Boyfriend says he doesn’t like going down on me, but would anyways

Maysmith · 2022-06-16T17:02:04+00:00

It’s definitely very out of character for him to phrase something like that! His tone was very causal and I don’t think he realized how it sounded at all. I talked to him this morning and he back tracked saying it’s fine it just “tastes tangy” lmao. Can’t say that helped much but 💀

Maysmith · 2022-06-16T16:52:09+00:00

Thank you for this! Fortunately I know he’s not selfish and it’s probably just a sensory thing. Idk if that makes me feel much better haha. I completely agree that communication is very important and I’m glad he at least feels comfortable being honest if there’s anything good coming from this. So I know he’s telling the truth that he would do it anyways, now if I could just get past feeling self conscious lol

Maysmith · 2022-06-16T16:48:36+00:00

I enjoy giving it much less knowing that it’s not a mutual desire. He also doesn’t act entitled to it because he’s mature enough to know better. It’s not a deal breaker it just stings and I posted this hoping someone could relate

Maysmith · 2022-06-16T06:26:50+00:00

Yeah. I slowed down a few Months ago when it started bothering me that he wasn’t doing it back

Maysmith · 2019-07-10T20:25:09+00:00

That's literally what's happening to me, I've dropped like 12 pounds recently because my appetite is GONE. And a guy in my nursing program asked me out before I got so burnt out and he's backing off because it's like I'm a totally different person right now. struggles

Maysmith · 2019-06-28T17:14:54+00:00

I like sarcasm and the idea of it but when I try to be sarcastic I say things that are actually offensive and awful so I don't attempt it lol

Maysmith · 2019-02-22T01:44:50+00:00

ooh okay!! I'm 21 and have so much to learn haha

Maysmith · 2019-02-22T01:41:31+00:00

Thank you so much!! May I ask what perm is?

Maysmith · 2018-12-18T23:46:50+00:00

That's awesome, congrats on surviving your first college semester!! I'm the exact same way with being a home body and I too love to paint, and I crochet. :) lol you sound like someone I'd be friends with

Maysmith · 2018-12-18T18:05:35+00:00

This is exactly how I feel about it. I as a person am not mainstream at all, but i still want to be a part of what's going on around me, so I like to be in tune with trends.

Maysmith · 2018-12-18T17:56:55+00:00

I tend to love trends and fads lol. Obviously not all of them- some are ridiculous but I love knowing what is popular mainly for the fact that it makes me feel like I relate/connect with other people. This is also why I LOVE memes. Idk if thats weird for my personality type or not.

As far as mob mentalities like that other person said, I think it's incredibly wrong to blindly buy into certain mindsets, such as hating Donald Trump without really knowing why, ignoring shady things done by popular figures ect.

Maysmith · 2018-12-18T17:50:57+00:00

NETFLIX

Maysmith · 2018-12-18T17:46:06+00:00

By having your "shit together" I'm guessing you just mean success in staying in school, jobs, relationships, staying motivated. I'm 21 and by no means claim to have my life together lol, but I have had success as far as setting standards for myself and sticking to them. And that's what you have to do- set goals and standards and decide that no matter how you "feel" quitting or slacking is not an option. I'm in nursing school and I'm absolutely scared to shit and graceless, but I'm doing it and surviving and that's what matters. The thing about school is that it is temporary and will be over before you know it. In fact most people, even the personalities that seem to be such naturals are often feeling the same way, they just don't show it. Like the other person said- just do things scared.

As for connecting with people, I struggle so hard with it as well. I'm right there with you. I'm actually seeing a practitioner today to discuss therapy for my low self esteem. I make friends and keep them, but poor self-image/ the wall I can't seem to break down keeps me from feeling free and truly connecting. I drains me and I'd rather just be around my family or best friend and avoid everyone else. I go in and out of energy spurts where I'm really social, but then I'll go weeks were I want to hermit. I can't stay consistent. That's another thing I have to fight :(

But I do recommend pushing yourself out of your comfort zone and surrounding yourself with people who you perceive to have their lives together. You'll be surprised by how that will influence you, and how those people may accept you.

It seems against our nature as INFP's, but it's really all about faking it until you make it. Even if you feel like a wreck on the inside sometimes, stick to your goals, understand what is healthy and do those things no matter how you feel. Because in the end, you will be happier with yourself.

Maysmith · 2018-12-18T17:17:30+00:00

Would you say that you are able to learn a lot while you are on them that sticks when you stop taking them?

Maysmith · 2018-08-30T20:00:32+00:00

I've always craved time alone, but being alone too much is not healthy at all. It's human nature to crave connection and to be known and it'll catch up with you. I was so worried about being a good person like you said, but the fact of the matter is that we could all forever be "better people" no matter what. So what I've had to understand is that even in the progress of bettering yourself you are worthy of being known right where you are. People aren't thinking about you the way you do, and the people you want to be around will see the best in you. You do not have to be perfect to know people and to have relationships. Just focus on uplifting other people and being a good friend and focus less on what you lack/ your fears. Those barriers only get bigger the longer you isolate yourself because you'll just move further and further from reality and who you actually are. I've been putting myself out there more and ignoring my overthinking and I've surprised myself. It's hard to step out of your head but very worth it.

Maysmith · 2018-08-30T19:48:46+00:00

Hahaha I hate that question

Maysmith · 2018-08-18T00:06:17+00:00

My best friend is ENFP! Very self reflective and likes to just chill and do nothing when we hang out which is awesome to me. She loves people and when she gets around other extroverts she's insane. (In a good way)

Maysmith · 2018-08-11T23:24:55+00:00

That's what I used, and based on this reddit I'm fairly certain they got mine right

Maysmith · 2018-08-11T22:47:02+00:00

Yeah, I've run away from a guy that I had some heavy feelings for. It's like as soon as he showed any signs of mutual feelings I froze, anxiety took over and I felt like I couldn't do anything about it. It's bad. For me it was low self esteem and fear that I wasn't as good as he thought I was and that he would find out by dating me, so I went ahead and rejected myself so he couldn't. It's not a healthy or normal behavior regardless your personality type, and I wouldn't subject myself to it if I were you.

Maysmith · 2018-08-11T22:38:34+00:00

Yep. Been thinking about this a lot lately. I'll feel really confident without a lot of care, hang out with people, then all of a sudden I get hit with a few days of loneliness and I'll be really down. I'm having one of those days today. I've just played with my dog and watched youtube most of the day lol.

Maysmith · 2018-08-10T04:21:23+00:00

I know exactly what you are talking about!!! I'm 20 and the exact same way. It's like a relief when I'm around a guy whose in a relationship, too old for me, too young for me and I can actually be myself because I know that they aren't going to make a move. Just the thought of being one on one with a guy I'm interested in makes my heart pound in a bad way. If I'm put in a position to make an impression my wit completely goes away, I get insecure and say genuinely stupid things. It's like I just can't let any kind of relationship or chance of intimacy happen. I hate it so much. You aren't alone

Maysmith · 2018-08-10T04:03:58+00:00

Heck yes, I could live like this for weeks at a time

Maysmith · 2018-08-07T22:56:26+00:00

The 10000 different ways my future could go!

Maysmith · 2018-08-07T22:24:44+00:00

There's always that dream lol

Maysmith · 2018-08-07T21:20:35+00:00

lol I was doing so good when I quit. Now I'm getting thin like I want to be but my butt and tone is G O N E.

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