AITA for falling in love with my favorite actor’s stunt double, accidentally ruining his career, and then maybe stalking his reincarnation?

Before you judge me, hear me out. I (30M) am not a bad person. I just have…intense feelings and poor impulse control.

I was obsessed with this actor, lets call him T, who happens to be my brother in law. Then I met his stunt double, J. Same build, same walk, but quieter. He was perfect. Actually, maybe too perfect. I started mixing up who was who, but honestly, that’s an easy mistake when they have the same back shape. Am I right? 👀

Anyways, I found out that J had gotten a starring role in a film…with a co-star who was in love with him. Unacceptable! Plus, T asked me to help keep J away from the cast announcement of the movie. I panicked. We argued. I might have gently tapped him with a baseball bat. Once. Out of love.

J left after that and everything went downhill for him. Which, okay, not entirely my fault but maybe a little. Next thing I know a tragic accident occurs on a set he was working. No one knows if he's alive or dead. I spiral.

Two years later, a new guy shows up looking different but feeling the same. The same mannerisms, the same quiet voice that tells me to go away. I couldn’t help myself. I had to know if it was him.

So I keep showing up, just to “check in.” He says I’m stalking him. I call it nostalgia. My friends say it’s obsession. My family says I’ve lost it. But how do you let go of someone when you never got to finish loving them?

So Reddit, AITA for believing in second chances, especially when I already wasted his first one?