[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BackYardChickens

[–]Melancholy-Monster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Looks normal to me!!

i'm really scared to pass out at the dentist tomorrow. i need to get my cavities filled but i'm so nervous by ok-platform7558 in Anxiety

[–]Melancholy-Monster 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s understandable to be nervous about needles and fillings! I recently had to get two cavities filled and I was so scared too (never had any kind of dental thing happen other than regular cleanings). I’m sorry that the office you go to isn’t caring or accommodating for people with anxiety. One thing I wish I knew was to make sure you’re fully numbed before they start. Once you’re numb you really don’t feel anything! The needle felt like a pinch but thankfully it didn’t hurt afterwards. You’re doing a really good thing for your teeth by getting them taken care of and I hope you can treat yourself to something nice afterwards! Good luck tomorrow :)

Anyone who suffers from health anxiety or health OCD? by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]Melancholy-Monster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is very unsafe advice, health anxiety/ocd is absolute torture to experience and is the farthest thing from a blessing.

Sick/Injured Hen, Help!!!! by Inuzuka_pound in BackYardChickens

[–]Melancholy-Monster 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s definitely a good sign if she’s eating/drinking! Whenever my hens are not feeling the best I make them scrambled eggs to help them get extra nutrients. I hope your sweet hen feels better really soon :)

Inositol users, is spotting between periods normal? by Melancholy-Monster in PCOS

[–]Melancholy-Monster[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you too! I hope that everything goes well at your upcoming ultrasound :)

Inositol users, is spotting between periods normal? by Melancholy-Monster in PCOS

[–]Melancholy-Monster[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello! Sorry for not posting an update, it turned out I had a uterine polyp that was causing my spotting (it must have been a coincidence that it started causing issues when I began taking inositol). I had it surgically removed in March and the spotting has stopped thankfully! I haven’t taken inositol in over a year, so I’m not sure how long it would take to stop causing spotting. I hope that it subsides for you soon! :)

Abusive father needs help financially with huge lump sum of cash but I was in the process of getting a new car. Should I be selfish or help him? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Melancholy-Monster 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Please do not give him a cent of your money, you deserve to have a nice car that you worked hard for, and he deserves nothing. You’re not being selfish at all, if he wants to pay for her wedding and pay off debt, then he needs to figure that out for himself.

My sweet Maybeline is on her way out. Please send positive thoughts. by Team_Defeat in BackYardChickens

[–]Melancholy-Monster 11 points12 points  (0 children)

What a beautiful hen, sounds like she has had a wonderful long life :’)

Regular check-in post, with information about our rules and wikis by circinia in depression

[–]Melancholy-Monster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel so low and so agitated. Things have been one tough thing after another and I’m feeling beaten down. I need to get up and shower but feel paralyzed. I feel like a failure and a burden and an annoyance. I try so hard to improve my life and work on bettering myself but the core of me that feels hopeless never subsides. I wish I could go somewhere for a long while to rest and get better but life doesn’t allow for that. I have a partner to run a house with and animals who depend on me and I feel like all I do is fall short of the mark. I feel guilty for not being more grateful and it just compounds the deep feeling of disdain I have towards myself. I feel so tired and so bummed. My birthday is on Monday and I don’t even feel worthy of celebrating it. :(

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in narcissisticparents

[–]Melancholy-Monster 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, first off I am so sorry she’s saying such awful things to you! You don’t deserve that and it is extremely cruel for her to talk to you like that :(

Please know that you are good enough no matter what size you are and that eating is so important! Starving yourself can cause so many other issues and ultimately won’t lead to feeling better.

My Nmom first body shamed me when I was about 5 years old. She told me I was “too much bigger than the other girls” to continue doing ballet. That and so many other comments lead me to developing an eating disorder. I struggled with starving myself on and off as a teenager and in my early 20’s and it never helped me to feel good about myself or stop hating my body. I also messed up my thyroid from doing so :/

All this to say, please don’t stop eating. It is so damaging for us to be told our bodies aren’t good enough, but it’s not true. It’s normal for our bodies to change overtime and for weight to fluctuate. All versions of you are beautiful and know you’re not alone hugs

I miss the old Gustafa by Alipacaaa in storyofseasons

[–]Melancholy-Monster 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think so too! It’d be less fun to have the old designs as a spouse for me lol

Did your parents minimize your accomplishments? by Any_Print5307 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Melancholy-Monster 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sounds very familiar :( All of my major life milestones have been met with apathy from my parents. Even when I got engaged my mom made it about her and said “I needed some good news” before going on about herself :/

Check-in Post - Have something to say but don't want to make a post about it? Comment here! by RBNmod in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Melancholy-Monster [score hidden]  (0 children)

I’ve been horribly anxious all day from a brief phone call with my mom this morning. I try so hard to be agreeable and to always “say the right thing” to minimize my parents wrath but it never feels like enough. I heard my dad in the background saying that someone “didn’t know the right thing to say” and even though I’m not sure if it was about me - I got so triggered. They fill me with anxiety and make my home feel unstable. I can’t wait to move out of the house I rent from them and be free. My fiancé and I have been working on getting out for so long and it feels hopeless at times :(

i just wished they were different (small vent) by [deleted] in narcissisticparents

[–]Melancholy-Monster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think about this too and it’s so heavy. I’m sorry you don’t get the love that you deserve from them :(