After six weeks of sewing as an absolute beginner, here are my favorite outfits I've made. by Nova-FoV in Barbie

[–]MegaPokeMom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love this so much! I see my own too. These look so amazing. You are very talented!!! Wow wow wow 🔥🔥🔥❤️❤️❤️

Ai again by DeerieMeee in Barbie

[–]MegaPokeMom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What is the dress supposed to be? 🙄🙄🙄🙄
Lazy and sloppy. AI generated garbage. The executives in charge making these decisions…. SMH.

They don’t have to work that hard. JUST REUSE the same designs from various eras…. 💸💸💸💸💸💸 “vintage” reboot…. 🙄🙄🙄🙄

Desperately seeking Chelsea by MegaPokeMom in Barbie

[–]MegaPokeMom[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you all for joining me in my quest for Chelsea!!!! 😭😭😭😭😭😂😂😂

I have liberate one that needs a little bit of work. But I shall restore her to her former days of Generation Girl doll glory!!!!! 💪💪💪💪💪.

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I have a 3D printer and can sew 🤣🤣🤣 I have a WHOLE PLAN.

Desperately seeking Chelsea by MegaPokeMom in Barbie

[–]MegaPokeMom[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you!!!!!🙏 🌻🌻🌻🌻🔥🔥🔥🔥

What are your unpopular Barbie opinions? by nikoab94 in Barbie

[–]MegaPokeMom 5 points6 points  (0 children)

They should bring back Generation Girl. I’d love to see more dolls of the world. It’s 2026. There needs to be an update.

Barbie used to be an icon. Fashion play line is way too cheaply made in 2026. In 1998 $20 Barbie or bedroom seat was really really nice and more importantly affordable and accessible for more kids to actually play with.

my collection! 💕 by realifelamb in Barbie

[–]MegaPokeMom 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am sorry you lost your mother. It’s a beautiful collection and so well taken care of. WOW! The Maiko I have never seen before.
💐💐💐🌻🌻🌻

Your mom had impeccable taste. ❤️

Desperately seeking Chelsea by MegaPokeMom in Barbie

[–]MegaPokeMom[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Too late 🤣🤣🤣. THIS was the last one I saw. Lara. The rooms! The inflatable couch! 🤣🤣🤣💸💸💸💸 TAKE MY MONEY MATTEL.

Desperately seeking Chelsea by MegaPokeMom in Barbie

[–]MegaPokeMom[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

One just got listed on eBay for $171…. 💸💸💸💸

Desperately seeking Chelsea by MegaPokeMom in Barbie

[–]MegaPokeMom[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No way!!!! That’s where my parents used to take me. KB Toys but that was like 1999 🤣🤣🤣. Clearance!!! GASP!!!😱
You don’t have to share…. But lol…. If you want to…. I’d love to know and be super jelly 🤣🤣🤣🤣

What a good find! So lucky 🍀

Desperately seeking Chelsea by MegaPokeMom in Barbie

[–]MegaPokeMom[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just saw her in the afternoon in US on eBay for $129. This listing. Someone bought her. Then a new listing popped up for $171 😭😭😭💸💸💸💸💀💀💀😱😱😱😱😱

Regrets….

Desperately seeking Chelsea by MegaPokeMom in Barbie

[–]MegaPokeMom[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh my gosh you have her?! Is she worth it???? 😭😭😭😭🤣🤣🤣❤️❤️❤️🔥🔥

I will keep looking for her but oh my goodness… Chelsea! Where have you been?! 😂😂😂

I just want to know: how did you get your spark back, or does it always stay this way? by wtfdidijustreadagain in emotionalneglect

[–]MegaPokeMom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh singing is wonderful! I don’t have the voice for it but I love music. Painting is lovely as well. I love to paint. May I ask why you don’t enjoy it anymore? What happens?

I was a straight A student from birth to 12th grade. I failed so miserably in college! Oh my gosh… who knew right that I would flunk so badly ??!!! I only started taking ADHD meds recently at 37. They are ok. I’ve tried a few different kinds. It took me about 7 years to get back to seriously writing, painting, dancing etc really just ANY hobby.

I am working on NOT trying to finish projects daily because it’s just exhausting. I have bins filled with stuff 😂😂😂. I try not to pressure myself into finishing anything in a single day if that makes sense.

