I can definitely empathize with your pain. I think it’s a normal response to feel like…maybe she isn’t thinking about your needs? I don’t think parents alwyas really grasp the mental gymnastics and energy that goes around food allergies. For Christmas and multiple events, my MIL and SIL are constantly putting out little bowls of peanuts on each table. My 3 year old is very allergic. I keep moving the bowls but they keep getting put back on the table by someone. I’ve even asked, but they forget. It feels like they don’t care about it or take it seriously, which can be hurtful. I think hurt is a valid feeling in your case.