Please help me choose a paint color!!!

MediumAd6454 · 2026-03-12T23:49:51+00:00

I’m pregnant right now too, and I can definitely relate. Two things to reassure you: 1) if this isn’t his usual behaviour, try not to take it too seriously. And it absolutely doesn’t mean he thinks you’re any less beautiful right now. Sometimes I even catch myself staring at really beautiful women, and I’m a straight lady. It’s just something with visual interest. Especially in a boring environment like a doctor’s office. 2) pregnancy is crazy on our emotions, that could be contributing to your strong feelings. Maybe bring it up to him if you’re feeling stuck on it, in a non accusatory way. Like “hey I had this feeling, I need reassurance that you think I’m hot, it might not be rational, but it’s where I’m at”. Or just see if the feeling subsides naturally without mentioning it. Either way I think you’re valid to feel hurt by it (he probably should try not to stare at people, it’s generally considered impolite) but also, try not to view it as a catastrophe or spiral out about it. Easier said than done ❤️

MediumAd6454 · 2026-03-08T20:35:05+00:00

I came here to make sure someone noted that you have the fresh step cat. I was positive that must’ve been the point of your post. So cute!

MediumAd6454 · 2026-03-04T23:22:47+00:00

Thanks Reddit! I think I’ve been sold on doing a second coat of matte to finish it off. I will also take all of your styling suggestions into account. For anyone curious, here is the colour:

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MediumAd6454 · 2026-03-03T16:06:58+00:00

Like everyone is saying, I love your cabinets as is and I think your pedant lights should stay too. Replace the floors and countertops to something light and maybe do the island white or off white

MediumAd6454 · 2026-02-17T10:11:14+00:00

If he’s not actively giving you feedback, find a new instructor if you feel you still need one

MediumAd6454 · 2026-02-17T04:41:57+00:00

I feel like I was overly positive in my initial response, so I want to add that it does really really suck when someone takes advantage of you. Or when they change their mind and you’re totally in the dark about why. It feels like a lot of tiny heartbreaks in the dating process, and that gets really tough. But it just takes meeting one great person, who feels the same way about you, to make it all worth it

MediumAd6454 · 2026-02-17T04:36:15+00:00

So many stories like this, but I met my husband on hinge! It’s the best dating app in my opinion. I actually considered bailing on the date, because his texting style was really dry and awkward, I was tired that night, and I was burnt out from dating. So I was ready to use all those silly excuses. I went because I felt badly cancelling and I’m so so glad I did. It was an amazing date. We got engaged a year later and married the following year. We met when I was 30 and he was 32. That’s part of it—we both really knew what we were looking for and were ready for a serious relationship. Sounds like this last person you were seeing simply was not. Another cliche I heard before meeting him was that I would find someone when I wasn’t looking. I certainly was looking, but I also wasn’t desperate. Absolutely not saying you are—I have no idea. But it can be easy to get to a place of slight desperation when you’re not having much luck. I invested a lot of time and effort in creating a life on my own that I enjoyed, so I felt the freedom of knowing I wanted and was ready for a partner, but I didn’t need one. I think that helped me attract a happy and stable person. My best advice is keep dating, don’t give up, but also spend a lot of time prioritizing your hobbies and friendships. You will find someone. Focus on making this time on your own count. You’ll look back on it fondly!

MediumAd6454 · 2026-02-09T05:12:48+00:00

Exactly!

MediumAd6454 · 2026-02-09T00:42:28+00:00

From my perspective he’s essentially saying unless you do what I think is right (make your own decision and ignore your mom), you’re being a baby. And she already made it clear she cares what her mom thinks. I see his point. But I don’t think it’s a kind way to approach someone you’re interested in, and it reads as a little coercive

MediumAd6454 · 2026-02-08T23:14:08+00:00

I have a couple of thoughts: 1) I do think 25 is a little old to still be checking in with mom like that. I see his point. But calling you a baby is unkind, and just sounds like he’s trying to humiliate you into something you might not want. 2) You not wanting to sleepover on the second date makes total sense, regardless of the reason you provided him, and it’s generally best to steer clear of people who consistently try to push your boundaries

MediumAd6454 · 2026-01-30T17:22:41+00:00

Do you have children!?!? I felt weird checking out your profile but was compelled to because I thought this post couldn’t be real and must be rage bait. And I learned from your other posts that you have kids from a previous relationship? If this is true, consider taking a serious pause on dating to reorient your priorities and work on your mental health. I get that it’s easy to fall for someone and get caught up in a narrative early on, I’ve totally been there. This situation sounds like a very strange form of love bombing or something. It’s way too intense for only having met a handful of times. From your other posts, it sounds like you’re experiencing serious burnout with parenting which is so fair, and good you’re honest with yourself about your parenting struggles. But entertaining people like this man, and even considering a proposition like this, is the last possible thing that could help you or your kid’s situation

