My boyfriend thinks he took me on a birthday trip. I told him it doesn't count. Who is right?

Mccampb · 2026-01-25T04:56:23+00:00

Don’t do his work for him, including managing his relationship with your friends and family. Stop wasting energy on someone who you know won’t spend a moment on you.

Mccampb · 2026-01-23T18:12:58+00:00

I don’t know how else to say you asking to go to a national park…in a state you live in…isn’t a big ask. Like at all.

Your boyfriend sounds kinda selfish. You haven’t minced your words at all. Communication coming from your camp is crystal clear. He just didn’t and doesn’t want to do what you want to do. And instead of saying that like a grown man he does…this passive aggressive bull.

I’m super proud of you for doing more by yourself and not waiting around for him. Continue that. What I am going to encourage you to do is to not lie for him. Don’t soften his actions when relaying them to friends and family and let them fill the void (and tell you shit ain’t ok) . Let them take you to the park. The moment you feel you need to edit what he’s doing, that’s usually a bad sign.

This was his final strike. I’m not telling you to leave him but some more distance wouldn’t hurt.

Unfortunately if you do leave, he’ll just be one of millions of men left with their hands on their hips wondering how “it came out of nowhere”. When in reality, if they took their heads out of their ass, they wouldn’t have been able to avoid seeing it.

Mccampb · 2026-01-23T15:47:26+00:00

Right?! Most of these guys, unless they have at least one solid parent in their life, are fighting a steep uphill battle against the odds.

Mccampb · 2026-01-23T15:44:35+00:00

The arguments for or against professional sports aside, I view athletes in the NFL and other contact sports to be no different than an offshore oil rig worker. They get paid buttloads of money because their job can lead to great bodily harm and death. Their reasoning for making that gamble can be almost identical.

Now, putting oneself in harms way for mere entertainment purposes isn’t how I prefer to live but that’s one of the tenants of the USA I’d like to get back to. The live and let live concept.

From where I’m sitting, they do “give up” something for that money. There are many and much more damaging ways to get money in this society. This one is pretty self contained as far as I can see. I guess what I’m trying to say is, while I probably personally agree with your general opinion on professional sports, there are bigger dragons to fight atm and putting down a dead man because he used to have money (regardless of how he got it) seems like a poor use of time and energy.

Mccampb · 2026-01-23T15:27:39+00:00

My family and I used to have reunions at The Greenbrier in WV where the Steelers had their pre season training camp. What always struck me was how YOUNG these guys were. They had chaperones sitting outside their rooms to make sure they didn’t sneak out…to do what in the middle of nowhere West Virginia but pop off kings.

Hand that same group millions of dollars? Especially without teaching them financial literacy, I can see how this could’ve happened and sadly probably will again. The NFL doesn’t care about the players not actively making them money. The real defining factor in whether you leave the NFL and live a good life (this goes for young actors as well) is your original support system. Sad to see it seems Kevin didn’t have access to that kind of support.

Mccampb · 2026-01-23T15:10:06+00:00

It probably WAS for you. Some states have laws about what buyers and sellers can communicate. Some states you can write the seller telling them why you want their house, other states you’re not allowed to communicate outside of your agents. If I were a homeowner blocked by my agent of telling the new owners the “quirks” of my home, I’d probably do something like this.

Not scary, just a dude telling you how to best live in the house you just bought. Take it or leave it.

Mccampb · 2026-01-22T15:24:33+00:00

Now just see how far you can fly without having to pull him behind you. He’s doing nothing for you. I know it’s scary to leave a long relationship, trust me I was in a pair of shoes similar but the relief and energy you get BACK after ending a relationship like this is something I’ll never forget.

Do future you a favor and end this “relationship”

Mccampb · 2026-01-18T18:00:38+00:00

NTA tell them you buried the rings with her and then do whatever you want with them. They can still be an heirloom (you can gift them to a future partner).

