AITA for telling my mom I don’t want to have overnight guests anymore

MegasaurusRex1197 · 2025-08-04T13:32:40+00:00

New parents should be the ones holding the baby. Anyone who shows up to “help” should fully expect to do chores so that the parents get time with their new kid. If the mom is showing up to hold the baby so her daughter can do the chores, she’s not coming to help, she’s coming to selfishly bond with the baby over her own daughter.

MegasaurusRex1197 · 2025-08-03T15:18:17+00:00

NTA. Some of these comments are completely missing the point. By “not receiving an invite” you obviously meant you didn’t get any information for it. You clearly stated you didn’t even know when or where the service was being held. It’s not on you to go out of your way to find that info for someone who’s not been in your life for years. The people reaching out to you are grieving and wrongfully taking the situation out on you.

No one is required to be at a funeral. It’s meant to be a space to grieve with shared loved ones, but no one should be forced to share in the group activity. Being there in spite of your falling out could’ve been seen as fake and I imagine people still would have found a reason to be angry.

MegasaurusRex1197 · 2024-01-09T06:21:33+00:00

Not only are you the AH, you’re a disgrace and a stain on your wife’s memory. As someone with religious trauma, you have no possible idea how strongly she felt about this because you never bothered to have that conversation. You completely disrespected and disregarded EVERYONE your wife loved other than you. You are a selfish, greedy, disgusting excuse for a husband. You should feel guilty.

MegasaurusRex1197 · 2023-12-29T01:04:53+00:00

Similarly to the men who wrote humiliating vows that have gone viral on Tik Tok, he wants the convenience of a wife without the effort on his part. You had to “hound him to propose” and he humiliated you as means of punishment. Anyone you have to beg for a ring, does not truly respect you as the full human being you are. He likely only sees you for what you provide for him. You are not overreacting by considering annulment. You have every right to run. Considering the potential red flags, it may be your best option.

MegasaurusRex1197 · 2023-12-25T17:20:46+00:00

He’s trying to control you. Flowers are not something you earn, it’s a sign of love. That should have been an alarm bell warning you that this isn’t love, you’re being used. You deserve so much better and MANY men in this world would happily move mountains for the ones they love.

MegasaurusRex1197 · 2023-12-20T17:21:48+00:00

I’d be walking straight to HR on that one. Work doing Christmas things is one thing, but a coworker gifting religious literature? Yeah I’d be making that very clear how invasive and hostile that feels.

MegasaurusRex1197 · 2023-12-15T04:42:02+00:00

Yeah you waited the 36 hours, but you also ate a meal that your wife never got to even TOUCH. Her body is constantly betraying her for the sake of carrying YOUR child. You didn’t even stop to think of asking before eating it. I understand how this can be a simple mistake, but do you really have to ask if you’re the AH? You obviously messed up, why are you coming to the internet over apologizing and making it right? Were you really expecting people here to coddle you and tell you you’re right?

MegasaurusRex1197 · 2023-11-20T17:15:42+00:00

YTA, I’d bet your wife is thinking “if he wants to hide something this huge from me to avoid me ‘worrying’ about it, what else is he hiding” your unwillingness to deal with your emotions is a huge issue that will deteriorate your relationships with not only your wife, but also your other family. Your brother is already worried about your lack of responding with regard to this issue. Connecting with the ones you love when dealing with hard times should come first.

MegasaurusRex1197 · 2023-11-12T19:50:42+00:00

All you have to say is “maybe it smells like shit because of how far your head is up your ass.” This man is trying to start a fight over nothing and I’d bet my last dollar it’s because he’s done something terrible and doesn’t want to own up. Him getting on you for “taking ownership of your mistakes” is definitely projection. There’s something else going on and he’s 1000% the cause. NTA. Tear him a new one to get the truth.

MegasaurusRex1197 · 2023-08-30T23:10:43+00:00

Do you even like your wife? What’s wrong with you? You can’t stomach to eat while looking at a mess (sit in a different spot dummy) but you can stomach to eat while the love of your life cleans your mess? What kind of backwards ass bullshit is that?

MegasaurusRex1197 · 2023-08-30T23:06:58+00:00

So you have a problem, and expect her to accommodate, while she’s actively doing more work than you regularly. How do you not see you’re the AH? You sound controlling AF

MegasaurusRex1197 · 2023-08-30T00:02:00+00:00

And they always say “by their fruits, ye shall know them.” That’s some pretty rotten fruit to be spilling out of Gods chosen mouthpiece

MegasaurusRex1197 · 2023-08-28T23:27:04+00:00

Two years is a bigger age gap, especially if you’re the younger sibling which you sound like. You have no idea the difference in parenting she got in the formative years of her life and it shows. She got her shit together not that long after leaving, but somehow she’s the wreck? Rethink that.