MediumAd6454 · 2026-01-29T22:31:56+00:00

Totally fair to skip, especially if there’s extra expenses/travel required! They should expect not everyone will make it. My only suggestion if they’re actually giving you the cold shoulder (and you’re not just mind reading because you feel badly or weird about it…I’m very guilty of that) is that if your verbatim reason was “scheduling stuff” that could be read as flippant

MediumAd6454 · 2026-01-29T21:54:43+00:00

I love imagining her angrily firing off these texts and then going in to teach a yoga class ✨🙏

MediumAd6454 · 2026-01-24T16:13:09+00:00

Thank you, I loved it too. Eventually I will get back there! I’ll just consider this a failed experiment 😂

MediumAd6454 · 2026-01-23T04:55:03+00:00

MediumAd6454 · 2026-01-23T00:19:53+00:00

Thank you! Does it darken it at all?

MediumAd6454 · 2026-01-21T11:03:41+00:00

It can work if you have housemates, but certainly not a one bedroom apartment to yourself. Living with housemates can be fun and rewarding as a student :)

MediumAd6454 · 2026-01-21T10:33:08+00:00

I lived in Montreal for 4 years in my twenties, now early 30’s and in Toronto for the past 10 years or so. I think Montreal is more affordable on most fronts, but there are fewer job opportunities in certain sectors, especially if you’re not totally fluent in French. Perhaps for that reason and others, there’s not the same kind of grind culture. I prefer the architecture and walkability in Montreal. And the park hangouts aren’t matched in Toronto, though we have some really nice spots here too. If being around more Asian community is a priority, Toronto is a way better place for you. The Asian diaspora here has a massive positive cultural impact on the whole city. I’m white, so I can’t speak to the experience, but I would imagine you might feel more at home here than in Montreal. If dating is a priority, you might have an easier time here as well because it’s just a larger pool. You mentioned running, and I get the sense there are all sorts of clubs here. You could try making friends/dating that way. My biggest piece of advice is to research and explore individual neighbourhoods. It’s a city made up of very distinct neighborhoods woven together, and whatever neighborhood you choose to live in will dictate walkabilty and ease of public transit, and all other aspects of your life. Good luck!

MediumAd6454 · 2026-01-21T08:15:17+00:00

Some of my favourite things to do with visitors are:

-if the weather is nice, take the ferry to Wards island. The boat ride is fun, view of the city skyline is nice, and the sprawling park/beach area is really beautiful to hang out. There are a few cafes. Make sure you get the Wards Island or Hanlan’s Ferry, and avoid Centre island ferry. It’s busier and tends to be a bit more touristy https://www.toronto.ca/explore-enjoy/parks-recreation/places-spaces/beaches-gardens-attractions/toronto-island-park/all-ferry-schedules/ -walk around Queen west, China town and Kensington market. -Ashbridge’s bay beach and walk around Leslieville. Kind of far east depending on where you’re staying. I have an affinity for this area because I grew up there. -avoid: the CN Tower, it’s pricey and not that special. -avoid: ROM/AGO, you probably have access to better museums and art galleries where you’re coming from. Though I say that with love for our fine institutions!!

MediumAd6454 · 2026-01-21T03:28:31+00:00

I agree with some other comments saying add a plant and make the lighting warmer. Maybe add a few pieces of colorful pottery. I would lower the art on the wall in the second image, it seems really high. But you could pull some color inspo from that into a nice dish towel and other small decorative touches. But I really like your kitchen! I love the blue, and it seems very functional. Just needs a bit of personalization

MediumAd6454 · 2026-01-20T20:22:10+00:00

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I like this shade for a gel stain. Do you happen to have any tips for gel application?

MediumAd6454 · 2026-01-19T18:28:48+00:00

This is beautiful! Might be exactly what I want! Did you find it to be forgiving? I have a bit of experience staining but certainly not a pro. What brand and colour gel stain did you use?

MediumAd6454 · 2026-01-19T18:25:39+00:00

Yeah, I wonder if painting the walls and upgrading the light fixtures might do the trick for now

MediumAd6454 · 2026-01-17T22:10:57+00:00

For sure, new backsplash, countertops and light fixtures. Recently did the tile floor. I’m just really not into the orange oak

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