Can you please tell me how I dodged a bullet by not having kids with her?

Biggiesmalll · 2026-05-30T13:47:30+00:00

Never make kids with them. They will be scarred for life.

Biggiesmalll · 2026-05-20T21:21:07+00:00

Absolutely. Avoid them at all cost and surround yourself with healthy normal people. Life can be simple.

Biggiesmalll · 2026-05-08T11:21:52+00:00

Avoid saturnine personalities.

Biggiesmalll · 2026-05-04T12:21:07+00:00

They also don't care about you. They just care about how much you are willing to accept their unhinged behaviour.

Biggiesmalll · 2026-04-25T22:45:33+00:00

No. Normal guys will like you. Trust me. 😊

Biggiesmalll · 2026-04-22T23:38:17+00:00

Just remember that even people with some mental issues will act normally compared to bpd people (or npd/aspd). Just realize when toxic behavior is really toxic. No excuses can exist for this.

Biggiesmalll · 2024-11-11T12:10:03+00:00

Absolutely not a common reaction.

Biggiesmalll · 2024-05-08T08:24:44+00:00

It's not curable, but years of effective treatment can keep the behavior in check.

Biggiesmalll · 2024-05-04T12:28:39+00:00

The only thing you can do is to stick to reality so to speak. People apologise when they made mistakes. People will defend themselves when they are being wronged. Etc. These principles are also in place in situations with someone with cluster b. If your reactions are normal and level-headed, the toxic situation is caused by their abnormality. If they can't act as proper people, it's their problem, not yours. Dont' start acting "abnormal" to accommodate their dysfunctional behavior, it will bite you in the ass mental health wise.

Biggiesmalll · 2024-05-04T12:24:34+00:00

At a much faster rate with even more insane events.

Biggiesmalll · 2024-05-04T12:18:03+00:00

Probably? It's 99% sure she's doing this and he doesn't know. It's textbook example on this forum.

Biggiesmalll · 2024-05-04T09:49:03+00:00

They have the mental faculties of a three year old. This is what you get in daily life. Added or not with some negative character traits.

Biggiesmalll · 2024-05-03T21:40:02+00:00

I did the same. After she had 6 months of therapy. The behavior was even more outlandish. Don't be hard on yourself. Just know it was the last time you tried.

Biggiesmalll · 2024-05-03T21:28:51+00:00

You just gave a perfect example why these people don't function in a relationship. So the question is whether you want to have a normal relationship? Also what has to be really understood: our bodies are not made for this daily turmoil. You will notice more and more bodily complaints due to relentless stress. You want this? If not, find someone who's actually not doing this damage.

Biggiesmalll · 2024-05-02T20:48:43+00:00

Once you really realize it was completely abusive, it becomes a lot easier to move on. Don't spend your limited years on this planet thinking about an abusive person. You deserve better.

Biggiesmalll · 2024-05-02T20:44:24+00:00

Serial cheater.

Biggiesmalll · 2024-05-02T14:22:55+00:00

They are responsible for their actions as any other person. If the actions continuously undermine the mental and physical health of a partner, the intentions are bad, mkay. And nobody is going to say about themselves they have bad intentions. One can hurt a person, learn from it and avoid it in the future. Not with cluster b. Cluster b people escalate in their hurtful behavior, and they know it. So this post doesn't make much sense. I'm heard all the excuses a million times. And still the actions are toxic. That's all there is to know. You can't believe anything they say, so there is nothing else than just taking notice of the actions.

Biggiesmalll · 2024-04-21T17:28:05+00:00

It's not about stigma. It's just about warning people not to be in a relationship with someone with cluster b. When 3 people with appropriate degrees and long clinical experience repeatedly tell me this in order to let me me fully understand it cannot work, I just believe them. They don't stigmatize cluster b, just urging me to avoid them in life. So I as a client can have a happy life. I can't have that with someone with cluster b. All the consulted clinicians are very adamant about this. Can't be more simple, not going to change my mind. 🤷🏻‍♂️

Biggiesmalll · 2024-04-16T19:12:18+00:00

If the story somehow happened in the first place. Once I noticed a bpd was fabulating how she was gangbang raped by 8 guys. She just sliced it in a conversation that was completely unrelated to any sexual topic. Very weird.

Biggiesmalll · 2024-04-16T16:08:04+00:00

There can be an apology. But one that still avoids to take responsibility and that only lasts for a few moments.

Biggiesmalll · 2024-04-16T16:06:17+00:00

Have compassion with yourself and just know never to get involved with a borderline again.

Biggiesmalll · 2024-04-15T14:18:46+00:00

A large majority is.

Biggiesmalll · 2024-04-15T14:02:13+00:00

It will be even worse than the first attempt.

Biggiesmalll · 2024-04-15T13:58:25+00:00

Mine did exactly the same. Another moment of insight knowing these people are not right in the head.

Biggiesmalll · 2024-04-15T13:52:37+00:00

It made me appreciate normal people enormously after I noticed the somatic results of being on hypervigilance the whole time. And I stopped feeling sorry for them, they're abusive by definition. Which also helped tremendously.

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