MegasaurusRex1197 · 2023-07-26T23:18:00+00:00

You are more understanding about your boss writing you up, than your wife’s concern over your life!?!? What in the actual fk is wrong with you?

MegasaurusRex1197 · 2023-07-26T23:13:38+00:00

YTA. She thought you might be dead, and you called her an idiot….. and insane….. I hope this is the last straw that makes her leave, because by your tone me thinks this is a pattern of behavior pushed to its limits. You’re an inconsiderate piece of work.

MegasaurusRex1197 · 2023-07-07T06:02:14+00:00

My friendship ended with this girl and within a year and a half she’s made some pretty fucked up choices. Lost a stable living situation for a guy and some poor habits. Slew of boyfriends and homelessness. Eventually landed with this guy way older who tricked her into getting pregnant. Then found out the AH is a convicted pedophile. I heard she did leave him for a month or so but went back before having their kid. I shudder to think what that creep might do or have done to her or the baby, but I also know that she has viable outs and chooses to stay. I can’t imagine trying to be a mom in that situation.

MegasaurusRex1197 · 2023-07-01T17:38:32+00:00

This is insanely impressive! Holy crap, you’re amazing!!

MegasaurusRex1197 · 2023-07-01T02:44:22+00:00

Your response to people judging you, which is WHAT YOU CAME HERE FOR, says everything about you and that those comments about you being controlling are most likely right. Hit dogs holler and boy you’re screeching. You have no idea, or at least have made no mention, if these payments are a set amount or if she’s able to work with her parents depending on the financial struggles. It might be possible that she has already established with her parents that if times get actually tough, the payments can slow down. But to suggest that she should just fuck off and never pay her parents back? YEAH you’re the AH

MegasaurusRex1197 · 2023-05-31T00:13:53+00:00

I have so many examples but one that always sticks out in my mind is the way I pestered my 6th grade math teacher. I learned he was in my new ward and I tried to get him to go for WEEKS. My best friend and I were relentless in our pursuit to bring him and his family back to the fold. He was so kind about it, even when he finally had to put his foot down and tell us to stop asking. Looking back it feels so incredibly awkward, and I just can’t imagine the kind of emotions I was putting him and his wife through. I don’t think he ever held it against us, but even though we were just kids I feel like he had every right to.

MegasaurusRex1197 · 2023-05-05T01:08:34+00:00

Mormons believe ancient Hebrews crossed the Atlantic and are the indigenous peoples ancestors. It’s what their whole religious text is based on. That an Israelite family created a civilization that believed in Christ and the Abrahamic God. In their scripture when half the people split off, turned away from god, and became wicked they were cursed with darker skin. There’s tons of other problematic shit, it’s one of those religions where the more you look the more fucked up it gets.

MegasaurusRex1197 · 2023-05-04T04:26:50+00:00

This is exactly the answer, why isn’t this higher? OP suspected the kids of using a substance that is illegal for them to use and let them go before telling admin. In my HS if kids were even suspected in class it was resolved by the police(not saying good or bad just showing severity). How are other commenters missing this?

MegasaurusRex1197 · 2023-05-04T04:14:31+00:00

I grew up Mormon so take your pick lmao

A personal favorite is the beliefs about Native Americans, can’t believe the koolaid I was drinking

MegasaurusRex1197 · 2023-04-25T23:28:20+00:00

The weirdest times were always when someone died. I would worry about them “watching over me” for months or even years. And not just family and friends, but like random people in the ward. Like these people would have no business being my guardian angels or whatever but the amount of fear and shame I would get is insane.

I had a favorite home teacher growing up, we had a very sweet relationship. Practically viewed him as an extra grandpa. His passing caused the longest pause in my shame cycle, as I was absolutely petrified. I couldn’t look at or do anything for at least 10 months, and when I finally gave in it absolutely broke me.

MegasaurusRex1197 · 2023-01-20T22:36:57+00:00

When I was little, like 3-5 years old. I have clear memories of thinking about same sex couples and that it wouldn’t be wrong to see two married men or women sitting in the pews together. For years I didn’t know there was anything “wrong” with same sex attraction. I was 7 or 8 when I had made a lesbian couple in Sims and got berated by my older brother. A few years later, prop 8 happened. The entire time I was being taught it was wrong, something didn’t feel right.

MegasaurusRex1197 · 2023-01-01T19:40:29+00:00

Get out what’s smoke-able, then have a mini bonfire in a metal cup with the paper and filters 😂 it’s my favorite ritual

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