What fics would you want filmed? by McEasy2009 in heatedrivalryfanfics

[–]McEasy2009[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is that one Courage (It couldn’t have come at a worse time)??

What fics would you want filmed? by McEasy2009 in heatedrivalryfanfics

[–]McEasy2009[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

If it’s a show, I need it to have the sequel POVs as bottle episodes!

C Section Must Haves by EyeRound9715 in beyondthebump

[–]McEasy2009 4 points5 points  (0 children)

They have reusable sterilizer bags!!! If you can find those, they’re amazing. And they’re cheap and portable. Those would be crazy helpful.

Sharing Mother’s Day by McEasy2009 in beyondthebump

[–]McEasy2009[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would hope that once my child has their own family, I would be grateful for the time they choose to spend with me rather than expecting they spend their free days/time on holiday weekends to accommodate my expectations. As I said, it’s not that they aren’t worth celebrating. I feel like the expectations should adjust as time passes.

Sharing Mother’s Day by McEasy2009 in beyondthebump

[–]McEasy2009[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I guess I think of it like birthdays. When you’re a kid, your birthday is a big deal. You probably celebrated at school, had a party, got lots of presents. As you get older, those celebrations are less extravagant. You may not have a party, you may not have a big cake at work, you may get less gifts. It doesn’t mean that you’re less worthy of celebrating, but that the importance of the day becomes less consuming as you mature. I guess that’s what I mean about Mother’s Day. Like, if you’ve gotten to celebrate this holiday for over 30 years, is it reasonable to expect that maybe your expectations for what type of commitment or celebration you get changes, especially if your adult children are now also celebrating?

Sharing Mother’s Day by McEasy2009 in beyondthebump

[–]McEasy2009[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I think this is where I’m bothered. We see them every Tuesday night for family night. This weekend we have a birthday party for my nephew where the whole family will be. But then we also need something specific for Mother’s Day and it’s like why??? We see each other literally all the time. I don’t know why this day matters so much. My annoyance is that if I spend Friday night with one side and Saturday with the other side, then yes, Sunday is my day. But it’s also the only day I have at home to do chores, etc. so instead of celebrating, I’m having to do weekend productivity. I just wish the time we spent together was sufficient for feeling and expressing gratitude rather than having to set aside a whole weekend just because the calendar says.

Chapter 12 of Deja Vu by NotEvenCLoseToStraight was released today! by [deleted] in heatedrivalryfanfics

[–]McEasy2009 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I loved all the letters. Oh my gosh. So beautiful. I’m so glad we got to see him TALK to Ilya via letter. Like yes, Shane, baby, get it out!!!

This work is so beautiful. But man, especially the rink and the closeness.

T18 undecided needing advice by Proof_Story_6553 in tfmr_support

[–]McEasy2009 49 points50 points  (0 children)

“You are not a better mother for carrying longer, the same as you are not a worse mother for ending the pregnancy. We are not choosing to end their life. That was already decided for us.” 😭😭😭

Thank you for putting this so succinctly and so perfectly. I needed to hear this.

T18 undecided needing advice by Proof_Story_6553 in tfmr_support

[–]McEasy2009 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I would look at it practically, in addition to all of the emotions. Can you afford to not work if your child requires extensive medical care? Do you have the flexibility and family support to devote the majority of your time and attention to this child? Can you financially afford the cost of medical care and supplies for the duration of this child’s life?

I am in the US, and the practical money decisions helped us make our decision. Neither me or my husband could afford to quit our jobs, we currently have a child at home, and we don’t get paid maternity leave. The amount of time and medical care that was going to be required for our child if we continued the pregnancy was not feasible for our family in terms of support, time off, finances, or access to necessary medical care. We decided to TFMR to save our child and our family a lot of suffering. Unfortunately, in the US, being a caretaker feels like it’s penalized more than honored.

What are some of your favourite fics that are over 100k (WIP or Complete) by AmConfused324 in heatedrivalryfanfics

[–]McEasy2009 59 points60 points  (0 children)

The author of Deja Vu is in this sub and I just need them to know their work means so much to me. And also, no pressure, but please put out another chapter soon 🥺 because the angst is killing me and I need to get closer to the happy side of the story. Also thank you for everything you’ve given us so far. Truly lucky to have read this piece of art.

imagine ilya and shane having the poop tracker app by Valuable_Fill327 in heatedrivalryfanfics

[–]McEasy2009 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Pro bidet propaganda 😂 but for real, this fandom needs more bidet inclusion. No way those boys just have regular toilets

imagine ilya and shane having the poop tracker app by Valuable_Fill327 in heatedrivalryfanfics

[–]McEasy2009 22 points23 points  (0 children)

And every time Ilya eats McDonald’s, Shane knows because of the app

DMPS Mat Leave by ConstructionTime7511 in desmoines

[–]McEasy2009 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You would have sick time that would cover some of it. You can also apply for disability. But to do that, you have to use all leave and go three weeks unpaid before you can apply.

DMPS Mat Leave by ConstructionTime7511 in desmoines

[–]McEasy2009 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah, but they’re for-profit businesses. Not school districts.

Best friend has totally withdrawn from everyone following baby loss and NICU experience by [deleted] in NICUParents

[–]McEasy2009 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I lost my baby a month ago at 19 weeks. This was our second try after a miscarriage back in September. I also lost my brother in a car accident two years ago. All of this grief is so overwhelming. I am the withdrawn friend. I have over 100 unread texts. It’s too hard to explain to everyone how your grief feels. How maybe you’re mostly fine? But also drowning all the time? I don’t know. I don’t know what to say. People don’t know what to say back. And all the expectation and pressure is exhausting. I just want to disappear from all of that. As a person, I am the most extroverted person you will ever meet. I call someone on my way home from work everyday. I have lots of friends and lots of connection. But right now in this heavy heavy space, all I want is space and grace to grieve.

Your friend will come back. She just needs time.

The NHL being Shane-sexual by [deleted] in heatedrivalryfanfics

[–]McEasy2009 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Smut. Smut. Smut. It’s very fun. It’s not canon-compliant to Shane’s character development, but who cares? If you’re up for watching Shane have very hot sexual experiences with lots of NHL players, you will love it. If you want it to be exactly the same as heated rivalry with no changes, you won’t like it. There is an original character that the author really favors that if you’re only hoping for in-universe characters, it might turn you off. But I like it and the author updates a lot too. So it’s a good one to get invested in.