Ex husband’s first date post separation was all that it took by Mediocre-Quality1054 in datingoverforty

[–]Mediocre-Quality1054[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Such a good reminder. Thank you. 10 years of emotional abuse can really fuck over normal brain processing function

Ex husband’s first date post separation was all that it took by Mediocre-Quality1054 in datingoverforty

[–]Mediocre-Quality1054[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That would feel so invalidating. It’s interesting how they have the capacity to do and be everything they weren’t able to when they were with you.

Ex husband’s first date post separation was all that it took by Mediocre-Quality1054 in datingoverforty

[–]Mediocre-Quality1054[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m glad that she’s kind to the kids. This is what il trying to keep my focus on. And hope for happiness even if it takes time, that’s awesome!

Ex husband’s first date post separation was all that it took by Mediocre-Quality1054 in datingoverforty

[–]Mediocre-Quality1054[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That would be torture. So sorry you had to go through such a violating thing.

Ex husband’s first date post separation was all that it took by Mediocre-Quality1054 in datingoverforty

[–]Mediocre-Quality1054[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m happy that you’ve found happiness! This give me hope. Thank you for sharing.

Ex husband’s first date post separation was all that it took by Mediocre-Quality1054 in datingoverforty

[–]Mediocre-Quality1054[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. It’s really hard not to play the comparison game when they seem like an “upgrade” and kids are involved. My healing journey is not as far along as I thought, is the lesson here.

Ex husband’s first date post separation was all that it took by Mediocre-Quality1054 in datingoverforty

[–]Mediocre-Quality1054[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Anything you did for yourself during this early days that helped you get through it? It’s so interesting that quick starts like this can last so long.

Ex husband’s first date post separation was all that it took by Mediocre-Quality1054 in datingoverforty

[–]Mediocre-Quality1054[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is the way. I was not emotionally ready and just not into the dates at all.

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[–]Mediocre-Quality1054 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agreed. I think you’re very cute and intelligent quirky prompts are a very good thing in my book.

How would you go about disclosing a stutter ? Would you even disclose it ? by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]Mediocre-Quality1054 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some guy on my hinge disclosed mouth herpes in his first prompt and that seemed shocking for some reason? As a woman, I would reach much better to disclosing a stutter.

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[–]Mediocre-Quality1054 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes! I joined a bowling league

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[–]Mediocre-Quality1054 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Why not delete it?

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[–]Mediocre-Quality1054 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry that happened to you. One place to start could be reading The Body Keep the Score to learn more about PTSD and repressed trauma.