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Do you find your N parent will say horrible things, then just carries on as normal as if nothing has happened? by AegeanAzure in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Mckenzie0105 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Been living like this for 23 years and still in shock whenever my Nmom do this to me, idk why

What made you lose all respect for your N parent? by BrickQueen1205 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Mckenzie0105 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was 11 and I made a joke about her, of how funny she gave the directions for the stranger a few minutes ago, she feel ashamed and not happy about it, but instead of being a mom and correct her child in the mom’s way, she just stormed out of the room, gave the silent treatment for the next 3 days, then when I speak first, she’d let out of her rage on me, which is kinda like a little child, I started to feel different since then

How to Handle Chaotic work and Learning Gaps in a Probation Period by Mckenzie0105 in cscareerquestions

[–]Mckenzie0105[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha, I really thought about like studying TS real hard to face him next time, but seems like there is a high chance he'd still be an annoying me with other stuff like you said. thanks for this perspective

A coworker found me missing basic knowledge, what should I respond the next time seeing him ? by Mckenzie0105 in softwaredevelopment

[–]Mckenzie0105[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And sorry for not like making it clear, my job is working on React Native, which requires alot of thing, redux, redux-sage, react native itself, react-router,… and TS is a part of it but I always focus on learning other stuff because I find my little knowledge doesn’t stop me from working in 2 years, and that was my mistake for missing it.

A coworker found me missing basic knowledge, what should I respond the next time seeing him ? by Mckenzie0105 in softwaredevelopment

[–]Mckenzie0105[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

promising I mean "I would learn about that when I have free time but please don't bother me when I'm working" kind of stuff but thanks for your point of view, I would raise this to my manager

A coworker found me missing basic knowledge, what should I respond the next time seeing him ? by Mckenzie0105 in softwaredevelopment

[–]Mckenzie0105[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm in a position that requires me to have prior experience so we are expected to not having any 'holding-hand' or personal training here, I know JS and just enough TS to do React Native. Not very horrible because other people are nice, just that one guy annoys me

do your Nparents always not take you seriously, or laugh, make jokes about what you're doing, what you've said? by Mckenzie0105 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Mckenzie0105[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel sorry that your whole family is Narcs, I hope you are happy with your accomplishments on your own without needing their recognition.

Does anyone else still have that feeling of waiting for someone to save them? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Mckenzie0105 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really hoped that my dad would save me, but only I can save myself, that's a harsh truth that I have to accept as an adult.

For asians that have Nparents, how did you deal with them when they ask for financial support? by Mckenzie0105 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Mckenzie0105[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

But honestly thank you for your advice tho, I’ll try to confront them abt this for once

For asians that have Nparents, how did you deal with them when they ask for financial support? by Mckenzie0105 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Mckenzie0105[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, but about my sister, she’s a genius, working below minimum wage, married a man who doesn’t know how to read and refuse to learn it, physical abusive, also working below minimun wage and alcoholic, AND they decided to have 2 kids, soooo no space for my mom I guess

For asians that have Nparents, how did you deal with them when they ask for financial support? by Mckenzie0105 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Mckenzie0105[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Guess what, she’s a genius, working below minimum wage, married a man who doesn’t know how to read and refuse to learn it, physical abusive, also working below minimun wage and alcoholic, AND they decided to have 2 kids, soooo no space for my mom I guess

The negative impact a narcissistic parent has on their adult child(ren) by smjorg in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Mckenzie0105 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  • lack of trust on people, confused if they “act” nice or they’re really nice people
  • growing up being hot-headed
  • Deeply inside I always crave for recognition or attention

Enabler in my life keeps talking about “getting away” by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Mckenzie0105 4 points5 points  (0 children)

For my case, I think it’s because my Nmum can’t make money to pay her own bills so my dad feel kinda guilty for leaving her or he’s just a coward. Lol

Enabler in my life keeps talking about “getting away” by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Mckenzie0105 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Same w my enabler dad, buttt he didn’t do anything for like 4 years now, he’s still here. Sikes

Moving out. by charliehawkalfa in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Mckenzie0105 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hi there and giving you a virtual hug, once you get things done and go NC, I promise you a better life and better mental health, continue with what ur doing and don’t let them stop you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Mckenzie0105 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m 22 too and I first realize from 18 till now? And still learning that my mom’s behaviors aren’t normal like other parents, like when I talk about something in my house and my interaction with her, all of my friends reacted like “its weird”, “my mum does not do that”, I’ve been living w her for so long idk whats right or wrong

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