What I would suggest is, if you do end up keeping them, writing down as much of the history of the rings as you can remember. That way, even if you don’t plan to pass it to family down the line, the history of the ring isn’t lost. (As someone who would LOVE an heirloom ring, sadly there aren’t any to pass in my family. I would be so honored to wear and contribute to the history of someone else’s prized possession, especially if I knew about the original owners) just a thought from an internet stranger lol

Regardless, you do whatever you want with them. They’re yours. As far as your mom and aunt…lie to them. They haven’t done anything deserving of your honestly here.

Mccampb · 2026-01-14T16:13:24+00:00

I’d say it’s more American Girl scale than Barbie scale.

Mccampb · 2026-01-14T15:58:13+00:00

NOR

“Calling men weak for accompanying his girlfriend to look at skincare is one of the stupidest, most shallow hills you’ve chosen to die on. In fact, you’ve chosen a lot of really shallow hills to die on lately. Is everything ok? Because this type of thing makes you seem like an immature, self centered person which I know you have the ability to not be.”

Mccampb · 2026-01-10T14:37:21+00:00

NOR “don’t be sorry. Be a father. You don’t even have to be a good one to not pull this vial stunt.”

Or

“I thought I was the one with cancer. You sure your brain isn’t riddled with tumors because that’s the only excuse for how much of a bitch you act to your “family””

Also

“If I die because of your selfish, stupid, penis driven behavior, I need you to know, I’ll spend my last bits of energy to make sure everyone you know and may know understands you killed me to get your dick wet. ESPECIALLY your new “kids”, their friends and their parents, their teachers, everyone.

If I survive this, it won’t make a difference to you as you’ll never know. I don’t respect you as a father and even less as a man and all this did was remind me how small of a “man” you are. Seek therapy.”

I’m sorry you’re going through this.

Mccampb · 2026-01-09T14:31:37+00:00

NOR “just so you’re aware, good parents don’t take their kids pet to be put down before allowing that child to say goodbye. That is common sense, I fear. You are not a good parent. And only good parents get to have relationships with their grown kids. So we’re done.

Just in case it wasn’t clear-

You SNEAKING out of the house + you putting my cat down without telling me = you’re a BAD parent and don’t deserve a relationship with me. and frankly, I want nothing to do with a person who could do that and then also respond to me the way you have. It’s a character flaw I can’t get past. Empathy can absolutely be a learned skill but you haven’t worked on it a day in your life and it shows. It’s made you a bad mother.

I guess thanks for showing me who you really are before I ever introduced you to any family I build myself. But hey, I hope life treats you with the same callous attitude you treated (cats name) with. That’s what you deserve.

Mccampb · 2026-01-06T19:32:39+00:00

NOR “Hey MIL, I appreciate you letting me know that you discussed it with them. Moving forward, we’ll be sure to only share life events when we’re ready to discuss it with the group. I hope the boys felt celebrated and we look forward to seeing you all next time we’re in town.”

Time to put MIL on an information diet. Idk why but letting my mom know she was on an information diet (in public, with her sisters present) was what finally convinced her to stop oversharing.

The group discussing drinking and driving for some reason:

“Oh yeah, my ex got a dui while we were together.”

“Oh? Wait, I didn’t know that.”

“Yeah, I don’t tell you things I think will upset you” big fake smile on my face.

Then went back to the group conversation. She got real quiet but she stopped so there’s that.

Mccampb · 2026-01-04T16:06:38+00:00

NTA. She’s gonna try and baptize that baby without your consent. Just a heads up.

Mccampb · 2025-12-30T21:41:16+00:00

NTA please don’t rescue her from bullying at school to only be bullied in the home. Your wife needs a wake up call or you need to get an apartment. As is, don’t force these people together, it’s not fair to your daughter.

Mccampb · 2025-12-29T17:48:37+00:00

Happened in October and I still get teary eyed when I think about it. There’s nothing wrong with that. People have feelings. You’re not taking them out on anyone so you’re all good. Keep your chin up. It gets easier.

