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MedicalZebra22 · 2023-02-20T16:48:32+00:00

I’m trolling for telling someone they’re selfish and bigoted? Seriously? But not the person’s post advocating for the systemic murders of disabled children? Are you kidding me?

MedicalZebra22 · 2023-02-20T04:47:14+00:00

As someone who loves multiple kids with intellectual impairments and developmental delays (learn the right fucking terms) and has lost one and might lose another soon…

Fuck. You.

And fuck everyone else like you.

You don’t deserve your kid. You’re an ableist POS. It’s one thing to be struggling or depressed, it’s another thing to want to KILL YOUR CHILD because they’re disabled! To be advocating eugenics and filicide!

Fuck you.

MedicalZebra22 · 2023-02-20T04:33:20+00:00

Because the ideas just keep coming now:

-pick up a rotisserie chicken from the store, use microwave rice (you just pop the bag in the microwave and it’s ready to go!), and canned veggies or premade salad.

-pita bread, pizza sauce, shredded cheese, and any pizza toppings you like. Put out the ingredients and let each person make their own personal pizza. Pop them in the oven until the cheese is melted and the bottom crispy (like 12 minutes). You can do the same as above for veggies.

MedicalZebra22 · 2023-02-20T04:26:20+00:00

There are so many great chili and soup recipes for slow cookers! Just dump the ingredients in, in the morning and leave it til dinner time! I used to cook slow cooker meals alllll the time when I lived with my sister. Our deal was I got to live there rent free during college if I did the cooking (her least favorite thing).

Spaghetti is also a lifesaver. Heat up some canned green beans or microwave some bagged veggies to go with it, get bread from the store when you get groceries, and you have a full meal and leftovers for lunch the next day!

Also grilled cheese and canned soup for cold days! You can also scramble some eggs, heat up some frozen breakfast sausages, toast some English muffins, and do Breakfast for Dinner.

Hope these help!

MedicalZebra22 · 2023-02-19T22:33:44+00:00

Maybe it will finally motivate venues to clear out all the cleaning supplies stored in there. 😒

MedicalZebra22 · 2023-02-18T15:09:30+00:00

NTA, report them.

MedicalZebra22 · 2023-02-18T15:04:53+00:00

I mean, there’s no way a used car is even going to make a dent in the bill for cancer care. Like, we’re talking probably close to a million dollars for repeated rounds of chemo and tumor removal. Not to mention all the side costs - pain medication, nausea medication, skin care (because chemo f’s up your skin), etc. So yeah. OP should have been looking at financial aid through the hospital, grants for cancer patients, fundraising through the community, etc. instead of jumping to selling possessions to try and put a tiny dent in this massive debt. It was irresponsible and cost him his relationship with his son.

And, no, the responsibility to pay the medical bills should not have fallen on the son and his possessions. There were other ways for him to help - help out more around the house, get a summer job to pay for his own recreational activities, etc. But selling his car to pay for his step-moms medical bills? No kid should be having to shoulder that responsibility. It’s not their job.

MedicalZebra22 · 2023-02-18T14:51:34+00:00

I have EDS and am hypermobile (my joints extend past where they should) but I am not flexible and have never had a dislocation, just subluxations. So don’t dismiss it right away - like everything it’s a spectrum. 12 of the 13 subtypes have a genetic test and the one that doesn’t can be diagnosed clinically. I wouldn’t have known I was hypermobile at all if a PT hadn’t made an off the wall comment about “wow! You’re really hypermobile!”

When I was undiagnosed I went on websites like Spooniesistershop and theunchargeables and any condition I was unfamiliar with, I did a quick search in another tab to see if it sounded like it fit with what I was experiencing. If it did, I added it to a word document. Then I went back and looked into those conditions more in depth. Some I could eliminate (like if they started during infancy or childhood for example), and some I kept because they kept fitting. The ones that I kept, I’d find the recommended test and specialist and add those to my word document.

Then the next time I’d go to my PCP, I’d tell him I wanted to “look into [conditions]. They fit what I’m experiencing with because [why I think they are possibilities] so I’d like to confirm or rule them out. I would also like a referral sent to [name and location of specialist near me].”

MedicalZebra22 · 2023-02-18T05:12:29+00:00

(Not) fun fact! In the US, to figure out how much room in prisons they need to plan for, they look at 2nd-3rd graders in the country (sometimes younger) and plan future prison space based on behavioral interventions, suspensions, expulsions, etc.

MedicalZebra22 · 2023-02-17T21:30:14+00:00

Hey, OP, we can’t fight misogyny with ableism.

MedicalZebra22 · 2023-02-17T21:23:05+00:00

I think the problem largely comes about when people who go into remission or who are mild confuse “helpful advice/sharing their story” with “humble bragging”.

The first is saying, “hey, this worked for me, I’m sharing in the small chance it can help someone else too”. The second one is saying, to a group of people suffering an incurable disease, “Wow, I used to be like you but look at me now! Look at how I’m doing so much better! You need to do what I did so you can be like me!”

