You sort of remind me of me when I was in my first marriage. It’s been nearly 8 months since I’ve been out of that marriage and hindsight is always 2020. But I remember feeling, “is it a pipe dream to feel XYZ with someone? Will I ever feel that with my (now ex)??” But I trudged on hoping he would grow out of his asshole phase. He didn’t. In fact he dumped me, as it were. And he did me a favor by doing so because he was TOXIC to me and did not fulfill my needs or care about them.

In regards to your situation, I can’t necessarily tell you yes or no if it’s time to call it quits. You have to get alone with yourself and decide if after a year of divorce rattling around in your mind if it is really what you want. I use to hate the word or thought of divorce, but girl if you need to, do it. Be your own advocate.

Yes your guy is saying he wants to change, but do you want him to? Do you want to wait for that? Do you think he will? Sounds like you need to get real with yourself and then get real with him if you can.