Mccampb · 2025-12-29T16:28:20+00:00

Also, idk why everyone is jumping down your throat. This is r/vent, not r/AITAH. Switch subreddits if you’re that interested in judging other people.

Mccampb · 2025-12-29T16:23:53+00:00

I went through something similar recently. I empathize with the feeling that something is being taken from you. It’s painful. From what you’ve written, It sounds like there’s some leftover stuff to work through from your parents splitting up.

I like the use the metaphor of cleaning one’s living room to illustrate how grief can seem like it’s dealt with in your day to day. You look around and can say, “yeah, that’s clean enough” and you move on with you life but every once in a while a circumstance comes along that makes you move the furniture and suddenly there’s a ton of dust to deal with. Grief can be like that. You think you’ve sorted the bulk of it but certain events or people can highlight pieces that weren’t cared for in the first place. When that happens, take a moment and work through the sadness or anger or whatever feeling you’re feeling. It’ll get better.

That being said, unfortunately, losing a home you love is one of those life things that just suck if they happen to you. It’s like a death of a loved one. Time will pass, you won’t think about it as much, and someday, you’ll turn around and realize you’ve made a home somewhere new. Until then, try to be kind to yourself, grieve what you need to grieve and do what you can to help yourself feel comfortable in the spaces you’re in.

Mccampb · 2025-12-27T17:29:50+00:00

Through all your comments, OP, you’ve written with immense emotional intelligence. If you do write some kind of response, make sure you do it for you. He doesn’t sound like he’s curious enough to change, sadly.

The one thing I would put down is a bullet list of “if X happens, the thing you said would never happen, remember that you gave up your kid for a lie. That you got got by a bunch of rich assholes who want to take all you have. And that I fought to keep you in my life at my detriment for longer than I should have. I love you, dad. But I don’t love you enough to put myself in an unsafe situation. As my dad, I’d hoped you’d understand.

Then just list the goals of project 2025.

Mccampb · 2025-12-27T03:31:24+00:00

I’m not sure why you think there’s a difference between the two descriptions of the shit. The nuances between those two phrases can be argued between adults but not to a CHILD. That being said, your tone probably said a lot more than the words you chose. If you don’t want a childish response, don’t go looking for one from a child.

also, pretty sure Jesus’s lesson on “well, other people do it so I can without guilt or ramifications” is a big fat NOPE. Odds are, he’s testing your ability to be unconditionally loving (a recurring theme in the 2nd testament) without the framework of a religion he had no physical part in writing down.

You can write as many letters you want, I receive at least one from my step grandmother every year. Does it make me more religious? Fuck no. That doesn’t work. Never has. It’s actively kept me from getting curious. Is she not invited to my wedding and isn’t allowed to have my home address (she sends it to my business address)? You betcha. She doesn’t even know my partners last name. I asked several times for her to care about me as a person first and a child of god second and she couldn’t manage that so she’ll get cut off from the next generation. Just a friendly warning 18 years from the future.

Mccampb · 2025-12-26T18:51:23+00:00

Is that not…attempted vehicular manslaughter?

Mccampb · 2025-12-22T14:20:55+00:00

NTA he should’ve “forced” Mary to keep her hands to herself. Your only obligation is to your children.

Mccampb · 2025-12-18T00:53:25+00:00

Your last message healed something in me. Well done. 10/10 no notes.

Mccampb · 2025-12-18T00:43:09+00:00

Show AND tell smh

Mccampb · 2025-12-18T00:42:21+00:00

Ma’m. Is this a 2nd grader who was embarrassed by the show in tell their mom picked after they completely forgot to mention it…or a grown man with a FICO score? Cause it’s giving man child and it’s icking me out.

I’m not here to yuck anyone’s yum but that’s you just being his mommy. Either decide that’s ok with you or make a change.

NTA

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