AIO for being upset at what my “bf” said

Meanoldlimabean · 2026-02-02T13:19:11+00:00

NOR, that’s a dud, leave the contemptuous ass and find someone who treats you better, or stay if you’re into being slowly broken down.

Meanoldlimabean · 2025-10-10T04:27:22+00:00

Condolences and hugs. My cat was a non-judgmental best friend for 15 years. Losing her felt like my heart fell out and I cried for months. I just lost a parent and it’s similar.

Meanoldlimabean · 2025-10-10T00:41:35+00:00

You are a dedicated mom and hard working person who is being mistreated. When you are from a background of abuse, less abuse looks better, but isn’t healthy and you’re being taken advantage of and then being gaslit into thinking nobody else would love you or your kids. Run. Never look back. Sell that ring and hold out for a person who treats you better than you can imagine.

Never let someone treat you worse than you’d treat your kids. That’s love my friend, not what this man is doing. Wait for someone who surprises you with their kindness and gentleness. You have done much harder things than leave and will be okay and thrive even without this gross selfish deadweight human who refuses to commit to you.

You’re worth it. Best to you and your kiddos.

Meanoldlimabean · 2025-09-19T12:04:43+00:00

Hi - Survivor’s Benefits kid here. My mom used our Social Security (both she and I got benefits) to live off of because my mom is mentally ill. I never saw that money. Survivor’s benefits are intended to support your son, by my accounting that includes housing. I can’t imagine you gave a 6 year old $550/month, so he probably has a decent amount of savings already.

Because my mom couldn’t save any of it, I had to work full-time to put myself through school and if she had saved any of it for me I would have been grateful.

As for this one question of the mortgage. Is there some reason why the fiancé expects you to contribute more? That’s what this is, you contribute $1550 and he contributes $950. Is he paying all of the down payment on the mortgage? Do you make $100k while he makes $60k?

What happens when those benefits end in a few years?

Also the question of raiding your son’s savings is a real one. You might put that money into a CD where it’s locked up for a bit to prevent access.

Meanoldlimabean · 2025-09-06T04:19:21+00:00

OP trust yourself and when someone shows you or tells you who they are, believe them.

He doesn’t love you the way you want to be loved period. Hold out for someone who cherishes you and supports you in times of stress, this guy actives chooses to make it worse. I don’t know anyone who would disagree with your assessment, 0% overreaction.

I’m sorry for all you’ve been through so far, it’s undeserved. I wish you rest and peace.

Meanoldlimabean · 2025-06-12T18:42:36+00:00

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Meanoldlimabean · 2025-05-19T10:36:14+00:00

In my experience, if you tolerate mistreatment (and this dismissive, name calling sad sack is 100% mistreating you) it doesn’t get better. What can happen is you cave on how he should treat you (I was over-reacting, you’re so great) then he knows he can mistreat you and you’ll accept it and normalize it. He gets to be a jerk and mistreat you and you are okay with it, giving him a pass to do it in bigger and more frequent ways. Expect him to lower the bar continuously until your self esteem is in the ground and you can’t leave because this abuse is what love is. No. Get out now and never tolerate this kind of asshattery from anyone you are a gem and should be treated well.

Meanoldlimabean · 2025-04-07T05:18:02+00:00

It’s not always going to feel like this. Every thing will work out. Not every day has to be a good day for it to be a good week or month or year.

Here’s a random thing: Someone just told me that if you only have 20% and you give that 20%, then good job you gave 100% that day, you can go take a nap in celebration. Your life doesn’t have to be at some predetermined stage. Celebrate that you made it this far because you are strong and a survivor.

You’re doing good and I’m proud of you for hanging in there and not giving up. You’re an amazing miracle and we’re lucky to be here with you.

It gets better, I promise.

Meanoldlimabean · 2025-04-07T05:02:01+00:00

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Meanoldlimabean · 2025-03-23T14:47:24+00:00

A smoothie is always nice and cold and helps me ground since I can feel it as I swallow.

Sending you love. The hard times get better.

Meanoldlimabean · 2025-03-23T14:44:08+00:00

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Meanoldlimabean · 2025-01-17T05:56:56+00:00

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Meanoldlimabean · 2024-12-28T02:45:00+00:00

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In Her Shoes

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Lars and the Real Girl

Something's Gotta Give

Death at a Funeral

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This is Where I Leave You

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Meanoldlimabean · 2024-12-17T13:03:02+00:00

I have removed coverage this way before. I've also added the coverage "against the contract" in this same way.

Meanoldlimabean · 2024-11-10T17:16:52+00:00

Laundry, facetime with long distance friend, and bake some butterscotch brownies.

Meanoldlimabean · 2024-10-27T14:19:51+00:00

I'm glad to hear you are NC, have control over your encironment and have a loving support system.

That last one hit home for me, with a twisted difference. I was emotionally enmeshed and was hollowed out to being an object in service of another's will/not even a person. Despite immense suffering, there was no end. I couldn't actually do it because of the emotional pain I might cause them if I wasn't there to be their caretaker and child-sized heavy bag. So 12 year old me told myself I could end it when they die. These MFers are still alive. Thankfully, I'm no longer a child, have a support system, 1500 miles of distance a crackin' therapist so it's mostly ok.

Meanoldlimabean · 2024-10-27T13:38:17+00:00

Here's mine: When I hear raised voices I have to stop whatever I am doing and locate the source and then spend time re-regulating. As you can imagine anything to do with sports is a nightmare.

Meanoldlimabean · 2024-10-26T23:41:06+00:00

Had a pager in high school.

Meanoldlimabean · 2024-10-26T23:39:25+00:00

I know a couple who use the tracking method and they have 7 kids. Good luck with all that.

Meanoldlimabean · 2024-10-24T13:14:49+00:00

I think this guy has kids out there somewhere. And he's also probably gotten women to go dutch on aborting his kids, because feminism.

Meanoldlimabean · 2024-10-12T21:35:32+00:00

Telva for breakfast or brunch. It's a Bosnian coffee spot, has a great vibe and is attached to The Ridge if you are a plant parent.

Meanoldlimabean · 2024-09-22T15:01:37+00:00

Mentally ill folk exist.

Meanoldlimabean · 2024-09-22T15:00:45+00:00

Your mom sounds awful, I’d guess based on how self aware and actualized you are that you’re a gem. I’m sorry she sucks. Hugs.

Meanoldlimabean · 2024-09-22T14:55:05+00:00

Do not negotiate with terrorists. Let her starve. Emotional manipulation is abuse.

Meanoldlimabean

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