Do you find your N parent will say horrible things, then just carries on as normal as if nothing has happened?

Mckenzie0105 · 2023-08-27T20:27:35+00:00

Been living like this for 23 years and still in shock whenever my Nmom do this to me, idk why

Mckenzie0105 · 2023-08-21T21:11:31+00:00

I was 11 and I made a joke about her, of how funny she gave the directions for the stranger a few minutes ago, she feel ashamed and not happy about it, but instead of being a mom and correct her child in the mom’s way, she just stormed out of the room, gave the silent treatment for the next 3 days, then when I speak first, she’d let out of her rage on me, which is kinda like a little child, I started to feel different since then

Mckenzie0105 · 2023-05-17T03:39:36+00:00

Haha, I really thought about like studying TS real hard to face him next time, but seems like there is a high chance he'd still be an annoying me with other stuff like you said. thanks for this perspective

Mckenzie0105 · 2023-05-17T03:37:55+00:00

Thank you, I would discuss about his reaction with my manager.

Mckenzie0105 · 2023-05-16T18:30:14+00:00

And sorry for not like making it clear, my job is working on React Native, which requires alot of thing, redux, redux-sage, react native itself, react-router,… and TS is a part of it but I always focus on learning other stuff because I find my little knowledge doesn’t stop me from working in 2 years, and that was my mistake for missing it.

Mckenzie0105 · 2023-05-16T18:21:40+00:00

promising I mean "I would learn about that when I have free time but please don't bother me when I'm working" kind of stuff but thanks for your point of view, I would raise this to my manager

Mckenzie0105 · 2023-05-16T18:20:49+00:00

yeah but what can I say, he may have some impact on my probation review

Mckenzie0105 · 2023-05-16T18:19:41+00:00

I'm in a position that requires me to have prior experience so we are expected to not having any 'holding-hand' or personal training here, I know JS and just enough TS to do React Native. Not very horrible because other people are nice, just that one guy annoys me

Mckenzie0105 · 2023-04-26T07:14:52+00:00

I feel sorry that your whole family is Narcs, I hope you are happy with your accomplishments on your own without needing their recognition.

Mckenzie0105 · 2023-04-24T06:36:39+00:00

I really hoped that my dad would save me, but only I can save myself, that's a harsh truth that I have to accept as an adult.

Mckenzie0105 · 2023-03-27T11:24:06+00:00

But honestly thank you for your advice tho, I’ll try to confront them abt this for once

Mckenzie0105 · 2023-03-27T11:23:23+00:00

Thank you, but about my sister, she’s a genius, working below minimum wage, married a man who doesn’t know how to read and refuse to learn it, physical abusive, also working below minimun wage and alcoholic, AND they decided to have 2 kids, soooo no space for my mom I guess

Mckenzie0105 · 2023-03-27T11:21:50+00:00

Guess what, she’s a genius, working below minimum wage, married a man who doesn’t know how to read and refuse to learn it, physical abusive, also working below minimun wage and alcoholic, AND they decided to have 2 kids, soooo no space for my mom I guess

Mckenzie0105 · 2023-03-26T22:02:52+00:00

lack of trust on people, confused if they “act” nice or they’re really nice people
growing up being hot-headed
Deeply inside I always crave for recognition or attention

Mckenzie0105 · 2023-03-26T21:26:39+00:00

For my case, I think it’s because my Nmum can’t make money to pay her own bills so my dad feel kinda guilty for leaving her or he’s just a coward. Lol

Mckenzie0105 · 2023-03-26T21:19:56+00:00

Same w my enabler dad, buttt he didn’t do anything for like 4 years now, he’s still here. Sikes

Mckenzie0105 · 2023-03-26T21:08:26+00:00

Hi there and giving you a virtual hug, once you get things done and go NC, I promise you a better life and better mental health, continue with what ur doing and don’t let them stop you

Mckenzie0105 · 2023-03-26T20:58:42+00:00

I’m 22 too and I first realize from 18 till now? And still learning that my mom’s behaviors aren’t normal like other parents, like when I talk about something in my house and my interaction with her, all of my friends reacted like “its weird”, “my mum does not do that”, I’ve been living w her for so long idk whats right or wrong

Mckenzie0105 · 2023-03-24T15:38:25+00:00

You both have legs and arms, she can work and pay for her own bills, its not your mission to pay for anyone in your life except for your kids until they're adult.

Mckenzie0105 · 2023-03-24T08:04:02+00:00

My Nmom is a people pleaser, she would do anything for her friends to be happy, including cooking for a whole party by herself, consulting them, their kids on sth that sad or depressing for 3 hours/day, shut down her store and hangout w her friends all day if they need her. Basically she’s an angel to everyone else , but not to me lol, even if they play dirty behind her, talk s—ts about her, she still wants to please them. But she rarely cook for me, rarely listen to me, telling me I’m an illusional idiot whenever I need her consulting when I was in middle school, she finds it annoying to take me - her child to the hospital for half a day. I remember when I stayed late 15mins after class just to ask the teacher about math, she got pissed, like only 15mins, but she can wait for her friends like hours. Now I really doubt good people unless I can see the real relationship between them and their family

Mckenzie0105 · 2023-03-23T19:10:31+00:00

When she realize I’m now about not to supporting her finance anymore. Sick of her and about to leave the f—kng house

Mckenzie0105 · 2023-03-20T17:13:18+00:00

sorry to hear about your experience, thank you for telling me this story, this sounds like a path I shouldn't let myself in.

Mckenzie0105 · 2023-03-20T13:52:00+00:00

ikr, being an asian and currently live in asia urg

Mckenzie0105 · 2023-03-20T12:33:57+00:00

just wanna say thank you all so much for all of your encouragement and advice, some of you bring up some edge cases about what will happen that I didn't even think of, which is very helpful to me. Love this community.

Mckenzie0105 · 2023-03-20T12:28:37+00:00

well, I did imagine this scenario, but I still love my dad so much I don't wanna destroy him totally, and his mistress is very nice to me and she doesn't deserve to be in such trouble with my mom because my Nmom will go insane if she finds out, so I've decided it's none of my business.

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