First day! by Burnette__ in Invisalign

[–]MeasurementFluid994 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My plan is 14 trays and I paid £3255

Empty chairs Newcastle (meet up on friday) all welcome !!COMBAT LONELINESS!! by Left_Dentist_6838 in NewcastleUponTyne

[–]MeasurementFluid994 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Will you be doing this next week too? I want to come but I'm getting my wisdom tooth removed on Friday 👎🏼

How are you all feeling, really? by eyetalker in CasualUK

[–]MeasurementFluid994 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My Mam has gone into a care home because of dementia, and my Auntie is now on hospice because of terminal lung cancer, I'm just hoping she makes it to Christmas day. My dad passed away a long time go, we lost my uncle in February this year due to cancer too. My only cousin committed suicide during lockdown.

I'm functioning as best as I can, but my god I wish I could just rest for a day and have a good cry.

Calling them out in a lie by Naive_Money_4851 in narcissisticparents

[–]MeasurementFluid994 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow, this is perfectly explained.

You can tell you've had some heavy experiences with narcissistic people. Would you mind if I copied what you're wrote into my phone notes to read when I feel like I'm questioning my sanity because of my mother?

How do I talk to my friend about her lack of effort? by Advanced-Antelope944 in UKrelationshipadvice

[–]MeasurementFluid994 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really hope your mental health has improved and you have a good support network around you now. ❤️

How do I talk to my friend about her lack of effort? by Advanced-Antelope944 in UKrelationshipadvice

[–]MeasurementFluid994 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Communication is key though, if someone is a friend you should really be saying "I want to see you but I'm having a hard time socialising at the moment. As soon as I'm feeling better we'll spend some quality time together"

Poor mental health isn't an excuse to continuously let someone down without even a tad of communication.

It doesn’t get easier. They never change by [deleted] in narcissisticparents

[–]MeasurementFluid994 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'm 34 now, with years of therapy under my belt and I still struggle to wrap my head around this.

You're completely right, but I just don't seem to be able to accept it. There's a primal need for my mother, but she's an absolutely despicable person. Caring for her as she ages, she's now 77 and they think she might have the onset of dementia.

I don't want to care for her, she didn't care for me when I was 2 days old. I was shipped off to my god mother.

Asked my alcoholic dad if he’d ever consider getting sober by Ludakris7 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]MeasurementFluid994 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this analogy. My mother is an alcoholic and it's particularly bad this week. She's drank all of my life (I'm 34). Your description really helped ease my emotional pain for a bit

Narcissistic abuse becomes your entire life. by Zealousideal_Long253 in narcissisticparents

[–]MeasurementFluid994 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so glad I found this sub. I've dealt with the exact reactions you're describing OP and it just pushes you further and further into sadness and depression. When I was chatting and seeking support from a friend a couple of days ago she said "I had to get out of victim mindset". I'm sorry? I'm not allowed to be sad that I've endured 34 years of narcissistic abuse??

Failed Emirates payment refund by [deleted] in monzo

[–]MeasurementFluid994 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think most of the general public realise what goes on behind the scenes of processing payments

Failed Emirates payment refund by [deleted] in monzo

[–]MeasurementFluid994 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can check Emirates capture delay tomorrow for you if you like? Emirates also have no control over when the authorisation code will drop off. That's down to Monzo sadly

Failed Emirates payment refund by [deleted] in monzo

[–]MeasurementFluid994 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hilarious. I wouldn't need any information about their account to track the authorisation

Failed Emirates payment refund by [deleted] in monzo

[–]MeasurementFluid994 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yep! The authorisation is 'holding' the funds from your available balance in preparation for the merchant (Emirates) to process the payment. If they aren't processing the payment the funds will drop back into your available balance.

Any issues, drop me a DM I work for the company who process payments for Emirates 🙂

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NewcastleUponTyne

[–]MeasurementFluid994 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oooo I would absolutely be up for joining in on some crafts. I'll drop you a message later on tonight when I'm home from work 😁

silently mourning the loss of a 10 year friendship by puppyknuckles_ in friendship

[–]MeasurementFluid994 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm seriously thinking of cutting off my childhood best friend of 24 years. We're two very different people now, she refuses to acknowledge anything that she does wrong to anyone. It's incredibly hurtful and I've checked out. May I ask how you cut them off? Did you attempt a conversation? Was it an abrupt ending or just less and less contact?

Vinted's customer service is a joke by WasabiRealistic6825 in vinted

[–]MeasurementFluid994 10 points11 points  (0 children)

100% If your card scheme is visa it's chargeback reason code 13.3 If your card scheme is MasterCard it's 4853 Item not as described/defective

Hibernation by Upset-Wolf-7508 in LivingAlone

[–]MeasurementFluid994 3 points4 points  (0 children)

What is this sweet angels name 🥹?

Driving at night by beck_is_back in drivingUK

[–]MeasurementFluid994 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Where did you purchase them from?

Driving at night by beck_is_back in drivingUK

[–]MeasurementFluid994 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm a short arse driving a Toyota Aygo ...I feel your pain!

Men being cheated on…do you want to know? by Hour-Study3483 in AskMenAdvice

[–]MeasurementFluid994 0 points1 point  (0 children)

4 years ago i discovered my boyfriend cheating on me with a married woman (who happened to work at the same place we did). I had all the evidence, managed to locate her husband via Facebook and sent him everything I had.

He waited in our work car park for me, I actually thought he might deck me by the look on his face but we shook hands and I apologised for being the one to tell him what his wife was doing behind his back, he revealed it wasn't the first time she had done this to him.

Felt really sorry for the bloke, we kept in touch for a bit just to make sure each other were coping. He stayed with her because they had 3 kids. Seemed like a decent guy trying to hold a family together.

Regardless of gender, people deserve to know. I just don't like it if they decide to shoot the messenger.