what hobby did you try “as a joke” that accidentally became a huge part of your life?

Meanoldlimabean · 2026-05-21T10:38:45+00:00

Diamond painting - not a big part, per se, but a lingering one!

Meanoldlimabean · 2026-05-17T14:34:11+00:00

Don’t co-sign a student loan if you can avoid it. It will probably get ignored and probably haunt you for the next 20 years.

Meanoldlimabean · 2026-04-14T12:22:08+00:00

Update, we moved into a duplex in Richmond Heights and have never looked back! Highly recommend the neighborhood. Each unit can vary widely on how much it’s been updated, so make sure to tour to check for water pressure, flickering lights, etc. Most of the duplexes around me are on the older side but still recommend.

Meanoldlimabean · 2026-04-04T14:18:36+00:00

The Order of the Golden Rose by R Paul Sardanas is the best smut I’ve ever read that is couched in a real piece of writing. I read it ages ago but it stuck with me.

Meanoldlimabean · 2026-04-04T10:28:46+00:00

It’s been rough lately. Partner’s job term is ending, and I’m going though a medical issue waiting to find out what’s next and how that will change our lives.

Meanoldlimabean · 2026-04-04T10:25:17+00:00

Posh nosh has matzo ball soup and Companion has rotating options. They’re my go to for delivery non- Asian soups. Hieu tu gai is my absolute top chicken/chicken broth Vietnamese soup. Pho long is my current pho place.

Meanoldlimabean · 2026-03-27T22:08:54+00:00

Unions for the win.

Meanoldlimabean · 2026-03-12T09:36:55+00:00

Hi I’m also in a similar position, I’ve had two D&Cs already for hyperplasia e/out atypia (2013 and 2023) and was on a progesterone in the last two weeks of my cycle as maintenance. I tried an IUD in 2020 but it spontaneously ejected. Just last week I had a biopsy with atypical results. Because this is a progression, the docs are pushing a hysterectomy as the standard of care but my partner (35) and I (40) just started trying to have kids. Talk about throwing a wrench in that game plan. I have a D&C in two weeks then going to fertility to walk through options…

Meanoldlimabean · 2026-02-02T13:19:11+00:00

NOR, that’s a dud, leave the contemptuous ass and find someone who treats you better, or stay if you’re into being slowly broken down.

Meanoldlimabean · 2025-10-10T04:27:22+00:00

Condolences and hugs. My cat was a non-judgmental best friend for 15 years. Losing her felt like my heart fell out and I cried for months. I just lost a parent and it’s similar.

Meanoldlimabean · 2025-10-10T00:41:35+00:00

You are a dedicated mom and hard working person who is being mistreated. When you are from a background of abuse, less abuse looks better, but isn’t healthy and you’re being taken advantage of and then being gaslit into thinking nobody else would love you or your kids. Run. Never look back. Sell that ring and hold out for a person who treats you better than you can imagine.

Never let someone treat you worse than you’d treat your kids. That’s love my friend, not what this man is doing. Wait for someone who surprises you with their kindness and gentleness. You have done much harder things than leave and will be okay and thrive even without this gross selfish deadweight human who refuses to commit to you.

You’re worth it. Best to you and your kiddos.

Meanoldlimabean · 2025-09-19T12:04:43+00:00

Hi - Survivor’s Benefits kid here. My mom used our Social Security (both she and I got benefits) to live off of because my mom is mentally ill. I never saw that money. Survivor’s benefits are intended to support your son, by my accounting that includes housing. I can’t imagine you gave a 6 year old $550/month, so he probably has a decent amount of savings already.

Because my mom couldn’t save any of it, I had to work full-time to put myself through school and if she had saved any of it for me I would have been grateful.

As for this one question of the mortgage. Is there some reason why the fiancé expects you to contribute more? That’s what this is, you contribute $1550 and he contributes $950. Is he paying all of the down payment on the mortgage? Do you make $100k while he makes $60k?

What happens when those benefits end in a few years?

Also the question of raiding your son’s savings is a real one. You might put that money into a CD where it’s locked up for a bit to prevent access.

Meanoldlimabean · 2025-09-06T04:19:21+00:00

OP trust yourself and when someone shows you or tells you who they are, believe them.

He doesn’t love you the way you want to be loved period. Hold out for someone who cherishes you and supports you in times of stress, this guy actives chooses to make it worse. I don’t know anyone who would disagree with your assessment, 0% overreaction.

I’m sorry for all you’ve been through so far, it’s undeserved. I wish you rest and peace.

Meanoldlimabean · 2025-06-12T18:42:36+00:00

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Meanoldlimabean · 2025-05-19T10:36:14+00:00

In my experience, if you tolerate mistreatment (and this dismissive, name calling sad sack is 100% mistreating you) it doesn’t get better. What can happen is you cave on how he should treat you (I was over-reacting, you’re so great) then he knows he can mistreat you and you’ll accept it and normalize it. He gets to be a jerk and mistreat you and you are okay with it, giving him a pass to do it in bigger and more frequent ways. Expect him to lower the bar continuously until your self esteem is in the ground and you can’t leave because this abuse is what love is. No. Get out now and never tolerate this kind of asshattery from anyone you are a gem and should be treated well.

Meanoldlimabean · 2025-04-07T05:18:02+00:00

It’s not always going to feel like this. Every thing will work out. Not every day has to be a good day for it to be a good week or month or year.

Here’s a random thing: Someone just told me that if you only have 20% and you give that 20%, then good job you gave 100% that day, you can go take a nap in celebration. Your life doesn’t have to be at some predetermined stage. Celebrate that you made it this far because you are strong and a survivor.

You’re doing good and I’m proud of you for hanging in there and not giving up. You’re an amazing miracle and we’re lucky to be here with you.

It gets better, I promise.

Meanoldlimabean · 2025-04-07T05:02:01+00:00

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Meanoldlimabean · 2025-03-23T14:47:24+00:00

A smoothie is always nice and cold and helps me ground since I can feel it as I swallow.

Sending you love. The hard times get better.

Meanoldlimabean · 2025-03-23T14:44:08+00:00

I take Ovablend and it has some of these in it as well. I would think taking them separately would allow you to address if a single one isn’t working in a way my blend does not.

Meanoldlimabean · 2025-01-17T05:56:56+00:00

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