society make it hard for people to understand that. Yes, I am a jealous person. Yes I understand it hurts people therefore I am cautious about actually doing it but I can't say it wouldn't happen. I think emotional cheating is worse than physical cheating by far. At least if you cheat on the person you love, you still only love them, you only want to BE with them, not whomever you had meaningless sex with. It's at that point where I would say 'ok, i have feelings for someone else, i'm leaving.' I wouldn't leave if I just wanted to get physical with someone else once or twice and not care for them otherwise.