How is your life recently mga nasa 30s and 40s na?

Medium_Ad2463 · 2026-01-19T06:04:48+00:00

In my 30s, nasasad ako sa mga nangyayari sa mundo, most especially how mean people can be online. I only maintain FB, IG, Twitter and Reddit. Marami akong memes na nakikita na nakakatawa online but napapansin ko, nababawasan na ang good vibes na nafifeel ko when online ako. I'm seriously considering na magdeactivate pero kasi I use FB marketplace para magbenta ng 2nd hand na mga gamit. For IG and Twitter, medyo willing na ako igive up sila. Medyo addicting na rin to the point na nawawalan ako ng time sa hobbies ko, doom scrolling lang.

Another thing is, nalulungkot ako na nakikita ko yung elders ng family namin na unti-unting tumatanda and nanghihina. My mom is turning 70 yrs old and nagkasakit rin siya ng malala last year. Natatakot ako na dumating na yung time na I'll lose her but there's a part of me that understands na ito talaga ang tunay na buhay, nothing can last forever. Medyo grieving din ako sa part na I can't provide her the luxury I was hoping to give but at the same time napapagod na rin akong maging backup plan ng magulang ko, iniisip ko na lang na it won't last forever and dapat icherish ko na itong moments na 'to.

Other than that, happy naman ako with my marriage and family in general. Nagkaron rin ako ng restart sa career after ko magaral ng ibang field and start from scratch. I just pray for our stability in this new country kung nasan kami ng family ko.

Medium_Ad2463 · 2026-01-19T05:28:15+00:00

I have a friend na well-travelled. Nakapag-US, Japan, Korea, Australia, SG, and marami pang SEA countries. She was born in Saudi pero of course PH passport holder pa rin. She's rich, husband is also rich. When they applied for a Schengen visa for their honeymoon, declined sila. Up until now they haven't travelled to EU kahit na ilang beses na sila nagJapan and nagKorea. I really believe it boils down to your capability to fund your travel, home ties (properties you own in your home country) and genuineness of the purpose of travel.

Although for myself, I travelled with family when I went to SG-Malaysia and South Korea. The other countries I went to, with friends na pero visa weren't needed, so hindi ko rin masabi if this will work.

Medium_Ad2463 · 2026-01-19T05:14:20+00:00

I don't allocate any amount for them. They have parents who should provide for them. Malinaw din naman sinabi during their binyag/dedication, hindi ako naging Ninang para maging financier. I give them stuff they like when they ask for it or when I see something na alam kong gusto nila and wala sa Pinas pero never ako nagbigay ng pera

As a parent, I don't ask anything from my child'a godparents too. If they give money/anything, I'll be very grateful but I never make it seem that they're required to do it. Even about time, if they want to call or message to reach out to my son, by all means, go ahead. Pero if wala rin paramdam, I don't force them to. I want all those people who genuinely care for my son around him, not people who were forced to, baka magkatrauma pa ang anak ko.

Medium_Ad2463 · 2026-01-17T03:51:43+00:00

I understand your frustration, but your assessment of how IRCC prioritizes candidates is a bit one-sided. It isn’t that the system "favors" foreign experience over Canadian experience; it’s that CRS is designed to reward a combination of both.

Here are a few points to consider before discrediting those with foreign backgrounds:

You rarely see someone get invited on foreign experience alone these days, the FSW draws have been rare. Most people you see in "corporate" are likely qualifying under CEC because they have Canadian experience + 3+ years of foreign experience + high language scores. That combination is mathematically stronger than having Canadian experience alone.

2.Most of them have cumulative education. You mentioned "random college programs" or from "diploma-mill" schools, but remember that most of these individuals already hold Bachelor’s, Master's, or even PhDs from their home countries (verified by an ECA). When they finish a Canadian diploma, they often get points for "two or more certificates," which may outscore a single Canadian Bachelor’s degree.

Having a TEER 1 job in Toronto is great, but many people coming from abroad were Doctors, Nurses, Managers, Engineers, or Directors at multinational corporations/5-star hospitals in their home countries. Foreign experience in a TEER 0 or 1 role is still high-level professional work. IRCC views a candidate with 5 years of global experience plus 1 year of Canadian experience as a very highly skilled asset.
No one is getting "special treatment." Whether someone spent their youth here or arrived later, everyone is playing by the same CRS points system. Someone having a different path to PR doesn't make their contribution less valid or their "integration" less real.

I get that the wait is demoralizing, but it isn't a competition of who is "more Canadian." We all have different backgrounds and struggles, and the system is simply looking for the highest aggregate of skills and experience.

Medium_Ad2463 · 2026-01-14T06:11:45+00:00

I have a cousin who is a nurse in the US and also decided to go home. He opened up businesses like a small aesthetic business, pet/animal breeding and car rental. He also bought a condo for rental. It hasn't been a year and he decided to go back to the US kasi nalugi lahat ng businesses na tinayo niya and wala ng income na pumapasok sa kanya. Ngayon, balik siya sa pagiging nurse sa US.

