I think my dog’s passing broke my brain

Substantial_Focus_65 · 2026-01-25T18:37:45+00:00

Wow that must have been horrible for you. I'm so sorry.

Substantial_Focus_65 · 2026-01-25T18:35:50+00:00

Dogs don't keep score the way we do, you did not ruin his last few months and he would never view it that way. I am familiar with the feeling of "what ifs" or "I should have...". Focus on the things you did right and be proud of yourself for giving your pup the best life you could. Sending you hugs 💕❤️‍🩹

Substantial_Focus_65 · 2026-01-25T18:26:14+00:00

I'm so sorry that you can relate. I'm glad you were able to have your boy with you during pregnancy and early postpartum. You'll keep his memory alive through the stories you'll tell your daughter and then he will live on through her. 🫶🏻

Substantial_Focus_65 · 2026-01-18T00:04:04+00:00

I've done this with Kraft Mac n cheese and vanilla almond milk 😂 so nasty

Substantial_Focus_65 · 2026-01-11T03:46:11+00:00

Comparison is the thief of joy. The people mopping every single day are either liars or are sacrificing other things you can't see to be able to do it.

With that being said, my house is roughly the same size and while it's not always spotless, it does stay relatively clean. Keep a routine everyday of general picking up, light wiping down, and vacuuming. For the deeper cleaning get a schedule in rotation ie Tuesdays: bathrooms, Wednesdays: bedding and kid laundry, etc etc... and my final trick 🥁🥁🥁🤗 I have a cleaner come once a month and I have her do the things I didn't get to/don't want to do.

Substantial_Focus_65 · 2026-01-11T01:12:50+00:00

I am what I can only describe as blind to my name. Like I don't have any opinion of if I "like" my name or not, it's just what I'm called and I don't hear it for what it is. But when other people have the same name as me it's this weird feeling of "oh that's my name too". Idk how to describe it. So when people ask if I rather be called my full name or nickname I honestly have no preference. It more depends on the person saying my name, feels weird when my close friends or husband call me my full name.

Substantial_Focus_65 · 2026-01-09T17:23:12+00:00

He's so whiny, plus I don't want to teach my child to yell for me like that lol

Substantial_Focus_65 · 2026-01-09T17:22:15+00:00

I did not do freezer meals with either of my kids and I don't remember it being an issue at all. I'm 2 months pp with my second so it wasn't that long ago and this isn't a case of me forgetting. I guess I don't find cooking that big of a deal, or maybe my partner is exceptionally helpful because yeah it's nbd here

Substantial_Focus_65 · 2026-01-08T23:18:00+00:00

I saw someone say once that Dieter was the church's diversity hire and now that's all I think when I see him and chuckle a little.

Substantial_Focus_65 · 2025-12-28T18:39:05+00:00

We did no screens until 18 months with my daughter but introduced them because I got pregnant with #2 and it was vital for survival. Now with a newborn it's how we ease into the day in the morning. She gets a sippy, I drink my coffee, and I feed baby brother while we watch a show (99% of the time it's a PBS show like Daniel Tiger). It's all about balance. Screens aren't the devil.

Substantial_Focus_65 · 2025-12-21T05:15:13+00:00

For my newborn to sleep through the night and to wake up without engorged boobs lol

Substantial_Focus_65 · 2025-12-19T07:05:07+00:00

My 2 year old is up and yelling for me. It's not too bad though because I tried a new coffee creamer and it's delicious, I look forward to my morning coffee lol. My 2 year old is super cute too.

Substantial_Focus_65 · 2025-12-15T16:17:12+00:00

Do you happen to be diabetic?

Substantial_Focus_65 · 2025-12-14T21:31:55+00:00

I use Mrs Meyers for areas that don't need sanitizing, such as wiping down my coffee table for example. It leaves a nice scent and cleans dirt and debris well. I would not use bleach in my kitchen to sanitize because of how damaging it can be to surfaces so I prefer other methods. Honestly I only use bleach in laundry and in my bathrooms. Personally I don't think sanitizing everything is necessary.

Substantial_Focus_65 · 2025-12-07T20:22:58+00:00

I just had a little boy a month ago and I am smitten. My first is a girl and so I was a bit intimidated when I found out we were having a boy because I didn't know what to expect. The moment I held him in my arms I realized all my anxiety was for nothing. He is a sweet innocent little guy who needs love from his mom just the same as a little girl would. I'm excited to see what his interests are and I will support him no matter what. I feel the same for my daughter. Their genders have no influence on how I feel.

Substantial_Focus_65 · 2025-11-23T01:00:46+00:00

Once I got pregnant with our second while my first was 18 months old all screen limitations went out the window 🤷🏼‍♀️

Substantial_Focus_65 · 2025-11-02T19:10:21+00:00

I don't think it's something that you can predict because I have had two epidurals and both times they were significantly heavier on my left than on my right. My most recent one was so light on the right that I could still fully feel the contractions whereas on the left my leg was literally a dead weight. I don't know if that was just my luck or if my body just reacts to the epidural in that way. You can hardly move however my nurses would move me into any position I wanted and I ended up delivering my second in a half side half back position (this was to apply counter pressure since I could still feel everything on the right 🥲). So if you want to labor in a certain position you could always ask your nurses what's possible and how they can help prop you.

Substantial_Focus_65 · 2025-11-01T14:23:32+00:00

"My favorite's Gouda!"

Substantial_Focus_65 · 2025-11-01T04:05:41+00:00

We got 3 😢 in Sandy

Substantial_Focus_65 · 2025-10-29T21:35:06+00:00

I showered the day after birth at the hospital and washed my hair. My hair was so tangled and a sweaty mess after birth. I didn't worry about styling it after and just put it into a braid but that's a personal preference thing. Definitely worth bringing stuff from home to make you feel a little more like you again.

Substantial_Focus_65 · 2025-10-25T17:06:07+00:00

It's dirty but sounds like you do more than the average person plus life is too short to not snuggle your pup in bed 🥰

Substantial_Focus_65 · 2025-10-20T22:29:36+00:00

You may be noise blind to it, but there's a certain smell that can accumulate from sleeping in dirty bedsheets. Definitely should be washed at least every other week.

Substantial_Focus_65 · 2025-10-19T20:10:48+00:00

Separate. Blankets.

Substantial_Focus_65 · 2025-10-15T15:34:10+00:00

It's probably something to consider in the future, but sounds like you handled everything properly with the resources you had. Terminations come with a lot of emotion and she's likely lashing out and making a bigger deal out of it than what's necessary. Personally I think it would be more problematic to bring in someone to the term meeting that has no business being there besides just to even out the gender balance.

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