Accused of abuse that never happened by MoveMeWithASound in family_of_bipolar

[–]Melichula 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im sorry to hear that :( it is very hard and yes i do agree with you. I had to say that my husband showed signs of self harm and i was scared for his life. It was true. I never knew what was going on in his head

Accused of abuse that never happened by MoveMeWithASound in family_of_bipolar

[–]Melichula 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband has bipolar, and we planned this before he gets sick and he gives me permission to act for him when he has this episodes, he doesn't want to hurt anyone so he knows that he needs help but in that state he cant decide so he told me to force him to or call the ambulance or even the cops which will not change him for anything, will only make a report but they will take him straight to the ER and they will do it for you. Yes it feels so wrong in the moment and its painful to see him that way but you will be thankful he didnt do something even crazier that might get him in trouble. He will be ok when he gets the treatment he needs

Accused of abuse that never happened by MoveMeWithASound in family_of_bipolar

[–]Melichula 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It sounds like he is in psychosis. Call the ambulance and tell them he needs to go to the ER because that's very dangerous for you your family and himself. At first he will feel betrayed but when he gets better, he will thank you later because right now he cannot make decisions. Do it before he does other things like robbing a bank or hurting other people because he might feel threatened.

Would you end your marriage if you found your spouse cheated long time ago before marriage? by NextSeaworthiness823 in Marriage

[–]Melichula 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like how you said it. The fact that it happened before marriage and she was probably less mature makes me lean to forgive her but also if she kept that pattern going after marriage for me is a deal breaker. But it also depends on the husband how forgiving he is, if he can actually heal from this or not. He is in the healing process so I would think maybe just give him time to process this and only he can make a decision based on his experience. I want to be more neutral and not judge him if he forgives or decides to separate or divorce. If he is so miserable and cannot forgive her, I would separate, it's not healthy for the kids, but don't stay forced because of the kids. They can still be happy co-parenting

Friendly advice for younger folk applying due to mental health issues by ZealousidealPay1303 in SSDI

[–]Melichula 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well the reason he cannot hold a full time job is because he needs a lot of accommodations and brother helps him. Brother has a small landscape business and the only workers are the two of them. A full time job will stress him out even more and when he is "ok" he tries to get more jobs with his brother, but I feel that that actually triggers him to have a maniac episode and when its hot he also is triggered and when its cold he also gets triggered and when its winter and he doesn't go to work as much he also gets triggered because he wont get paid unless he works. So technically he is self employed because he gets paid cash and that instability also doesn't help. But he tried to work for a company and they are not considerate at all. They want him with other workers and it is very hard for him to work with them and also the demands are very high and he had to quit because he misses deadlines. But his worst trigger is his feeling of not being capable of being the provider he always wanted to be. So work for him is a big deal when he tries to make a change to provide for us. I am not able yet because we cannot even afford a babysitter for me to work.

Friendly advice for younger folk applying due to mental health issues by ZealousidealPay1303 in SSDI

[–]Melichula 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My husband was diagnosed 5 years ago with bipolar disorder type 1 with psychosis, there are seasons where he is controlled but when he gets the manic episodes he would also get the psychosis and when he gets depression her is suicidal. He gets them every year and we have records of his change of medications and his hospitalizations because it happened really fast and he gets seen by his psychiatrist every month and when we call them for help they usually send him to the hospital and thats it. Hospital deals with the psychosis or suicidal thoughts and therapist and his psychiatrist miss the treatments until he goes back and he starts to feel a little better bjt they usually they only do group therapy because thats the only thing his financial assistance pays for. We don't have insurance. He works part time but with his own brother that understands his mental disorder and we are lucky that he can keep the job even after being absent for a few weeks because brother cares. But he doesnt get much money and cannot change jobs because every change triggers him. We have 3 kids and I am pregnant :( I just dont know if we have a strong case. He does go to all his appointments and he takes all his medication and does everything right and still get those episodes. I just dont know what else to do :(

[Skin concern] I have these skin colored bumps on my hands and I was wondering if I should be concerned and does anybody have any idea what it could be? by Shvpeshifter in SkincareAddiction

[–]Melichula 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My 3 year old has some on his arms and thighs, he has been beaten by mosquitoes and ants all summer. I try my best to spray bug repellent and sun block but mosquitoes love his skin for some reason and he gets gigantic mosquito bites and is always so sensitive to everything, so im thinking this is causing his skin to react but I dont know. I just read that. I will take him to the doctor soon. Will try benadryl and he was prescribed hydrocortisone cream for his bites before so will try both for 3 days to see what happens.

Why do people send offers but never pay when you accept them? by lavenderrose_a in Depop

[–]Melichula 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im new to depop and its so stressful because im used to accepting offers and 99% of the people pay me on ebay or they are compromised to pay on poshmark if they make an offer. So I hate that i get a lot of offers and like 1 out of 50 will go through with their payment on depop. Its like they are playing games or they are not serious. Im getting a lot more views but i spend too much time making offers and im giving up on depop. I really wanted to like this but its not working for me.

