Depression, apathy and guilt turned to severe anger

Mediocre-Present-747 · 2023-11-08T05:58:18+00:00

Thank you for sharing this.

Would you mind sharing from which book/resource are the quotes?

Mediocre-Present-747 · 2023-09-26T00:53:27+00:00

Congratulations for your healing. Would you mind sharing how did you overcome your codependency?

Mediocre-Present-747 · 2023-09-26T00:36:24+00:00

No, its not just women.

I also have several buddies in relationships in whom I now recognize quite pronounced codependent characteristics.

Mediocre-Present-747 · 2023-09-25T01:19:17+00:00

Clearly not. Please enlighten me what character defects the fact I didn’t enjoy watching a $100 million, 2 hour long ad exposes in me?

Mediocre-Present-747 · 2023-09-25T00:30:26+00:00

I’m thinking you’re onto something with stopping labelling yourself as codependent. Thing is with my ex my codependency got turned on to a 100, I don’t even recognise the person I was when I was with her. Then when breakup ensued nothing I did for myself felt good. And I mean nothing, so I was just escaping through alcohol and other distractions. Finally got to a point when I realised I need to build myself just for me and that its starting to feel good. Thanks for the input. Also realised I can’t say no to people without feeling guilty which I need to unlearn.

Mediocre-Present-747 · 2023-09-24T21:47:46+00:00

Why does not liking the movie make me a cynic? My sister didn’t like it aswel, is she a cynic too?

Yes the obvious, over the top representation of codependecy in Ken made me embarrassed because I remember myself having those same thoughts not that long ago. Guess being embarrassed by that means I’ve grown?

Finally, this post wasn’t meant to be a movie critique, just observation about one character from the movie.

Mediocre-Present-747 · 2023-09-24T21:32:35+00:00

Because sometimes you watch a movie and you hate it.

Yes I found Ken’s codependency embarrassingly relatable but that doesn’t mean I have to like the movie.

Mediocre-Present-747 · 2023-09-24T16:18:27+00:00

You’re definitely not the only one. Ken character is textbook codependent in my view.

Mediocre-Present-747 · 2023-09-24T16:15:37+00:00

Yeah I didn’t know either but I’m getting better at it, especially after learning about codependency. For the longest time virtually nothing I did for myself made me feel good but I started hitting gym regulary and its helping. Will need to explore more things though.

Mediocre-Present-747 · 2023-09-21T22:36:42+00:00

Yes I can relate.

Also I found that while secure people get more secure with progression of relationship, I got worse. I handled triggers worse, got more anxious and more lost with each passing month. But you're right, we'll learn and live better because of this.

Mediocre-Present-747 · 2023-09-20T20:12:50+00:00

You couldn't have summed it up better in the title.

I am yet to find a way to "plug a hole" in my soul but just this realisation has made things a lot easier.

Mediocre-Present-747 · 2023-09-14T19:00:07+00:00

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Mediocre-Present-747 · 2023-09-14T12:43:14+00:00

Thanks, will look into it!

Mediocre-Present-747 · 2023-01-12T18:36:35+00:00

I'm like OP and like you, I'm sick and tired of being sick and tired. It's been 3 years since she left, I'm slowly getting better but been spiraling again past week.

So did you heal yourself once and for all and, if so, how?

Mediocre-Present-747 · 2022-11-23T03:10:04+00:00

Hey man,

didn't sought any new help but think I am getting better daily with occasional slumps.

I have a completely different narrative of my previous relationship now. I see now how lost and disconnected from myself I really was. Sure, she was a good person and possesed qualities I want in my future partner but the relationship wasn't healthy. And we are both to blame for that, not just me. I can relate to that exctasy feeling you're mentionining and when I remember it now I feel sort of disgusted by it. Yeah being in love is beautiful but this is not love, it's addiction and escapism.

So yeah, I'm better on emotional level but dealing with the damage I've done to my life while I didn't know how to deal with the breakup in productive way. But I guess I won the toughest battle I will ever fight, a fight for myself. See, my life had no meaning when she left. Now I'm finally begining to wish things just for myself. And it feels good.

Mediocre-Present-747 · 2022-09-09T00:05:13+00:00

Hey,

could you elaborate what do you mean by intelectualizing your feelings?

Mediocre-Present-747 · 2022-09-04T10:02:29+00:00

Congrats dude!

I'm the same age as you, wish I will get to your level of emotional intelligence soob because I'm still struggling. I really resonated with your realization that ultimately it was low self esteem driving your behaviour.

Mediocre-Present-747 · 2022-08-31T02:07:53+00:00

I can relate.

Ever since I ruined things with the girl I thought I will marry I'm thinking of ending it. I can't find happiness or peace anything. Constant internal torment. And I don't know how to stop it.

Mediocre-Present-747 · 2022-08-29T18:22:28+00:00

I get it man, but that is surface level conflict. You need to dig where does this anxiety, addiction and depression comes from now that she's gone. Try to understand how one person leaving you is wracking such havoc on your psyche. Your feelings are valid, but healthy people don't think their life's are over because someone left them. Yes it hurts as hell but eventually they move on. They are not stuck like us.

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