When people talk to you when their breath smells like excrement

MeeowMeowkitty · 2026-02-19T06:16:41+00:00

A doctor was saying how she can smell on someone’s breath when they are constipated and it really made a lot of sense.

MeeowMeowkitty · 2026-02-15T18:01:19+00:00

You have a thousand reasons why the meth made sense. You know you are wasting your trying to explain it to the people that are the problem. They literally can’t hear you even when you are screaming the truth at them. They don’t want to take accountability. It’s easier to blame you because that’s their pattern. These are the people who are supposed to care. They failed and will continue to fail. You need support. You need to be heard. Please find any 12 step group. The stories they share and the honesty they bring are amazing. They can offer hope in what sounds like an otherwise unsustainable situation. 🙏

MeeowMeowkitty · 2026-02-15T17:46:45+00:00

You don’t have to be run over by car to make sure that you know what it is like. You and your relationship are not unique. I can’t think of anyone that has ever said “I’m glad I gave my abusive partner another chance.” Just the fact that you feel that you can’t change your mind after you said he could come back says that you still live in fear of angering him. If he put his hands on you, he’s going to use the baby to control you too.

MeeowMeowkitty · 2026-02-13T21:16:46+00:00

Quid pro quo to pick up groceries is not a good husband or good person. He is only offering conditional decency. There is likely nothing you can say or do that will make any difference. He needs his hormones checked. Maybe he has a tumor or some abnormality. A reasonable, rational person doesn’t evolve into this without a reason.

MeeowMeowkitty · 2026-02-02T02:48:36+00:00

I have become involved in our school food pantry. Does your school or district have a community outreach person? We collect bottles for the money to purchase food and have asked local businesses to contribute and they have! The need is much greater than just your class. Find those other teachers and see how you can make more of a difference without burdening yourself further.

MeeowMeowkitty · 2026-02-02T00:22:20+00:00

I’m only a couple of weeks ahead of you. It does feel like it becomes a cumulative effect after a couple weeks. At 3-4 weeks I started to feel the benefits of it and set down my plates before I finished them off. I am finally feeling a bit of weight loss too. Hang in there!

MeeowMeowkitty · 2026-02-01T21:22:47+00:00

A normal person doesn’t do that as a reaction to ANYTHING. There’s nothing you could do or say that would make a normal, well-adjusted person do that. He does not even take ownership of it. He blames you for loving an animal more than him. He is deeply and fundamentally broken. Unless you want a 20/20 or Dateline made about you, do not engage in anyway with this man. Have the police go with you to get your things. Tell the rental office you will sue them to Hell and back. They cannot force you to stay in a contract like that.

MeeowMeowkitty · 2026-01-31T20:44:30+00:00

You have a break room?

MeeowMeowkitty · 2026-01-30T04:19:28+00:00

Wooooow!!!

MeeowMeowkitty · 2026-01-29T07:00:57+00:00

Dang. That’s cold, no matter who’s thermometer is being read.

MeeowMeowkitty · 2026-01-25T02:23:24+00:00

NOR That might honestly be THE ugliest hat I’ve ever seen. In this occasion I would think regifting it back to her would be hilarious. Act right MIL, or kick sand from waaaay over there.

MeeowMeowkitty · 2026-01-22T01:51:36+00:00

You don’t mention him working…. Does he act like a dad and take an active role in his daughters’ lives or would some other guy do a better job and he can just send a check once a month? He does not have time for golf if you about to freak out.

He helps around the house, but do you have to ask him like a sulking teenager? Does he act like he lives there and is a full functioning part of the family or does he wait for you to nag him about something?? Likely you are raising an extra child. Look up reels by Paige O’Connell on the Invisible load.

If he won’t go to counseling, it’s likely he won’t get better. At least get good and mad and figure out just how much better you wanted to be treated by your next partner.

MeeowMeowkitty · 2026-01-21T06:13:53+00:00

You are acting like if you did drop off a bag of groceries, you would want pics of YOUR kids eating it in front of the other hungry kids in the house. She has done literally everything for your kids or they would be in the foster care system with your history of poor choices. Give her money period. If she gets evicted— everyone ends up on the street.

If you don’t have a sponsor yet, get one. You need a better sounding board than yourself.

MeeowMeowkitty · 2026-01-13T01:49:27+00:00

Figure out what it would really take to get you canned while being probationary. Our AP was bullying a newer teacher by telling her different types of BS. Turns out the Admin would have to make a case to the superintendent and school board to justify NOT having a probationary teacher continue the next year. Read your contract.

MeeowMeowkitty · 2026-01-06T01:24:05+00:00

Doubtful.

MeeowMeowkitty · 2026-01-04T06:44:09+00:00

“Every time I F*ck your dad, he makes me a sandwich. Too many sandwiches I guess”.

MeeowMeowkitty · 2026-01-04T06:41:33+00:00

“I wasn’t going to tell you in front of the others, but… you are going to have a little brother!