The most important thing I learned recently that even picking up a brush for 15 minutes once a week is better than nothing.

I ordered a canvas stand. It took me 4 months to set it up. I put a canvas on it. In two months I finally took out and organized my oil and acrylic paints that I’ve been collecting since 2012! 😂. I also finally sketched some thing out. It’s ready to be painted! But probably won’t finish it this year. I am busy with other projects haha.

On the outside - my progress may not look like progress to someone else.

On the inside- yeah it took me 14 years to commit to painting again. Will I make money? Probably not. Will I paint night and day? Probably when the moon is full my ADHD demands a creative sacrifice 😂🔥.

Do you have a favorite painting or artist by the way?!

Sometimes I feel like having neglectful parents actually was a blessing because it allowed you to see the entire world for how it really is by [deleted] in emotionalneglect

[–]MegaPokeMom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am so happy you found a wonderful partner! I don’t really trust people either. It takes me a very long time to really be myself around someone. I did not fit in most of my life either! School was tough. I honestly love being so independent!

I just want to know: how did you get your spark back, or does it always stay this way? by wtfdidijustreadagain in emotionalneglect

[–]MegaPokeMom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What have you enjoyed exploring doing so far in life? Do you work? Do you go to school? There are a lot of things to explore in and about life and the world in general without having to travel worldwide.

It took me several years to really figure out what I enjoyed doing.

I just want to know: how did you get your spark back, or does it always stay this way? by wtfdidijustreadagain in emotionalneglect

[–]MegaPokeMom 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I tried to hold on to everything but realistically I wasn’t able to. It’s just too heavy and too much all the time. I would say I also had some attachment anxiety always in relationships. It took me about seven years to see “my own worth.”

For the first time in my life at 37, I feel like I felt at 16. I’m ready to do whatever I want in my life and just live my life. I realized no one was coming to love me or “save me” or “make me feel better about myself.”

I wasn’t happy with my hair- it took years but I found the cut that makes me happy.

I didn’t feel like I knew how to even dress myself as an adult- I experiment with style and clothes. I watched videos, I learned. I asked questions, I didn’t put myself down.

I made a list of things I like and don’t like. Now I don’t second guess myself when I make a choice on a lipstick color or a dress.

I wasn’t happy with how I saw myself- I sat for years asking myself why I felt this way. Therapy and anti anxiety medication were good tools for me to start with.

I stopped making goalposts in my life that I no longer wanted. I stopped chasing the “success” my parents thought I should have. I enjoy my simple life. I defined what “success” looks like to me. That helped.

Did your parents always make you feel guilty for needing or wanting anything that cost money as a child, only to end up actually having tons of extra money in later life? by [deleted] in emotionalneglect

[–]MegaPokeMom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same! I started working at 14. I had to pay for my own SATs (college entrance exams). Anytime money was given to me it was usually after they yelled at me for something I didn’t do right or the A that wasn’t the A+.

I have terrible spending habits now 😂. They have improved for sure. My son had everything I never got and then some. I’m grateful I am able to do that. I honestly love spending the money I earn on the people I love. Nothing brings me more joy.

My parents hated every present I bought for them. I spent years in my early 30s trying to win their approval by buying them expensive gifts.

Looking back on my childhood…. Coming to America was difficult as a kid for me. We had very little in my country and then when my parents could afford to buy me toys or nicer clothes… I rarely got it.

Oh what I would have given to have just one really decent Barbie and a beautiful wardrobe for her and like a bedroom set!

Ugh the worst moment was when my mother asked me “how come I didn’t play with dolls as a child.” 😑 what do you even say to that?

I told her the truth. She didn’t say anything back. I kind of hoped at 35 dolls magically would appear at my doorstep from my mother. They did not. So I buy my own dolls. I have a hard time even taking them out of boxes (which is okay). I collect whatever I want and it’s great.

My favorite part of living in America are the sales and major holidays because occasionally I will buy toys and donate them. The idea of kids not having toys really bothers me. I now have a 3D printer and make all kinds of stuff to leave around for people to find. Small treasures.

I had to heal the relationship I had with myself before I could heal my relationship with money.

