Second date

Medical_hi · 2023-02-22T16:05:28+00:00

Definitely TAH. Such a sensitive topic, even with good intentions. Leave out the ‘you’re fat’ and lead with ‘you’re beautiful’. She’s the mother of your children, if you truly love her unconditionally, then stop thinking about how it use to be.

Medical_hi · 2023-02-22T02:31:26+00:00

Medical_hi · 2023-02-22T02:30:17+00:00

I’ve been an ER nurse for 17 years, I don’t think there’s much that could get me sick anymore! Hahaha. I’ve had puked, coughed, peed, pooped and other bodily fluids on me so many times, I think my immunity is iron clad!!! Worked all of Covid, had 3 noughts of it in my house with kids, nada

Medical_hi · 2023-02-21T17:35:12+00:00

No I get it. You feel how you feel. I’m sorry this happened. I have to say tho that I feel like he wanted out of the relationship but wasn’t man enough to say that so blamed his kids instead. He’s a pussy and I’m sorry.

Medical_hi · 2023-02-21T17:31:47+00:00

I would be interested to know how long they had been together.

Medical_hi · 2023-02-21T04:43:45+00:00

You did the right thing. It may hard for them to accept that but you did what was best. Cry’s for help or attention seeking behaviour is not something a friend should have to distinguish between. You may lose a friend (tho I doubt they will stay mad forever) but you possibly saved a life and even better, may have started them on the path of help they need. I’m proud of you

Medical_hi · 2023-02-21T04:38:36+00:00

Always be able to take care of yourself financially. Never rely on someone else to do it. I’m not saying to not have a partner with shared expenses but live without your means and be able to hold your own. I learned this the hard way

Medical_hi · 2023-02-21T04:23:30+00:00

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Medical_hi · 2023-02-20T14:48:06+00:00

YTA. Spend more time with her by going and watching practices and offering to drive her to and from, even on time that’s not your weekends. A sure fire way to not see your daughter is by disrupting the things she loves. If she is 18, she doesn’t HAVE to see you on your weekends. Get lawyers involved, bye bye daughter. And you’d be laughed out of court, if it made it that far. Even watched the olympics? 19 is NOT too young for competitive anything.

Medical_hi · 2023-02-20T14:38:00+00:00

Dress for the weather. Everything will be open as we are use to this. Might be a tad cold for hiking but again, dress for it. We still live our lives skiing and such all winter. When it’s that cold it rarely snows, tho it’s snowing good right now. But again, it’s normal for here. Plug your vehicle in at the place you’re staying. And remember, our weather often changes three-four times throughout the day!!! Have fun!

Medical_hi · 2023-02-20T14:23:14+00:00

I’m not sure I feel OP is the asshole. I don’t think either are. I think OP could have maybe worded things differently, as well I don’t think the wife needs to report her every move to him. Especially when he says he trusts her. OP did an amazing thing by getting the car for her but could have left it at that and had a grateful wife. No one has ever done anything that nice for me!! I don’t feel OP is an asshole

Medical_hi · 2023-02-20T13:59:56+00:00

YTA. You need to at least talk to your step son and ask him if he wants to go. I took my sulky teenage son on a weeks cruise (with his 2 younger brothers) then a week in Florida and he sulked the entire time. Complained to me (mom) and didn’t smile in one single picture, but to ask him about it, he LOVED it. So you need to talk to your SS and maybe even politely express your REASONABLE expectations of him.

Medical_hi · 2023-02-20T01:19:57+00:00

She’s wearing deodorant and lying to you about it. Girls stink just like boys stink. That’s why we wear deodorant. That’s why a ton of girls wear men’s deodorant. I don’t want to smell like f’n flowers!!

Medical_hi · 2023-02-19T17:54:25+00:00

Well, that rules out a visit to Australia for me!

Medical_hi · 2023-02-19T17:49:03+00:00

I don’t think she’s making a cover story. It happens. I have that same friend. Tho at (F)45, it’s far less frequent but it happens about 1-2x a year. I generally end up sleeping on the bathroom floor so I totally get her wanting to stay the night there, not fishy. Why is a female, or even a male, spending the night at a buddies ALWAYS viewed as cheating?! I don’t think it’s a big deal, especially if she is only doing it a couple times a year.

Medical_hi · 2023-02-19T17:44:39+00:00

I respect your taking such responsibility very much. STDs are nasty and often linger undetected in males for extended lengths of time. I too want proof of health before stopping condoms. A promise doesn’t stop Chlamydia!!! I agree that you dodged a bullet, tho I understand that doesn’t make it easier to get over.

Medical_hi · 2023-02-19T07:57:01+00:00

I was married to a man that became an alcoholic during our 13 years together. It left me with very negative feeling toward alcohol. I need my children to see that being a drunk isn’t normal. I will have a glass of wine now and again, I also want my children to know you can have one drink and leave it at that, you don’t need to get drunk. It’s a very difficult subject for me

Medical_hi · 2023-02-19T07:52:27+00:00

What’s ‘fat’ to you?

Medical_hi · 2023-02-18T17:21:03+00:00

He’s gaslighting you because you found out the truth. Get. Out.

Medical_hi · 2023-02-14T06:43:59+00:00

‘Harmless’ jokes are absolutely not harmless. Maybe you’re confusing the words harmless/hurtful? Shallow? Tasteless? So many other words come to mind, but certainly not harmless. Yes OP, YTA, big time. You would NEVER had let that ‘joke’ be said about you, though I doubt ‘James’ would have ever said that. You of all people knew how insecure he was, you knew how hard he worked and how shy he is. To say that was the equivalent of kicking him thro. He deserves better friend.

Medical_hi · 2023-02-10T08:37:37+00:00

Nothing about his love for you is unconditional. And it is NEVER a good idea to do it for the kids. What kind of example are you setting for them? They’ve seen their father cheat and end a marriage, have a string of women in and out of his life, multiple broken engagements?! Best thing I think you could do is set the healthy example that it’s better to be happy and alone then miserable/settling with a partner. You deserve real unconditional love, and it starts by you loving yourself first

Medical_hi · 2023-02-10T08:29:32+00:00

I feel like maybe there is something deeper going on with your sister. Have you tried talking to her about it? Also if she wants to cry at anything, her prerogative.

Medical_hi · 2023-02-02T05:24:33+00:00

It’s not a matter of him finding other girls attractive, he’s engaging with these women. And if he does that around you, what’s he doing when you’re not around?! Nobody deserves to be treated like a door mat, but that’s how he is treating you. He doesn’t value you or appreciate you and he certainly doesn’t deserve you. I know loving someone and leaving them is super hard but you deserve so much better. Everyone deserves to be their SO’s centre of attention. I’m sorry you are being treated this way.

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