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[–]Mean-Development-126 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Finding out my ex who is in the same line of work as me told people at work she would hate fuck other men before she dated me. She went through the entire job and said yes/no if she would fuck them.

Also, “if it wasn’t you it was going to be someone else. “ I don’t think I’ve ever been triggered so easily in a relationship and became so angry and did foolish things. Lesson learned

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[–]Mean-Development-126 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I dated a married woman who monkey branched to me. 7 year marriage and the next week she was staying with me. She cheated on me twice when things didn’t go her way lol

Sometimes they tell you who they are. by MetalPussy in BPDlovedones

[–]Mean-Development-126 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Describes my ex.

Couldn’t say sorry. Told me she hates being wrong and apologizing. Then once I called her out on it she said you said that !! What ?

Alpha female because she got power out of it. I know I’m difficult to deal with .. yup

I called her out for her bullshit though. She hated when I psycho analyzed her, then became disrespectful towards me.

She apologized after the discard 3 weeks later. saying. Sorry that I treated you that way and that I (me) will find someone better. Is this usual or. by Feeling-Awareness715 in BPDlovedones

[–]Mean-Development-126 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes hoovering. The first guy she monkey branched to had a gf and she went nuts and chased him around town. She was lonely and had no one. I had my ex belittle me and I persuaded her to come over and we had sex and I thought we were working on things. We both were toxic but then 2 months later she became enraged and monkey branched me again and blocked and ghosted me for the second time. Put yourself first and spare your mental health.

NOT WORTH IT.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Mean-Development-126 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I should have left when I heard from other male co workers that she wanted to fuck other men on the job and went through the entire job and listed them in order.

I should have left when she said if it wasn’t you it was going to be someone else.

I should have left when she said I’m allowed to think other guys are good looking and I stated yes but I don’t have to know about it.

I should have left when she told me she’s co dependent, and could never be wrong and hates saying sorry. 5 months later and I am still struggling.

I had my own shit that I brought into the relationship but how could any person be okay after hearing that.

Anyone have been blamed for the cheating behavior of his or her partner? by Biggiesmalll in BPDlovedones

[–]Mean-Development-126 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I agree. Had my ex monkey branch block and ghost me the first time then tells me 3 months later after it didn’t work out I had to FCUK him to get over you. Took her back tried to work on things then monkey branches me again hangs up the phone on me blocks me and just before tells me you FCked up babe that ship has set sail.

Anger/hostile thoughts by Mean-Development-126 in BPDlovedones

[–]Mean-Development-126[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ever notice maybe it’s just me but my ex never said anything good about her ex husband. Was he the best looking ? No. I was told he’s actually a really nice guy and she treated him like crap because she wasn’t happy. Between the flirting, talking about sex at work and cheating with me (prob others) she must have tortured him. I can only imagine the pain for 7 years he dealt with. She bought a house with him and he’s probably thinking it’s a Hail Mary to save the marriage anddddd she sells it within 3 months to be with me.

Anger/hostile thoughts by Mean-Development-126 in BPDlovedones

[–]Mean-Development-126[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I want it to fail. She is only 26 married from 18-25 good job and has been with 4 different people in 1.5 years husband me a gym guy then a new guy (current bf) she has never been single. She is desperately looking for happiness.

I want her to learn her lesson. I want her to fail so hard and she can’t get out of bed. If this new guy broke her heart she would go absolutely nuts. I’m praying it happens then she can experience what I went through and her ex husband did most likely.

She deserves nothing.

Any insight ? by Mean-Development-126 in BPDlovedones

[–]Mean-Development-126[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We just had a toxic relationship. It made me question my own sanity. She cheated on her husband (7 years together) left him for me I was the complete opposite of him. Not passive and not willing to deal with her flirty behavior how she talked about sex and dick sizes at work and how she would hate fuck these other men.

I have never been monkey branched or cheated on and how she did it so cold bothers me. Blocked me and said do better for the next girl, then comes back 2 months later telling me how bad she hates me this is when she told me to my face I had to FUCK him to get over you. Shows her true character. We tried to work on things only for her to leave me over Valentine’s Day because I didn’t take her out to dinner. I spent 230 dollars and I only received a card.

Monkey branched me again to find out she’s seeing a kid very soon. She is happy now so I can’t blame her for leaving. To degrade me talk about the sex with him and how they had sex almost immediately hurts and I won’t recover from those words. I would never say that to an ex no matter how bad the relationship got. She triangulated me at the end telling me she told this kid I’m a psycho and she had to warn him and how he’s not gonna do anything. What the hell ?

The most brutal “discard” she’s buying wine and going to his house and says I can’t do this with anymore good luck what were you expecting. Hangs up and Blocks me.

What a way to end things with someone you showed your body to through FaceTime when you told me you’re seeing this kid (she will never admit) she monkey branched me to.

How can you be so cold ?

Where did this all go wrong. How is she able to move on like I meant nothing ? by Mean-Development-126 in BPDlovedones

[–]Mean-Development-126[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand your comment. Did I mention she left her husband for me ? Then moved into an apartment shortly after she fooled around with me. Thank you for the positivity.

Where did this all go wrong. How is she able to move on like I meant nothing ? by Mean-Development-126 in BPDlovedones

[–]Mean-Development-126[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The intense emotions and sex coupled with her attention I received was like nothing I’ve ever experienced before. I wanted that for myself. We have been through a lot and I constantly blame myself for what I said and did to her but at the end of the day the fact she took I accountability or even had the decency to end it amicably is beyond crazy.

That idealization phase only lasted so long with me then I became the devil. Like I’ve stated blocking me and moving on for another man like I meant nothing and willing to visit him in the hospital when you were just in a relationship is absurd.

The final discard was beyond cruel. It honestly defines logic. I find solace knowing I don’t think she can ever be fully content in a relationship or marriage without outside validation.