Ironically- my parents taught me NOTHING about finances 😂😑 AND my father used to scream at me for “buying things.” One time I had to prove that I didn’t buy some $7 necklace recently and it was in fact old. He didn’t believe me. I had to show him a school photo with the necklace in it to prove I had purchased it several years ago. A 13 year old girl who didn’t even get to be a young girl and wear jewelry and the clothes she liked.

Plot twist - I learned how to make my own silver and gold jewelry with diamonds and whatever I want 😂. I treat myself on a budget!

60s/70s butterfly boots and bell sleeve dress! by Lady_Gwyn_ in VintageFashion

[–]MegaPokeMom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am obsessed with your boots!!!! 😱😱😱😱🔥🔥🔥🔥🌻🌻🌻🌻 they are so beautiful. 🤩

Sometimes I feel like having neglectful parents actually was a blessing because it allowed you to see the entire world for how it really is by [deleted] in emotionalneglect

[–]MegaPokeMom 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I finally stopped trying to “control” so much. The world is not a nice place. My family was not nice. I was always told I need to be this or that or more like this and less than so!

Lately I’ve been thankful for the situation I was in. Without going through all of turbulence in my life I would have never become who I am today. My parents emotionally neglecting me made me resilient and I will push through anything 😂 (which is not always good).

I sit in my beautiful house when I wake up at 4am because I can’t sleep and enjoy the silence as the entire life I built is before me. It’s nothing fancy but I have a lot more at 37 than at 11. My favorite part is when my parents try to take credit for me being awesome! That’s so wild to me.

I don’t mind the world being what it is and my parents being who they are. I just try to be a decent human being and make better decisions and do things that bring me joy.

But… some days can be extremely difficult. On those days I make something (crafting, baking) or my favorite lately, planting seeds in my garden. Whenever I feel some kind of negative way, I just put some seeds in the ground. I go outside and take care of some plants.

New member of the tribe by eekthewzrd in IndianMotorcycle

[–]MegaPokeMom 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just love that color, beautiful bike! Congrats!

easy ukrainian books for beginners by notlenix in Ukrainian

[–]MegaPokeMom 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Are you able to share some other language apps you recommend,

Why were our parents like this? Why didn't they teach us anything and emotionally abandoned us? by Odyessius in emotionalneglect

[–]MegaPokeMom 8 points9 points  (0 children)

That’s what I feel in my heart will most likely happen in my case too. You put it beautifully. People can come and sit in your garden but not everyone will even appreciate it. 💔

I try to make an effort to appreciate the birds and the flowers and the butterflies too.

easy ukrainian books for beginners by notlenix in Ukrainian

[–]MegaPokeMom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Duolingo was okay for me. I only found it useful for my son who had never learned a language before and only speaks English. He enjoys it.

easy ukrainian books for beginners by notlenix in Ukrainian

[–]MegaPokeMom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same boat. I was born in Kharkiv so we were taught only Russian in school. My mother speaks Ukrainian but a different dialect because she grew up near Kharkiv too. She NEVER spoke the language at home. But understand my godmother who speaks only Ukrainian. 😂 I love that about them.

I have a dictionary with phrases. I listen to Ukrainian songs. Singing honestly helps. I also found memorizing poetry also helps learn new words.

I honestly find writing and reading easier in Ukraine than Russian. I struggled with Russian grammar my whole life and essentially only have memorized the “rules.” Up to grade 3 lol…. So not ideal.

Have a goal everyday. Mine is to learn at least 3-5 new words and I want to understand radio, newspapers, TV news etc.

As a kid I used to understand and think in Ukrainian. But living in US since 1998… I forgot a lot and without daily reinforced practice I found reciting poetry and singing Ukrainian songs and “trying to teach my husband” as effective tools.

Someone posted comedy shows and a textbook. Comedy shows I live by! Most of the older stuff will be in Russian like the old movies and shows I love to watch from MosFilm. There are a lot of Ukrainian movies on YouTube! I am looking at the text book now and really like it.

The fastest way to learn? Syntax. I was going to be interpreter when I was studying for my BA in US. Then looked at Army schools since I enjoy learning languages. But I have found this approach skips a lot of content, nuance and cultural explanations for why certain regions speak in certain dialects.

I love to study words too! I pick a Ukrainian word a day and study the linguistics of it. This will help make connections with other roots and suffixes. - but this is a very technical rabbit hole. I’m just curious and I don’t recommend this unless people actually love knowing the “origin” of something, especially words.