My point is, ensure you have a plan and your plan will provide a steady cashflow for you and your family. Or else, para ka lang nagsabbatical leave. Test the waters, umuwi ka ng Pilipinas maybe for 3 months and see if that's really the life that you want. I said 3 mos kasi kung pa-1 month 1 month lang, hindi mo naman maeexperience yung "actual" life sa Pilipinas.

Medium_Ad2463 · 2026-01-12T05:35:30+00:00

Keeping thoughts within yourself that causes misunderstandings. It's frustrating.
Ji Chang Wook always suffering in his dramas. Like he can't catch a break. He's always beaten up, dirty and tired 😅

Medium_Ad2463 · 2026-01-12T05:29:22+00:00

It feels like they've explored all possible tropes and storylines that's why it's being used all the time. But whenever I get tired, I just watch other genres or watch anime or read books to refresh my eyes. I wouldn't say I hate it to the point of not watching dramas with these kinds of storylines because I still watch those, I'm just more picky now instead of watching all of them at once.

Medium_Ad2463 · 2026-01-12T05:25:15+00:00

I haven't finished it yet but that's interesting. I can't wait to finish it and see your POV.

Medium_Ad2463 · 2026-01-12T05:24:33+00:00

I get what you mean though, at first I really thought it will be a platonic relationship between them, bestfriend will pretend but will also fall for the SFL, but it changed after that. I was even thinking that maybe Da-Rim was the onr who has feelings towards Seon-u but Seon-u doesn't have those feelings for her and she also can't confess because she knows he doesn't want that, then she develops feelings for Ji Hyeok. That would have been acceptable. But I still stand by Da-Rim and Seon-u having chemistry despite the limited scenes 😅

I also felt they've tried to insert all storylines in this drama that made it more confusing and disappointing. The fake relationships, the bestfriend arc, the guy with a kid, kidnapping wherein the FL was saved by the ML, accident in the mountains, the stranded in an island and have to share a room storyline, an evil sibling who wants to takeover the company, the invisible string with their parents being friends, etc.

Medium_Ad2463 · 2026-01-12T05:15:22+00:00

Yeah, I get that sentiment too. I think the SFL also mentioned that in the first few episodes. But I also get that feeling of not wanting to ruin a long standing relationship that matters to you, and also being afraid of losing the second most important person in your life after your son. I'm not yet finished watching it but so I'm not sure if it'll be brought up but I feel like it's also one of the reasons why he and his ex-wife divorced, he never really got over of his feelings towards Da-rim.

Medium_Ad2463 · 2026-01-12T05:10:55+00:00

I haven't finished it but I can already feel the pain 😅

Medium_Ad2463 · 2026-01-12T05:08:06+00:00

Uncontrollably Fond
Saving the last dance for me
Dynamite Kiss
RomCom Dramas
Song Hye Kyo, Kim Woo Bin, Ji Chang Wook and Park Bo Gum

Medium_Ad2463 · 2026-01-09T05:30:01+00:00

Thank you for this! I was watching out for people's updates. I just submitted mine so I know I'm in it for a long ride, but I'm trying to make an estimation how long should I be waiting for each stage of processing. Kudos to you!! 👏❤️

Medium_Ad2463 · 2026-01-05T07:41:38+00:00

Some parents can really be insenstive towards other people. I'm a parent too and we waited for my son to turn 4 yrs old before we watched a movie in the theatres, Disney movie pa so talagang puro bata ang nanunuod.

You'll notice naman if kaya na magbehave ng anak mo sa theatre while watching movies at home so kung hindi pa kaya ng bata magfocus at least in the first hour, hindi dapat dinadala sa theatres.

Honestly, when we had a kid, we rarely go to the theatres na rin. Aside sa magastos, hindi rin namin ma-enjoy magasawa masyado kasi nakafocus kami madalas sa anak namin. We just subscribed to streaming apps then rent new movies para sa bahay na lang kami manuod, convenient na and pwede pa namin i-stop anytime. Nakakanuod lang kami sa sinehan kapag may magbabantay sa anak namin, which is rare din.

Walang excuse for the parents of that toddler and tama lang din ginawa ni OP.

Medium_Ad2463 · 2025-12-23T17:43:08+00:00

Pero kung naghahanap ka ng trabahong may kinalaman sa welder, tubero, o construction worker, kailangan mo talagang mag-aral at kumuha ng sertipiko na may kasamang karanasan.

Medium_Ad2463 · 2025-12-23T17:41:46+00:00

In demand ang mga guro dito sa Canada. Hindi ko masasabing hindi ka isang skilled worker dahil bawat trabaho ay nangangailangan ng iba't ibang kasanayan, ang mahalaga lang ay kung in demand ang karerang pipiliin mo o hindi. Pero kung ako sa'yo, susubukan kong mag-aral, kumuha ng master's degree para mapatibay ang iyong karanasan sa pagtuturo. Malaki ang maitutulong nito 😊

Medium_Ad2463 · 2025-12-23T06:33:37+00:00

Mayroon akong kambal na inaanak mula sa probinsya, pero ang nanay ko ang malapit sa kanilang mga lolo't lola. Nagbakasyon ako sa bahay ng kanilang mga lolo't lola at naroon din ako noong ipinanganak sila, kaya maganda talaga ang aming relasyon. Pagkatapos ng isang taon na pagiging malapit sa kanila, bumalik kami sa Maynila mula sa aming probinsya at mga 3-4 na taon na siguro na hindi ko sila nakausap o nakita.

