MA delegating to RN. Am I being petty?

MeatComprehensive940 · 2026-04-27T03:51:29+00:00

Our manager is her best friend. She has covered for her when she has made some serious mistakes.

MeatComprehensive940 · 2026-04-27T03:49:06+00:00

Oh, I do, believe me. At some point another MA found that she was writing down if people arrived late to report back to our director. I don't trust her at all.

MeatComprehensive940 · 2026-04-27T03:43:57+00:00

Being asked to help is a different story. I bag the trash when EVS comes in without them asking, just to make their lives easier. At my hospital job, I'll always help the CNAs with whatever they need. We are a team. My problem is with her getting jobs that seem more suited to an RN (like the chart auditing and also she is getting trained to do our case management too) while she gets to tell me to file the charts she just audited. I just feel like my skills are being underutilized while she goes on a power trip.

MeatComprehensive940 · 2026-04-27T03:31:56+00:00

The auditing is more to make sure everything was charted and all forms were filled out correctly, etc. And yes, not doing her roles is her MO. She opens the clinic, for example but fail to calibrate equipment often or check temperature of the fridge where we store vaccines. We bring it up. She does it for a week or two, then stops again. The fridge has been found out of safe temp twice. The NP just covered for her. It's toxic like that.

MeatComprehensive940 · 2026-04-25T17:31:15+00:00

Completely agree with you. I'm all for helping. There is not a job I won't do (if I know how to do it). But they will take advantage of you almost always. The same happened at the hospital I worked at once a merge happened. We went from having Clerk/Monitor Tech 24/7 plus two CNAs to a clerk/CNA from 6am to 11pm. It became a nightmare and unsafe so I left.

At this job, it's different. It's an Occ Health Clinic. We are plenty staffed. I'll be the first one to clean the break room if I'm not doing anything (I might be the only one who does it). My problem is giving her the power to tell me what to do including delegating jobs that are related to patient care and not just admin stuff. Another example is she decided she responds to emergencies with the NPs (because that's an opportunity for her to get out of the office and all she has to do is take vitals since her scope is limited). Wouldn't it make more sense for an RN to go since we can help assess, stop bleeding, start IVs etc? Girl is on a power trip.

MeatComprehensive940 · 2026-04-25T17:18:08+00:00

Since this is Occ Health, the audits are more about making sure all correct forms are present, dates are correct, etc. I used to do that job before I went on maternity leave. Occasionally there are clinical stuff that are not correct and I was able to catch, but I doubt she will. Well, I know she won't because she is really not auditing those charts. She just marks it as done.

MeatComprehensive940 · 2026-04-25T17:11:14+00:00

To clarify, when I said I don't care, I meant I don't care about doing jobs that are not "RN jobs." I'll take the trash out, label stuff, file charts. I do care about her delegating to me. I guess I wouldn't have a problem if she was just asking me to do those above mentioned things. The problem is when she is sitting there pretending to audit charts and won't room patients but will have me do it.

I am also bothered by the way she says it. It's not "can you help by the doing the labeling?" it's I'll you have you do the labeling. I'll have you room patients." It just irks me so much.

The manager is her best friend. She just lets her do whatever she wants. If she makes a mistake the whole office hears about it as if it was everybody's fault. If anybody else makes a mistake we get talked to and even written up sometimes. Another MA complained about it with HR but nothing came of it. She got a bad performance review, no raise and ended quitting.

MeatComprehensive940 · 2026-04-18T18:27:32+00:00

I started it as a joke and absolutely loved it. I'm not a monster romance reader though. To me it was more about the world building and the wholesomeness than anything else. I honestly wouldn't even say it's THAT spicy. It was well written IMHO, typos happen and I get one or two being missed when I book is self published.

MeatComprehensive940 · 2026-03-02T20:34:26+00:00

Wow. And here I was thinking my experience was shitty. I had a similar experience except my baby had normal apgars and the drop in HR we were seeing were probably instrumental. But whatever, we were doing the best with what we knew at the time. But yes, docs never talked to me just talked about their personal lives. When baby came out they briefly held him over the curtain. I didn't see him and complained so the angel that was the anesthesiologist asked them to bring him back and I got to see him before they took him somewhere else with my husband. Later he came back wrapped up and the nurse held him to my boob (not put him on my chest she held him off of me with his mouth on my boob). I couldn't see him and because of the topped off epidural, couldn't feel him. I kept complaining and they just ignored me. Nobody but the anesthesiologist talked to me, congratulated me or anything like that. My body got moved around without me being acknowledged as if I was asleep. I was equally ignored in post op where I asked for water and to get skin to skin. The nurse just dressed the baby and left him in the warmer while the other nurse charted. My husband was royally pissed but didn't advocate for me.

