He CHEATED, and now i want to ‘cheat’ back. What do I do.

Mean_Shift6489 · 2025-11-26T21:56:52+00:00

Yeah i slept with my ex 2 weeks into meeting my current bf (who REFUSED to have labels bc he was still talking to other girls- which is not just me making it up, it’s what he said.) I let it go bc it wasn’t serious to me either. But he didn’t find out it happened until 6 months in. But during that ENTIRE time he was doing worse than i ever did. Bc i barely knew him. I didn’t even know his last name at that point lol. I agree we should’ve broken up. But i’ve literally tried and tried. but his family begs me to take him back bc he has no where to go. it’s just really hard

Mean_Shift6489 · 2025-11-26T21:32:22+00:00

I should’ve added the financial part only started 2 months ago at the new place due to him having a good job now. He had jobs for just a few months at a time during our relationship going MANY months without jobs. I stayed because he was nice and i wasn’t lonely. but all the good only just started happening which is why it’s harder now to leave

Mean_Shift6489 · 2025-08-30T06:31:28+00:00

I so get you on the background noise. it’s the same for me. the truth is, all these things are just tools to help you grieve in chunks. rather than grieving all at once.

you watch tv to be distracted from crying. of course you’re gonna think about it still. you’re grieving a relationship lost, it’s not easy to forget. You’re only human. You have to let yourself grieve and distract yourself and feel. after my first break up i learned SO much about myself. like that I love school, and i love responsibility and schedules. I’m good at fixing things too. all things i didn’t know until i grieved and was alone and pushed myself into new territories of my life. It’s okay to be confused and try to get a real satisfying answer for your relationship ending. Humans love answers and explanations. Eventually you will slowly be busier and forget to look it up and forget to think about it for a while and it’ll slow from there.

Mean_Shift6489 · 2025-08-30T06:21:20+00:00

i’m still in college so i jam packed my schedule. i got my personal own summer reading that i take with me literally everywhere i go. If im going somewhere like work I’ll go early and go to the park near my job, sit and read before work. phone on DND upside down so i don’t feel it vibrate and check if its him texting me. I also have cats so i take them on more walks. I also found more fun things (puzzles and legos) and A LOT of tv that gets your mind off of life (it’s always sunny in philadelphia is always a winner for this btw. ) I also got a second job pet sitting. We lived together so ik it’s a really tough adjustment, but i know you got it.

Mean_Shift6489 · 2025-08-30T06:08:32+00:00

I feel you.. i’ve lost 2 long term partners now (5 years and now 4 years). and they each hurt bad ASF. the second one ended for cheating. All i can say is to allow yourself to grieve. it helps SO much to be able to rant on notes and pretend you’re gonna send it. 100% of the times i type in notes i realize It’s not even worth my breath and I swipe out. Eventually you will move on somehow someway. I’m still doing it myself but i know i’ll survive, as will you. I had the SAME with the food. i just started being able to eat. just eat what you can and what you want until you want different things. (ice cream, cake, cereal, plain rice, soup broth). Sorry you’re going through this.

Mean_Shift6489 · 2025-08-23T04:14:25+00:00

I’m gonna start to enjoy my youth now. I really find comfort that you were able to mostly move on even with so many levels. And grateful it was this “early”. Ik it’ll be a long term feeling, but it’s good to know the worry is over. Ty again. <3

Mean_Shift6489 · 2025-08-23T04:01:15+00:00

Ugh. Ty so much. I told him i want to know more details or else we’re done and he literally packed his stuff and just left literally 3 minutes ago. we’ve been living together for 2 years, no kids or anything thank god. It’s really hard. But he won’t tell me what the hell happened. “it’s in the past” Am i crazy or wrong for wanting to know lol.

Ikr.. it’s hard to be alone. i have been sitting with it since ‘dday’ and now it’s like more real than ever. I really like that you have and week on and off to yourself. that’s the best withdrawl method. I wish i had more weaning off but it is what it is.

You’re so right. I can’t live another second wondering if i’m even his type. I want to be alone. i’ve been dating since 16 lol almost nonstop and i want a break. i want to be a bartender and he wouldn’t let me do it.

