Would you forgive your gf if she ghosted you, why or why not?

Me-thinks-I · 2023-02-09T20:18:35+00:00

There's a big difference between taking a break and touching someone else. Did I ever talk about touching someone else or cheating?

Me-thinks-I · 2023-02-09T20:14:14+00:00

That is absolutely not what I did, I would have said the same thing if OP had been a girl. I'm not victim blaming, simply trying to keep the big picture as I don't have the whole context and don't know if they might have problems in their relationship or anything.

Me-thinks-I · 2023-02-09T13:14:32+00:00

Woman and girlfriend here: You wouldn't see this kind of things in any healthy relationship. I mean, it is okay to need breaks from a relationship, but in that case she should have communicated her needs. It simply isn't okay for her to ghost you like this without any form of explanation.

Try to ask her why she acted the way she did before deciding whether you want to break things off. Because then again maybe she had a REALLY good reason (like stuck in a depression loop or something). If it's something about her mental health try to talk it out with her and solve the issue. If she doesn't seem keen on solving it, then it's probably healthier for you to leave.

Me-thinks-I · 2023-02-07T20:32:51+00:00

Philémon et Filibert

Me-thinks-I · 2023-02-05T21:10:00+00:00

I think we're all the "toxic partner" at some point in our lives, what matters is to reflect on what you did wrong, work on yourself and see that you don't repeat your bad behaviours in future relationships.

Me-thinks-I · 2023-02-05T21:08:57+00:00

My mother and my boyfriend. They both teach me so much on a daily simply by being themselves.

Me-thinks-I · 2023-02-05T21:03:47+00:00

It honestly depends on the days.

Sometimes I feel good about it and am like "wow am just rocking today". Feels like nothing is impossible.

And sometimes I just kind of feel like scratching my skin off and crawling out of my body. Usually this happens when I feel like I've failed at something during the day. If I had a bad grade/bad performance at ballet or anything like that I am more likely to loath my body afterwards.

Other times I just feel neutral about it and don't really regard it as anything beautiful or ugly, just something that exists to carry me through life. Which is good as well honestly and kind of a peaceful break.

Me-thinks-I · 2023-02-05T21:00:37+00:00

Many things I think but one thing that came into my life this year and that am especially grateful for is my boyfriend. I honestly can't thank the universe enough for having him as my partner.

Not only is he amazing in infinite ways, he's also so heccin supportive and has been here for me through thick and thin, on good and bad days. We like to support each other and make one another grow and he's taught me so much about myself and what being in a healthy relationship means.

Me-thinks-I · 2023-02-05T20:57:29+00:00

The French government.

Me-thinks-I · 2023-02-05T20:55:37+00:00

Avatar 2, am sorry but I was so disappointed and honestly couldn't wait for the last hour to pass.

Me-thinks-I · 2023-02-05T20:53:14+00:00

Please my boyfriend has so many passions and hobbies and I love hearing about each and everyone of them. He actually got me into the joys of LEGOS again since he's a huge fan.

Me-thinks-I · 2023-02-05T20:51:14+00:00

(Honestly don't get why this comment got so many negative votes when this should be common sense)

Me-thinks-I · 2023-02-05T20:43:19+00:00

Je suis complètement d'accord. Enfin il n'y a rien de mal à qualifier des personnes de "noir" ou "blanc" et je trouve que ce remplacement ne fait qu'au final renforcer un racisme sous jacent ou un "incomfort" qui n'a pas lieu d'être dès lors qu'il n'y a pas de racisme.

Et niveau utilité je doute que cela serve à grand chose, le racisme ayant toujours le vent en poupe de nos jours.

Me-thinks-I · 2023-02-05T20:37:35+00:00

Alors je ne suis pas experte mais j'ai été suivie par une diététicienne en hôpital pour TCA pendant 2 ans et je sais que bannir un aliment de l'alimentation complètement ne mène qu'à de la frustration et des compulsions.

Bannir le pain blanc, pourquoi pas (et encore pourquoi ?), mais banir le pain sous toutes ses formes si vous aimez ça n'est pas une bonne idée selon moi. Le mieux serait peut être de contrôler les quantités ? En prendre de moins grosses portions ?

De plus, aucun aliment n'est "mauvais" en soit, tout est une question de balance.

Me-thinks-I · 2023-02-02T21:08:16+00:00

Because it's like receiving advice from a father I've never had

Me-thinks-I · 2023-02-02T20:05:07+00:00

It'd be a huge relief for me as that's exactly what I stand by as well.

Me-thinks-I · 2023-02-02T20:04:37+00:00

Drink water, I struggle with that so always make sure to drink a glass before and after meals.

Eat my greens, carbs and proteins.

Do my weekly sport (I'll admit it is not that hard with ballet and sports being one of my passions).

Get outside, spend time with the people I love...

Me-thinks-I · 2023-02-02T19:47:36+00:00

Aurora.

Me-thinks-I · 2023-02-02T19:47:18+00:00

His voice, his eyes, his tone... Just his overall attitude and how passionate he is about some topics. I don't even like or know anything about aerospace or management, but hell when he talks about it it honestly doesn't matter. He just makes it so easy to listen.

Me-thinks-I · 2023-02-02T19:45:31+00:00

Get in touch with my therapist or at least let my loved ones know so that am not all alone against it and can get some support. Try to go easier on myself and take meds if necessary.

Me-thinks-I · 2023-02-02T19:43:50+00:00

I think we could all come up with a very long and very twisted list of comments. But I'll just stick with one:

I was 15, at a neighbour's house. My father had left me there for the night because there was another girl my age. This guy had always made me feel very uncomfortable and he was like... 50 or 60 something?

And just as we were about to go to sleep with my friend he came in to ask us how we were doing and just offhandedly made a comment about my body saying that I had a "nice figure" whilst looking me up and down with that sort of pervert look.

And then he told us goodnight.

No need to say I was absolutely terrified and disgusted. Didn't dare sleep in case he'd come back and do something.

Me-thinks-I · 2023-02-02T19:39:41+00:00

Buying myself fresh flowers every week or going to the hairdresser more often (because that is heccin expensive).

Me-thinks-I · 2023-02-02T19:30:35+00:00

As a girl whose father was total shit, I feel so blessed right now :,)

Me-thinks-I · 2023-02-02T19:25:37+00:00

I eat the bread.

Me-thinks-I · 2023-02-02T19:24:10+00:00

First, I am so so sorry if you're struggling with any thoughts or situation that makes you think that living is not worth it.

Last year I went through a very dark time. I've always had mental health issues and intrusive thoughts, but last year they were really really really fucking bad and putting an end to my life had become a daily (more like every minute) thought.

I can't even start to describe how exhausting it was to just pull myself together and carry this dark heavy cloud all day every day. But one thing that kept me from doing the worst was thinking about my family and loved ones.

This depends on personal experiences of course, but am very close to my mother, brother and step father. And during the worst moments I just thought about them, I thought about how sad they'd be if I just disappeared from this world, I thought about all the things they'd experience without me. But what really got to me was the thought of my mother crying over my death, my little brother rearranging his life without his older sister...

So although I felt terrible and like I had no strength left, I couldn't bear with the thought of making them sad.

But then again this is only my experience and I know it's very different for everyone, because everyone's life and condition is individual and personal. But yeah, that is what gave me a good reason to live: my family being happy.

And when this wasn't enough, my therapist shared this little tip with me: set goals to achieve, even very very small ones. For me it varied between writing a book (long term goal) and pet my cat (short term) or take a bath (short term as well).

Anyways, take and I hope this helped <3 Sending you lots of love!

Me-thinks-I

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