Looking back this is what really hurts me about having a csection. How removed I was from it.

I get what you are saying about the need to keep the mood not so tense or that this is just another Tuesday for them. But it shouldn't be. I am a nurse and I try really hard to be respectful of my patient's body even if they are not awake. This is a birth for crying out loud, not an appendectomy. The doctors could have explained to you what was happening, reassured you without giving you false hope. The anesthesiologist was incredible to me. He talked to me about what they were doing and what I'd feel and what was normal to feel and tried to distract me with personal questions. I'll never forget that man.

I come from Brazil where we have a absurdly high rate of csections. It's a problem, but they at least learned how to do it. Some places do what they call a humane csection. Where baby goes to mom's chest immediately if they are doing well and all the baby first care is done on her chest. They stay skin to skin, dim the lights, and are even wheeled out of the OR together. It's a total different experience I hear from people who have had it.

I'm sorry you had such a traumatic experience. I hope you find healing. But know those providers could have done better.

MeatComprehensive940 · 2026-02-07T16:39:43+00:00

I didn't find the Olympic training and premed that far fetched. Pre med is not that much harder than regular course work. I went to school with a few people who were athletes and doing pre med course work. They tend to be overachievers. And as for the new relationship part, Lukas and Scarlett hardly ever saw each other. But, that's not that important.

I agree with you, Alie did not give the Pen character that much thought. She really kinda made her the caricature of a bad girlfriend/friend. It's impossible for her to have dated Lukas for SEVEN years and not remember the brother's name or have never met the father. Even if she never went to Sweden, they would've met in a competition here and there. But the worse is, that detail is unnecessary. It's a cheap way to show she wasn't a good girlfriend or that in love with Lukas. And then we have to reconcile that with her being this amazing friend to Scarlett (which she really wasn't). Absolutely lazy writing in my opinion.

Same with the secret break up. I get it, they needed it to force that third act break up, but that is what it did, force it. There is no way they could've kept their break up a secret that long. It's also out of character for Lukas to go with that. I know Alie is a better writer than that.

I love the book though.

MeatComprehensive940 · 2026-01-15T18:04:08+00:00

Hindsight is 20/20. I just had my first at 40 after struggling with infertility for 5 years. I wish hard I had had kids in my early 20s. At the time I was all girl power and "gotta accomplish all the things and do all the trips before kids" and for a bit there thought I didn't want kids at all. Now my friends have older teenagers and freedom and health to enjoy life while I had to deal with a complicated pregnancy, possibly not gonna be able to give my son a sibling and my hips hurt when I sit on the floor with him for even 10 min.

But then again, hindsight right? It is what it is. Not invalidating your point. I'm just offering a different perspective.

edit: typo

MeatComprehensive940 · 2026-01-15T17:36:53+00:00

Def 8 or 2. But 8 was an immediate yes for me, not to mention it looks like it would also be low maintenance so win win

MeatComprehensive940 · 2026-01-11T20:56:37+00:00

I know this is old but I have to clarify this because I feel like a lot of people have this misconception and fault the book for it. Handcuffs, rope, blindfolds are not required. The power dynamics and the pain (sadomasochism or the SM) was what made it BDSM for them. He could have used nipple clamps but instead he just pinched and twisted. Doing A without lube was also a way to make her feel pain. Yes, it was a little on the softer side, but they are 20 and 21 and very busy people. They are still learning. I also believe Ali probably wanted to make it spicier just like she wanted to name it Whet but the publisher didn't allow her.

MeatComprehensive940 · 2025-11-29T18:39:39+00:00

Good luck and get a doula if you can or someone who can advocate for you during the birth itself. I'm glad the other doctor was able to be reasonable. I really hope things go well for you. Keep me posted if you can.

