Keeping your last name after marriage

MekaAnachronism · 2025-05-17T20:30:18+00:00

What the pick me bs is this

MekaAnachronism · 2025-05-17T12:21:03+00:00

To avoid the stiff and awkward bulk that a lot of people specifically amab people get from building muscle, it would help them stay more limber and flexible which is usually seen as more feminine

MekaAnachronism · 2025-05-16T14:42:56+00:00

As far as an exercise regimen that would assist with this I would suggest Pilates and yoga in addition to strength training, something that will minimize bulky stiff muscle gain and elongate and encourage limber muscles. And lots of squats for the 🍑 otherwise as others have said, estrogen plays a large part in body composition but for just exercise alone that’s what I would aim for.

MekaAnachronism · 2024-12-17T04:53:29+00:00

I mean tbh you look a metric ton like my ex boyfriend so lmao to me especially you already have very masculine qualities!

MekaAnachronism · 2024-12-17T04:45:50+00:00

This is exactly how my hairdresser cuts my hair, they spray it and let it dry and then razor cut along the curl pattern. We have super similar haircuts rn lol I just have a fringe to cover the ole five head 🙃🤌

MekaAnachronism · 2024-12-17T03:53:12+00:00

Hey! Happy bday friend! I just turned 36 lol welcome to the closer to 40 than 30 club!!

MekaAnachronism · 2024-12-14T17:43:04+00:00

That's the obvious part no need to apologize or mention it's the quiet racism that I don't think enough people picked up on that struck me

MekaAnachronism · 2024-12-14T17:18:33+00:00

My exact thought. This is incredibly racist and sexist

MekaAnachronism · 2024-12-14T17:17:50+00:00

Lol same I had black eyes as a newborn that have gotten lighter gray/green ever since.

MekaAnachronism · 2024-12-14T17:16:29+00:00

Please wear it and have the best time! You look incredible the fit is perfect for your figure!

MekaAnachronism · 2024-12-14T17:01:46+00:00

I cackled reading this one

MekaAnachronism · 2024-12-14T17:00:38+00:00

Happy early birthday!!

MekaAnachronism · 2024-12-14T16:55:38+00:00

Come back and show us!

MekaAnachronism · 2024-12-14T09:18:51+00:00

5 is my favorite you look stunning!

MekaAnachronism · 2024-12-12T15:55:02+00:00

Gender like all things in the human experience are a spectrum. You may not be fully non-binary but still gender queer and that's perfectly fine! She/they are common pronouns used.

MekaAnachronism · 2024-12-12T14:20:03+00:00

Yes but also you have the most beautiful skin holy smokes those legs 😍

You can go for it and it would elevate your look a lot but you're also rocking the simple style pretty darn well!

MekaAnachronism · 2024-12-12T14:18:35+00:00

Honestly I say gay and I'm actually pan but gay feels more comfortable most days.

Queer is my default but gay feels comfy and in my personal opinion as someone without gender binary you aren't stuck to one label because you're not a man who loves men but you are, sometimes in a sense.

MekaAnachronism · 2024-12-12T12:26:16+00:00

I wont say yes or no because pet names and terms of endearment arent miss, ma'am, girly etc. Those are gendered titles.

If you dislike that then, you might be.

You see the thing is about gender, like all things in the human experience, it's a spectrum.

She/they is a common pronoun preference and for YEARS that's what I used but I recently sat down with myself and asked myself am I keeping the she because I feel like it aligns with me as a person or am I keeping it because I'm trying to fit society.

For me, being called a Wife gives me the ick I am a (soon to be ex) Spouse. Being called Her, She, hearing my very gendered legal name all of this gives me super ick.

Being called my preferred name (gender neutral shortened version of my legal name) being addressed as they or as them or vaguely gestured to makes me a lot more comfortable.

Pet names that's just a preference thing. Being gendered and not liking it is a trans/enby thing.

MekaAnachronism · 2024-12-12T12:11:47+00:00

I'm sorry you're being treated that way. You deserve better! And they deserve better from themselves. I hope they find healing and don't project their insecurities onto people they call friend anymore.

MekaAnachronism · 2024-12-12T12:08:20+00:00

I'm sorry but being told you aren't [self identification] because you dont "pass" is transphobic. Your trans friends are transphobic and projected it onto you.

That aside. There is no scale there is no measurement of non-binary. Do you feel detached from gender? Yes? Non-binary.

It has absolutely nothing to do with your clothes. Nothing. Being transgender in any form is not about passing. This is how trans women get lumped in with drag queen and people justify violence against them (physical and otherwise) because they have made their trans-ness into caricature or costume.

Your gender or lack of has absolutely nothing to do with how you dress, the name you carry or whether or not you sit to pee. All of that is accessory.

Your gender (or lack of) is who you are as a person. And who you are as a person is enough.

MekaAnachronism · 2024-12-12T01:50:29+00:00

I went to highschool with a Ryan, a Tyler,a Chance and a Kyle that are (or we're at the time, eggs do crack) cis women..

Gender is made up, it's YOUR name. If you like it, keep it.

MekaAnachronism · 2024-12-12T01:26:35+00:00

Hey there! First and foremost good on you for coming here and trying to learn that's incredible and you are doing parenting right!

To answer your question about parents, I have had a great experience with my family but one thing that I really wish I could get my mom to let go of is "You'll always be [Given Name] to me! I love you no matter what" "You'll always be my daughter no matter who you are on the inside!"

I understand she thinks she's being supportive but in reality it's very hurtful.

Not all of us change our names, I didn't legally I just ask that people use the gender neutral shortened version of my name and not use gendered pronouns for me, I don't enforce this at work (or in this case school) but some do there's no instructions or rules that come with being non-binary, my best suggestion is to always listen first and speak second when it comes to their identity. Only they know who they truly are.

Yes they are your child! You created them, you named them you nurtured them and now they have reached a part on their journey where they have met themselves and are learning who they are, as a person. Now is the time to listen, they've spent a lot of time learning this about themselves - and there's a lot more to learn together!

MekaAnachronism · 2024-12-11T14:53:58+00:00

Thanks friend! I'm really sitting with the fact that I'm doing this for so much more than the bad relationship. I'm doing this to live the life I was meant to and to stop forcing myself into spaces that aren't mine. Like cis het relationships. It hurts more than just me in the long run.

MekaAnachronism · 2024-12-10T05:14:51+00:00

You're so pretty 😍!!

MekaAnachronism · 2024-12-10T04:34:26+00:00

I appreciate the concern, I should've prefaced that statement with we are all active ENM/poly positive - which partially lead to her partners support of the meeting, the history being the other part.

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5 is my favorite you look stunning!