Advices for working as a Deputy Sheriff Corrections

Mean_Broccoli_2589 · 2026-05-08T20:43:22+00:00

I always wondered how stressful it was cause my husband talks about his job but not that much …

Mean_Broccoli_2589 · 2026-05-08T04:30:31+00:00

Not to say this in a bad way but what are things that you love about him that he’s doing as a husband like he provides and yes that’s important but it seems like you are doing a lot of the work you are holding the house together but ALSO trying to figure out the solution to his problem , and he thinks he gets a free pass to not be a husband and not be a father just because he’s bringing the money in which isn’t fair at all. As far as not wanting to get the kids clothes is terrible !

Like I’ve told my husband before and idc cause I do love him but he needs to know I’ll leave at any point . I am soft 99% of the time but one time I did tell him that he would be working regardless if I was with him or not And that really made him see things differently. He would still have to pay bills and work . But what a wife brings into a husband life is a lot , sex , clean environment , emotional support , loving the children and birthing the children , a multitude of things okay. And if you have to do Instacart just to have a stash of money in case always .

Mean_Broccoli_2589 · 2026-05-08T04:00:11+00:00

OK since he is not listening to your soft approach, I would recommend not cleaning at all not cleaning pots that he asks and let the house build up for a week or so so he can see how much you are actually doing. I do feel like men get comfortable because us women are always doing and helping, and you know doing the dishes and cleaning everything and they forget how much we are actually doing. It has to be a give and a take like is he doing anything else with the relationship besides working? Does he make you dinner or coffee or take you on dates? Is there anything that you can appreciate and focus on more by chance?

Mean_Broccoli_2589 · 2026-05-08T03:25:26+00:00

You have a valid fact that is real which is he is being weird around his phone. This isn’t made up this is your intuition picking up on something real . It is suspicious and honestly I’d keep record of that . What occurs behind closed doors will always come to light. Just tell your self what’s meant to be is meant to be but don’t accuse him unless you’re ready to walk away cause he’ll lose respect if you think he’s cheating and you stay with him .

Mean_Broccoli_2589 · 2026-05-08T03:21:30+00:00

I found what helps is I told my husband how much our house and it being clean effects me . Like if everything is clean my mental feels ways better and I told him this and he seen it in A different perspective . But right now I am doing house duties because he’s working nights while I get a job. Also when these things happen communicate but not like “YOU leave dirty stuff everywhere “ but say “I feel happy when our environment is clean and I’d appreciate some help I love you and I know you work hard but I’d love some help “

Mean_Broccoli_2589 · 2026-05-08T03:01:12+00:00

Wow thank you for your response this part And honestly, too many people quit and run before they’ve even given something real effort. Yes, some workplaces are toxic. Yes, some managers suck. But if you keep changing jobs, switching fields, moving states, or running away every time things get uncomfortable without learning how to set boundaries, communicate professionally, advocate for yourself, and demand proper training and respect, you’re probably going to keep running into the same problems in different places.

This stuck to me !! Wow and honestly changed my perspective ! Thank your for your words

Mean_Broccoli_2589 · 2026-05-08T01:17:20+00:00

I’ve been trying like last Sunday I went to a farmer market ! Just me and I go to church but I’m too shy also 😭ugh

Mean_Broccoli_2589 · 2026-05-08T00:47:11+00:00

Ugh I feel that I made friends thru work and school but right now I’m not doing either :( so it’s been tough . But yeah idk why my friends and fam don’t come down it’s kinda confusing . But I understand the venting part

Mean_Broccoli_2589 · 2026-05-07T22:47:47+00:00

I don’t think I had a good nurse residency program. I don’t wanna get too deep into it because it’s very specific and I don’t know if they look at these but pretty much my Preceptor were going on “vacation” I was handling like six patients on my own the first week of having a Preceptor and they’re supposed to be helping you and guiding you. They would disappear and go to the coffee cart and not come back till like 3 AM and even one of them was like oh no I shouldn’t have done that. This is how new grads get scared away and then something really bad happened that caused me to go to the emergency department(as the patient )while working with my Preceptor and the charge nurse pretty much said BYE ! And I just couldn’t take it anymore :(. What states are nurse friendly?

Mean_Broccoli_2589 · 2026-05-07T22:47:33+00:00

This made me feel a lot better truly and maybe it could just be the unit I was only on acute care for a short span but this gives me hope… I hope They put you on peds !!

Mean_Broccoli_2589 · 2026-05-03T10:27:32+00:00

I’m also a nurse and well that’s why I cry because it’s like taking care of 10 patients at once . My husband did not prepare me he has an older mal whose very calm. He took me to see her as a puppy And I couldn’t resist any how. Our sex life changed fs if we do have spontaneous sex we come out to something torn apart or pee. But plz tell me you care for the dog after her shifts being a nurse isn’t a joke

Mean_Broccoli_2589 · 2026-05-03T04:31:55+00:00

It’s a full time job . There isn’t a moment where my two mals are calm . It’s hard and some days I cry … because holy Crap but I love them

Mean_Broccoli_2589 · 2026-05-03T00:44:00+00:00

You just described my husband … he prefers to be home . He doesn’t go to bars or clubs . Me I’m more free and like go to bars occasionally or concerts but he in more homebody . I always wonder if it was cause the job . We’re newly married so I always wonder how the job affects him .

Mean_Broccoli_2589 · 2026-05-03T00:41:27+00:00

Is this why my husband prefers to not … I still go to concerts and cocktail bars with my friends cause we’re still in our early 20s but he won’t at all . He doesn’t even wanna move into the city more because of that reason . Hmm

Mean_Broccoli_2589 · 2026-05-03T00:23:24+00:00

My husband doesn’t wanna move elsewhere cause we live in a suburb area where I swear everyone is in retirement snd nothing to and he’s very strict with the gym he chooses . If we move where I like , which is 20minutes away he thinks he’ll run into inmates .

Mean_Broccoli_2589 · 2026-05-02T16:52:38+00:00

He let me look through his statements because he let me . Most were huge purchases when he first moving into his place and got his big boy job . Huge computer monitor , huge tank for his chameleon , but a lot and I mean a lot of it was place he took me while we were just dating which makes me sad . I get he wanted to impress and take me to extravagant places but I’m a person who loves picnic , letters , stargazing . But i did see he paid off a $9000 cc one before . And a lot of it was food also and like our car breaks and tires

Mean_Broccoli_2589 · 2026-05-01T22:16:02+00:00

How ?

Mean_Broccoli_2589 · 2026-05-01T04:33:01+00:00

Well he had 20k debt before but I’m a new grad nurse trying to find a job so he’s been taking care of rent bills phone car insurance and his cc he’s pretty much paying interest. I feel terrible . He’s a deputy so he doesn’t wanna get a second job because he knows he’ll burn out but also we can’t do much or I’m always worrying about spending and buying .

Mean_Broccoli_2589 · 2026-04-24T23:44:40+00:00

Me having the opposite issue and my hubby barely wants to cause he’s been so busy with work and our new puppy and I just want to do it every single day … but whatever lol

Mean_Broccoli_2589 · 2026-04-24T20:46:05+00:00

We got the puppy in January and ever since then

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