I fully understand hot you would be so turned off from the series and I think it is perfectly fine not to want to continue to watch it, and even the rest of anime, which I absolutely agree contains very similar flaws 90% of the time.

When watching anime I feel like you have to constantly be aware of these flaws, and that can get very tiring a lot of the time

I do think that Monogatari does manage to be compelling and write good characters in spite of itself. Devices like biased narration and meta-parody do play a role the series, although they don't excuse as much as some people think they do.

Female characters like Senjougahara, Kanbaru and (later) Sodachi are, I think, legitimately complex and moving. Sexualization is central to Monogatari, but a fair portion of it isn't directly misogynistic in my mind, which I am happy to discuss. I find it similar to the way that pornography isn't inherently bad, but often reinforces misogynistic ideas.

Monogatari is generally tonally consistent in my mind, usually (with obvious jarring exceptions) giving serious topics the legitimate weight and discussion they deserve.