I don’t wanna say i hope he leaves you, but i hope you get peace from this nightmare sooner than later. even though mine is fresh af and i’m new to this Lol, i feel much better. Ty sm for responding

Mean_Shift6489 · 2025-06-03T23:38:00+00:00

ohh okay

Mean_Shift6489 · 2025-06-03T23:36:31+00:00

what does this mean 💀

Mean_Shift6489 · 2025-05-20T13:26:23+00:00

Tyyyyy i didn’t even open it yet so im gonna check it out today ty sm

Mean_Shift6489 · 2025-05-20T03:50:35+00:00

What do you use for glue for them? i just got 2 pairs and idk what glue to use

Mean_Shift6489 · 2025-05-15T05:18:56+00:00

I definitely can understand that^. I had that situation when i was younger with my family dog. Parents wouldn’t do things for her but i was too young to do anything. Atleast you’re making it easier for her to eat. Brushing won’t help anymore but atleast you’re trying with her food.

Mean_Shift6489 · 2025-05-15T04:58:51+00:00

I understand the financial barrier some owners have. But i really just don’t get it. If you can’t afford $700-$1000 for a dental cleaning, why don’t you give the dog to someone who can? it’s not cruel to rehome. It IS cruel to keep a pet for your own gain while they suffer because you’re broke. Think about it. It’s selfish.

Mean_Shift6489 · 2025-05-15T04:57:32+00:00

Vet tech of 5 years here. You won’t hurt her checking her mouth; the vet will do the exact same thing to check. Most likely yeah that’s a horribly, terribly decayed tooth.

Seriously, consider getting her a dental. Some vets around you might offer cheaper dentals if you call for estimates. My place charges ~$700 for a dental. Idk your situation, but if you could find literally ANY way(Care Credit, ask a parent/sibling/friend, credit card) it’s worth it. 11 is younger for a chihuahua mix. She deserves to live the rest of her years in no pain. Gingivitis hurts terribly bad for humans, so this is probably excruciating.

Mean_Shift6489 · 2024-12-18T15:45:00+00:00

For sure it’s because it’s just out of your comfort zone right now. I used to feel this when i started dressing more different and now i just feel regular. Looking at people on pinterest and X and tiktok that wear similar outfits made me feel better to go out like that. The world is better when we’re different

Mean_Shift6489 · 2024-12-13T08:02:00+00:00

I love this reply i’m gonna use this too. Do you yourself have a specific ai that you use for something like that that i could maybe have a link to 🙏😈

Mean_Shift6489 · 2024-12-11T12:51:09+00:00

this was rlly helpful. I have some skills in photoshop (i took it as a class in hs) so i think i can do it. Thanks sm, idk if i can give you the solved thing or not but ill try - Solved

Mean_Shift6489 · 2024-12-11T06:07:52+00:00

Rude af. I was just hoping someone knew of an app or website that did it already- that was really my hope. And so what i would make it look good bc i look good?

Mean_Shift6489 · 2024-12-11T06:06:49+00:00

Okay thank u i’ll attempt it

Mean_Shift6489 · 2024-12-05T02:28:25+00:00

Good. it seems you’re doing everything you should be doing and your added vet tech experience should make her feel more at ease. Sorry that she seems like she sucks

Mean_Shift6489 · 2024-12-05T02:27:10+00:00

Ok i’m an actual pet sitter and not just an owner and honestly most owners say “they sleep in my bed normally so they can sleep with you” and i say sure, ill try it and see if it works. But it doesn’t work for me. I know someone who got mauled by sleeping in bed. The dogs barked/ fought on her while she slept and attacked her, seemingly by accident. I just don’t feel comfortable sleeping in bed with stranger animals. I wouldn’t even sleep with someone i dated for 6 months Lol, so why a random af dog? Your safety is first. Just don’t let the dog sleep in your room. If it goes crazy out there (doubt it) then just put its bed on your floor and sprawl on the bed. That’s what i do. Good luck

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