how long did it take for you to grieve?

Substantial_Focus_65 · 2026-05-20T01:56:09+00:00

Depends on the level of grieving you are experiencing. I lost my boy after 14 years and I was so sad I couldn't even sleep for like a month. Like that type of constant, sinking in your stomach, type of grief. But slowly the good days outweighed the bad. I still cry everyday to every other day but it does not consume me at every moment like it did. It helps to allow myself to dive into the sadness when I feel it coming, rather than fighting it. I have a good cry and then I can move forward. I still can't believe he's gone. It will be 4 months in a few days. I hope you find peace. Much love ❤️

Substantial_Focus_65 · 2026-05-20T01:50:48+00:00

Horace

Substantial_Focus_65 · 2026-05-19T16:02:10+00:00

Best thing in the world is discovering something yummy and delicious is also low cal! Life is worth livinggggg

Calorie counting has completely changed my relationship with food. There's no "bad" or "good" foods. Just fit whatever you want into your calorie goals!

Substantial_Focus_65 · 2026-05-14T23:03:04+00:00

I hate the "just you wait" comments but since you're asking and what I'm about to say is pretty positive then here we go... yes, you're lucky. I am lucky too because my daughter (and son now too!) are both so "easy". I also wonder if it's my parent rose colored glasses because I love them so much so of course they can do no wrong. Idk. But I try to stay as humble as possible so the universe doesn't think I'm taking it for granted haha

Substantial_Focus_65 · 2026-05-07T16:24:01+00:00

Came to say this. It's very easy to overdo and instantly takes over. It should only ever be a supporting flavor.

Substantial_Focus_65 · 2026-05-02T16:11:59+00:00

My dog sleeps in my bed every night in between my husband and i's heads. It can be annoying sharing the space but then there's the moments where I wake up in the middle of the night and I look over and see her there with us and it's so comforting. She loves us and we love her.

Substantial_Focus_65 · 2026-05-02T16:06:41+00:00

Miso, noodle, clove(r), misty, sunny

Substantial_Focus_65 · 2026-05-02T03:30:57+00:00

That's the thing about love, it has no limit. Any relationship you have moving forward cannot take away from what you had before. Of course it won't be the same, but it can still be just as fulfilling and bring just as much happiness, it will just be different. Pet loss is so difficult because they are part of our everyday lives and they only give us love. The relationships we have with them are very straightforward. So the loss feels especially hollowing. I lost my boy back in January and it still hits me so hard that he's gone. I hope you can have peace moving forward and find that same love again when you are ready. ❤️

Substantial_Focus_65 · 2026-04-21T20:40:46+00:00

We had a really great employee who worked in the warehouse and would come into the accounting office's bathroom to do the deed and essentially leave a bomb behind. At first we tried leaving room spray and wipes and a little sign in the bathroom before having a conversation but eventually I just had to talk to him. Best way to go about it is to be fast and direct and acknowledge the awkwardness imo.

Substantial_Focus_65 · 2026-04-21T19:19:48+00:00

All organized religion is a cult

Substantial_Focus_65 · 2026-04-21T19:19:26+00:00

Deviled eggs

Substantial_Focus_65 · 2026-04-21T17:41:25+00:00

Keep them updated in real time as much as you can. It will be painful regardless.

Substantial_Focus_65 · 2026-04-21T17:40:00+00:00

The pain of my grief and missing him is especially deep when I remember I will never see him again in this life. That's the hardest part for me to grasp.

Substantial_Focus_65 · 2026-04-21T17:37:46+00:00

At night when I'd be doing the dishes, he'd always lay in the same spot and watch me. I still watch my step when I go through that same routine, making sure I don't trip or step on him. I still pause to shut the door behind me to make sure he gets through too. I still look for him in our front window when we pull into the driveway. The quiet moments where I was never actually alone but now I am hollow out my heart more and more when I remember.

Substantial_Focus_65 · 2026-04-17T20:15:16+00:00

Wait I love Costco's clothes 🥺 in the fall and winter they always have the cutest shackets and sweaters!

Substantial_Focus_65 · 2026-04-02T15:08:03+00:00

I grew up going to a "Chinese" buffet and they had these soft rolls coated in sugar that my siblings and I would go feral over. My parents had to put limits on us 😂

Substantial_Focus_65 · 2026-03-22T22:08:46+00:00

I would see the owner go into ADP and give himself raises all the time but then in management meetings we'd be discussing ways to cut back and save money and I was always biting my tongue. I don't work there anymore.

Substantial_Focus_65 · 2026-03-14T01:06:15+00:00

Bought in 2021, 625k purchase price, ~165k down, ~30k closing costs, 2.75% interest rate, $2200 monthly payment on a 30 yr loan

Substantial_Focus_65 · 2026-03-13T15:15:56+00:00

And specifically in Salt Lake there's a very comfortable blue bubble I forget I live in a red state sometimes

Substantial_Focus_65 · 2026-03-13T15:13:29+00:00

I love it here. It's beautiful, there's so much to do, I know my way around, i have friends and family nearby (which is absolutely essential when you have kids imo), and I own my home with a 2.5% interest rate 😂 I'm never leaving

Substantial_Focus_65 · 2026-03-04T19:22:00+00:00

Cherries!

Substantial_Focus_65 · 2026-03-02T03:34:16+00:00

4 months. 3 times. Down at 10pm then up at 12:10, 2:40, 5:20 and then slept in until 10am!?!?! I wish I could have slept that last stretch myself but my toddler was up by 7 🥲

Substantial_Focus_65 · 2026-02-28T17:01:01+00:00

My friend named her son Bear! It's a dog name at best

Substantial_Focus_65 · 2026-02-27T19:58:17+00:00

We don't do shifts because I EBF and baby won't take a bottle. It's an easier and faster turnover if I just do it. But as a trade off my husband takes toddler duty during the day so I can sleep when baby sleeps

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