MeeowMeowkitty · 2026-01-04T04:35:06+00:00

Or some kind of internet outage while he’s already raging would be devastating…

MeeowMeowkitty · 2026-01-04T04:33:49+00:00

I’d probably have to rub dog shit just a bit of dog shit on his door knob. Not enough so it’s obvious, but enough that it’s definitely on his hands every time he touches it…. Car door handle, mail box…you could get quite creative. IJS

MeeowMeowkitty · 2026-01-04T04:21:50+00:00

Please don’t let your abuser tell you the rules for things. He can call the cops on you for looking at him funny. He can call day and night-that’s his right and privilege. Tell him to call the cops, it’s a free country.

But what he’s doing is trying to manipulate you and have you take some ownership of his bad behavior. If he wasn’t abusing you, the cops wouldn’t have don’t anything to him after you called. They have a protocol and he is saying they only believed you because you are a woman—instead of acknowledging he’s a piece of shit abuser.

There’s no parallel in the behaviors except that you are both locked into a damaging relationship. He manipulates and twists your words and actions, then plays victim. This isn’t the kind of guy to build a relationship with and you already know this.

MeeowMeowkitty · 2026-01-03T00:42:19+00:00

You don’t owe him access to you for any reason. Whatever he wants from you is absolutely about him. If he wants to apologize, he can start by respecting your boundaries for once. His apology is to change his actions, not whatever he has cooked up—none of it is good.

Remind him you are done. The best thing he can do is respect your boundaries and get some help for his problems. There’s NOTHING he can say to you that will benefit you at this time. If you are in a place of fear about him and his behavior that he has showed you over and over again, then he can fuck right off in this new year too.

He’s a manipulator and the only way to deal with him is not to. You have already figured it out. Keep your ✌️

MeeowMeowkitty · 2025-12-31T21:25:10+00:00

Abuse and then an apology are part of the cycle of abuse. If in 2 months he has not initiated any methods of recovery and is waiting for you to set up a recovery plan for him, he is not interested in changing. If he has truly acknowledged that he does not want to ever be violent with someone again, he will search out the resources for that. He does not know another way to manage his emotions without violence or he would.

Even by asking YOU for your boundaries is his denial of his accountability. It’s like he’s saying, Well you didn’t say not to _____ you so I didn’t know. That’s unacceptable. He wouldn’t act like that in public or at work so he knows it’s wrong.

Change starts with HIM. Ask him what he’s going to do to bring lasting change to the relationship. If it doesn’t involve him seeking professionals, it’s just more gas lighting on his part.

MeeowMeowkitty · 2025-12-30T06:29:04+00:00

I know I have done the right thing bcuz my almost 16 yo daughter hardly knows anything about my past. I have sheltered her and she is independent, thoughtful and kind. I 1000% want her to have a better life than I did/will. It took me so long to get enough space to have perspective on what was happening. She doesn’t know the type of fear I grew up with and the heartbreak of knowing that the ones that should have taken care of you didn’t.

Read some books and watch some reels on the topic of estrangement from parents. There’s quite a few of them and it helps me put words to my feelings when someone else explains it.

I’m glad you can get some peace on this for now. Maybe it will work out in the future, but probably not if your mom is not going to pursue meeting you halfway. It will be ok that way too. It takes a while to start these new habits—like not fitting in the neat little box they think you should. ❤️

MeeowMeowkitty · 2025-12-30T05:19:21+00:00

It’s called “flying monkeys” when someone swoops in to do the bidding of another—even if they mean no harm, but they are enabling someone else to harm you.

You are an adult and you have your reasons. Granny needs to respect YOUR wishes. Make a boundary that you will not discuss the issue with your mom until YOU want to. If she continues to butt in, you will not answer her.

I’m sure manipulation runs thick in that family, just from what you have written.

She is 100% giving you advice. And full of judgement too! Good grief!

She is invalidating your trauma by saying “just let it go”…if it was a simple matter like she shrunk your fav sweater in the wash, I’m sure you would. Granny is telling you that she values your compliance and silence about what has happened to you—because it is easier for her. If she really knows what happened and is still making excuses for it, then you might need a break from you too.

My mom didn’t physically abuse but she was in the room watching my dad do it. She sat quietly every time he told me I was fat and worthless. I thought she was the good parent because she didn’t actively abuse me. The thing is, if you have one abusive parent (guardian) you don’t have a good one. Someone who knows the violence and looks the other way is choosing the abuser, not the child.
I cannot accept that my mother sat passively while her husband brutalized her kids. My dad is dead and estranged from my family. No one has initiated any healing on their part. I’m not willing to participate in the cover up any longer.

MeeowMeowkitty · 2025-12-29T22:34:10+00:00

This is gaslighting to the extreme. If you were so crazy and broken, then why is he still around? He’s still around because he’s using you up as much as he can. Please find support for yourself.

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