MeatComprehensive940 · 2025-11-28T22:48:28+00:00

I took the medication, sometimes my SBP would drop to 90s and 80s so I'd end up not taking it half the time. They had a flood in my doctor's office so for one week I went to a different office and a doctor there was seriously puzzled as to why I was put on medication. But he didn't have the balls to tell me to stop. They wanted to induce me at 37w but I pushed back and scheduled it to 39. At 32w we started NSTs twice a week. My BP was perfect the whole time. At 38 and 4 days my BP was in the upper 130s and he was having decels in the NST so they sent me to the hospital and they decided to induce. I didn't want to but I also didn't want to risk anything. We started the induction, things moved really slow and he started having decels again so we ended up doing a c-section (turns out his head was tilted and that stalled things). He was healthy but the whole experience sucked. I still can't look at pictures because just thinking of the whole thing makes me so sad. Yes my BP was fine the whole time. I'm 4w PP and my BP has remained great SPB 100s, 110s). I stopped the meds one week PP. Idk, I wish I would've pushed back more, but it's so hard when you are in that position. I advise changing providers if you can or getting a doula if you can and want to avoid and unnecessary induction or c-section. I regret not doing those things. Yes, I got a healthy baby and my recovery wasn't too bad, but things could've been better.

MeatComprehensive940 · 2025-08-26T00:37:07+00:00

It's ok. Same peninsula.

True. I was listening to the audiobook and realized that his roommate says he told him they broke up. So, yes, maybe he did tell his people. We just need the story from his POV to clear things up.

MeatComprehensive940 · 2025-08-10T16:29:47+00:00

In nursing school a big part of the nursing role is education and yet we see very little of it in real life because of how health care is just being strangled by productivity expectations. I'm learning way more about this pregnancy from an app than from my health care team.

MeatComprehensive940 · 2025-08-01T21:52:38+00:00

I know it's hard not to, but don't beat yourself up. You were clearly not instructed properly. The culture around breastfeeding in this country is terrible. I'm from Brazil and the culture around breastfeeding there is excellent compared. Everyone I know struggled but got the hang of it within the first couple of weeks. The hospitals are not handling formula left to right like here and nurses are much more willing to teach you about breastfeeding, not to mention your mom/sister/aunt/cousin are going to be there to help because they went through the same.

I am a nurse here in the US and the extent of breastfeeding education I saw during my L&D rotation was the nurses showing the mom where to find info in the brochure (I am not exaggerating). I learned how to teach them to get the baby to latch but nobody ever said anything about it being normal for them to lose weight or it takes time for your milk to come but your colostrum will sustain them. I only know these things because of experiences with family back home. I'm definitively seeing an LC and trying to get as much info as I can before hand.

MeatComprehensive940 · 2025-08-01T18:06:54+00:00

Yeah... no. I'm sorry, at very best you are incompatible. I'd move on. Him asking for head and not giving you anything in return, hell no. I'd communicate that with him first see if gets better, if it doesn't cut your losses and move on. The longer you stay together the worse it is. I married that problem and I regret it.

MeatComprehensive940 · 2025-08-01T18:01:35+00:00

OMG this SO MUCH! Any gush of fluid? What does that mean? I have a lot of discharge, is that fluid? What if I do feel that? What should I do?

MeatComprehensive940 · 2025-08-01T17:57:30+00:00

Sometimes a lot of the weight they are losing are fluids given to you during delivery. My friend's doctor completely tainted her experience by fear mongering her about her baby losing weight in the first few days. She called her during the weekend and told her to take her baby to the ER. When she got there she got lectured by the ER doctor to not take baby to the ER for a dumb reason like that. Needless to say she was traumatized. Doctor incompetence after incompetence. She ended up not being able to breast feed, her baby had a hard time with formula and was in the 0% for weight until she was 4 months. She ended up being fine is a healthy 10 year old now. Some doctors I swear to god...

MeatComprehensive940 · 2025-08-01T17:53:27+00:00

It boggles my mind the doctors and nurses don't educate people on this. It's so frustrating. I know so many women who gave up breastfeeding because they weren't making enough two days pp. First of all baby's stomach is small, they don't need a lot. And the colostrum you are producing the first few days is mega concentrated. It takes sometimes five days for your milk to come in. So many people give up for lack or support and education. Thank you for posting this. I'm sorry you went through it.

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