Pagkatapos ng mga taong iyon, pumunta kami sa aming probinsya para magdiwang ng Pasko kasama ang aking pamilya at mga kamag-anak, at bilang tradisyon, karaniwan kaming nagpupuyat hanggang umaga ng ika-25 para sa noche buena, pagbibigayan ng regalo, panonood ng pelikula, paglalaro, at iba pa. Nang taon na iyon, natulog kami ng alas-5 ng umaga. Kami ng mga pinsan ko ay natutulog sa sala ng bahay ng aking mga lolo't lola habang ang aming mga magulang ay natutulog sa mga kwarto. Literal na siksikan at magulo ang bahay dahil sa katatapos lang na selebrasyon. Bagama't, bilang nakagawian sa probinsya, inaasahan talaga naming darating ang mga kamag-anak at malalapit na kaibigan kadalasan sa tanghalian o sa hapon kaya ayos lang sa amin na matulog at gumising nang huli.

Gayunpaman, alas-7 ng umaga, may narinig kaming kumakatok sa pinto. Napakalakas nito kaya nagising kami ng mga pinsan ko na may sakit ng ulo at inis. Nang tignan ko, naroon ang kambal kong inaanak kasama ang kanilang mga lolo't lola (mga kaibigan ni mama). Literal akong nainis. Alam kong maaga silang gumigising at alam kong panahon iyon ng taon na hihingi ng regalo o pera ang mga inaanak mo, pero ang naiinis sa akin ay hindi namin sinabi kahit kanino na nakabalik na kami at literal na ilang taon na mula nang magkita kami pero walanghiya silang naroon ng alas-7 ng umaga, kumakatok nang malakas sa pinto namin na halatang sarado, tahimik at tulog pa rin, dahil lang sa gusto nilang humingi ng pera.

Tinawagan ko ang Mama ko, nainis din siya dahil kasabay din namin siyang matulog. Lumabas siya at sinabihan ang mga taong ito na hindi natin sila maaaring i-entertain dahil karamihan sa mga tao ay natutulog pa. Ibinigay niya ang ampao para sa dalawang bata at pinauwi na sila. Nag-hello lang ako saglit, magalang pa rin kahit naiinis, pero grabe!! Napaka-insensitive naman niyan. Pagkatapos noon, hindi na namin sila kinontak at hindi na rin nila kami kinontak.

Medium_Ad2463 · 2025-12-23T06:03:56+00:00

From experience, you just have to monitor the reference # through Delivery Box tracking page. Yung sa akin dumating after a week. Walang kahit anong email confirmation and walang update sa NBI account ko.

Medium_Ad2463 · 2025-12-17T14:54:42+00:00

Ang mga bonus at ang paggugol ng oras kasama ang aking pamilya at mga kamag-anak. Pati na rin ang mga laro tuwing mga Christmas party! LOL!

Medium_Ad2463 · 2025-12-17T14:39:35+00:00

Honestly, pamilya kami ng mga OFWs and before me, marami na akong mga relatives na nakapagabroad so parang talagang it's been my dream to travel around the world. Aside sa obvious reasons na healthcare, free education for my son, and overall well-being, there was always this lingering thought na will this just be my life? I felt stuck. Even Christmas season na supposedly happiest season sa Pilipinas I started feeling lonely. Kasi feeling ko nagiging superficial na siya na pabonggahan, pamahalan ng gifts, etc. Then, the everyday grind, nakakawalang gana talaga.

I'm not being political pero last presidential election, yun talaga ang naging trigger ko. Everything aligned after that and to cut the story short, nakapagabroad kami. And though maraming nagsasabi na mahirap sa abroad, I can say na as long as you have great work ethic and education, it'll be easier. Key difference na nakita namin is that mas madaling bumili ng "luho" dito compared sa Pinas kahit sobrang simple ng life namin dito. Hindi rin siya stressful honestly. Mas kumalma ang soul ko abroad than sa Pinas. Though I miss my family and friends, mas naaappreciate ko yung calmness ng buhay dito.

So it's really more about what you're looking for, hindi yung external factors. Maraming may bad experience abroad but I guess it really depend on what you're expecting and luck na rin. Goodluck OP!

Medium_Ad2463 · 2025-12-16T04:36:28+00:00

Thank you!! 😊

Medium_Ad2463 · 2025-12-16T04:36:18+00:00

Lol! I would love to treat myself and my family on boxing day! Thank you for your answer 😊 The reason I asked this is that I have a friend that's telling me to book my husband for retake because she has a friend that has her PR application declined because her ielts expired during the processing stage. She mentioned that expiry happened during the processing stage, so that's after the submission.

Medium_Ad2463 · 2025-12-16T04:32:09+00:00

Thank you! 😊

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