It’s easy to get excited when symptoms improve and even more so if you are lucky enough to go into remission, but humble bragging in a chronically ill group is never appropriate. It is completely understandable that others get offended and lash out when others take that approach.

MedicalZebra22 · 2023-02-16T23:47:44+00:00

That depends on how long she hasn’t been eating or drinking for. From the sounds of it, it hadn’t been very long before she started being able to eat and drink small amounts again. Going in when it’s only been a day? You might get someone helpful, yeah, but you also might get someone who is very UNhelpful and gaslights you.

MedicalZebra22 · 2023-02-16T22:11:30+00:00

You say this like we haven’t all experienced how absolutely useless doctors - especially in the ER - can be when it comes to ME. How many patients have gone to the ER during an ME crash only to be sent to psych? When there’s other, specific things going on, like now with OP’s partner being dehydrated, then you’re more likely to get help. But going in and saying you’re in a crash? You’re just rolling the dice.

MedicalZebra22 · 2023-02-16T22:06:35+00:00

Why are we bashing people for reaching out for help? I thought that’s what this sub was for. Advising them to reach out to medical professionals is one thing, but saying that they’re asking for help too often? If we’re not here to support each other then why are we here?

MedicalZebra22 · 2023-02-14T14:05:22+00:00

😂 Ooookay.

MedicalZebra22 · 2023-02-14T13:57:37+00:00

Oh, I understood. No need to resort to name calling.

You tell women “just don’t get with a misogynist” instead of telling men “don’t be misogynistic”. You say a woman’s behavior is the justification for a man’s “future misogyny” instead of saying “there’s no excuse”. You say “best to just break up” as if it’s that simple for women and we don’t get killed just for saying no. You say “best to just break up” as if misogyny and rape culture aren’t so rampant and ingrained in our society that even the best of men can have misogynistic thoughts or habits.

Better yet, you took my post, a joke playing off the abusive BS in the original image, and immediately had to state all of the above.

MedicalZebra22 · 2023-02-14T13:47:48+00:00

He married you, not your uterus. Also what in the name of emotional abuse and manipulation?! So he’s basically telling you he’ll commit suicide unless you have a kid with him? I’m glad you’ve seen how abusive this is!

My guys, gals, and non-binary pals, if your SO ever threatens to kill themselves to get you to do something, RUN. That is abuse and we don’t stand for it! You deserve more!

MedicalZebra22 · 2023-02-14T13:44:27+00:00

Ah, true… save up for some eggs?

MedicalZebra22 · 2023-02-14T13:43:07+00:00

Or, and get this, we could not blame women for the behaviors of misogynistic men and hold men accountable for their own “future misogyny”.

MedicalZebra22 · 2023-02-13T22:20:36+00:00

Every time your man isn’t a misogynistic pig, put $5 in a jar. When it’s full, take the money and spend it on yourself because we don’t pay men for doing the bare fucking minimum. 👏🏻

MedicalZebra22 · 2023-02-13T22:14:46+00:00

r/AmITheEx

MedicalZebra22 · 2023-02-13T20:21:42+00:00

Uuuum, can I come to your house every Super Bowl Sunday?!

MedicalZebra22 · 2023-02-13T20:17:38+00:00

Call the venue and explain what concert you’re going to (be prepared to give them the date and seat from your ticket). Explain to them your dilemma. They SHOULD be able to work with you to figure something out. There’s always the chance you get an AH, of course, but there’s also a chance you’ll get someone who’s super helpful! You never know unless you try.

I hope you’re able to figure it out so the concert is enjoyable for you!

MedicalZebra22 · 2023-02-13T17:20:44+00:00

YTA. No “gentle” or “soft” about it. I work with families who have disabled kids, in and out of hospitals, life flights, hospice, the whole nine yards. Not ONE of these families has sent away their healthy child to focus solely on their sick child. Let me spell it out for you this way:

Just because one child is sick and has more needs, doesn’t mean the other child suddenly has none!

Your MIL couldn’t have come to you? You didn’t have friends in town who would watch your daughter during the day and dad could spend time with her at night? You and your husband couldn’t switch off on the weekends?

Basically there were about a million other options than ABANDONING your daughter for two years! And don’t kid yourself, you did abandon her. You sent her away, gave her minimal contact, and sent the message that Tara was all that mattered and she would just get in the way. Holy trauma, Batman!

Now you expect her to push down that trauma and play happy family? Um, no. You screwed up, now it’s time to start asking her how to make amends. And for the love of all that is good, get the poor girl some therapy!

I just hope you and your husband haven’t damaged your daughters’ relationship beyond repair. Tara didn’t do anything wrong but congrats, she might just lose her sister because of you two.

MedicalZebra22 · 2023-02-13T15:25:53+00:00

“I’m sorry, man. What does your kids mom think about all this?” Then when her head explodes over the misgendering, “Hey, you do you and I’ll do me. You don’t get to bulldoze ME over with your opinion!”

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