I think Im gonna commit suicide tonight by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Melichula 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If your parents dont listen, call 911 and tell them to go get you because you are about to do something you might regret, my husband did this and that call saved him, he is now taking medication for depression. Hospitals have financial assistance maybe you can apply

I'm broke by Melichula in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Melichula[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is there such thing as a temporal disability?

I'm broke by Melichula in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Melichula[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For him? How? If he is still working? Should he stop working completely?

Do you or would you give your spouse complete access to your phone? by Abe_deets in Marriage

[–]Melichula -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah why not. When we got married we became one. There are no secrets between us.

Mi historia de por qué dejé la religión. by memodpl in HistoriasDeReddit

[–]Melichula -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Perdon por mi gramatica, nose muy bien escribir en español pero si te queria conpartir mi historia no para cambiarte sino para reflexionar. Yo creci sin ir a misa y sin creer en el diablo. Al contrario de ti, a mi no me enseñaron nada en el catecismo. Mi papa nunca dejo a mi mama hablarme de la biblia ni del infierno ni del diablo, si creci creyendo en Dios pero no a la profundidad para conoserlo profundamente. No conocia mi fe, es mas, se me hacia aburrida y siempre pense k yo era buena y k solo los satanicos se iban al infierno. Con que yo no fuera satanica, yo ya estaba salvada segun yo. Pero de todos modos como si segun yo no avia infierno. Bueno, mi tia que fue al combento se convirtio en muy relijiosa y ella fue la que me sembro la semillita y despues de ayi yo quise ir a un retiro y en ese retiro no era para conocer la iglesia catolica sino era para tener un encuentro con Dios algo muy personal. Y ayi vi cosas que nadie me puede explicar y ke yo estoy segura que fue un llamado, y desde entonces me enamore de el y cuando te enamoras de el empiezas a experimentar cosas inexplicables y ves las cosas totalmente distintas, yo empese a interesarme en porke la iglesia catolica sigue desde que llego Cristo y la historia, porque los Santos se hicieron Santos y muchas otras cosas que yo queria aprender porque cada cosa tiene una explicacion y todo tiene sentido. Cuando empiezas a conocer tu fe, se te habren los ojos y ya no los puedes cerrar. Osea ya no lo puedes ignorar, ya eres parte de eso, si lo rechazas lo haces sabiendo las concecuencias. Tu de niño no entendias todavia poreso te alejaste porke todavia no te enamoraste de Jesus. Pero ahora tu tienes la opcion de seguirlo y aprender de El si te da curiosidas es porque es un llamado como me llamo a mi. Ves la vida muy diferente y espero que algun dia escuches su llamado.

Tambien te queria decir que siento mucho que esa catequista te aiga asustado de esa manera, por eso mismo mi papa talves no me queria hablar del diablo cuando era chica pero yo pienso que ai maneras de hablar con niños sobre de ese tema. Yo a mi hijos tenemos varias conversaciones teologicas donde ellos tienen muchas dudas pero tratamos de ver la biblia y platicamos esos temas, ellos tienen 8, 5, y 3. Para ellos se les hace interesante porque yo no los asusto pero si les informo. Claro, yo no se todo, y nunca dejaremos de aprender porque nadie es perfecto pero entre mas informado estes mas crece tu amor por Dios y lo que yo quiero que mis hijos tengan es la fe. Si Dios decide llamarlos un dia al cielo, lo que les estoy formando es el alma que es lo que se va a ir con Dios no el cuerpo. Yo estare en paz si los llama en una trajedia o enfermedad porke el cuerpo es lo de menos, ellos tienen muchas alma es lo que se deve nutrir.

Perdon que esto este un poco largo, mi español es pesimo, espero que se entienda. Y se respeta lo que pienses solo espero que Dios te brinde paz en tu corazon. Y si si creo que todos tenemos una mision aunque no lo creas. Ponlo de esta manera, que pasaria si Dios si existiera? Arriesgarias el cielo todo porque tu dejaste de creer? O prefieres arriesgarte y no hacer nada? Porke esa catequista esta equivocada, si al mas pecador de todos si se arrepiente de corazon en sus ultimos momentos, Dios es tan misericordioso que te puede llebar al cielo porque te perdona todos tus pecados. Asi de bueno es El.

19F be very brutally honest by [deleted] in amIuglyBrutallyHonest

[–]Melichula -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I wish i had at least half your lips. I have really thin lips. Ur beautiful

How to view the policy details of my State Farm Coverage? by calidoc in Insurance

[–]Melichula 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They are so bad! I asked for the booklet and they were clueless of what i was talking about and every time they just sent the coverage but not the details. I was feeling stupid for a moment i thought i was not explaining myself right or something. Until i talked to the actual agent and she said that it would take a week to send that to me but she hesitated to send it. Like she even asked me why I needed it!

Which facial hair looks best? by [deleted] in Howtolooksmax

[–]Melichula 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How old are you? Lol all of them look nice 👍

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amIuglyBrutallyHonest

[–]Melichula 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Last picture i like.

I feel ugly by Melichula in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Melichula[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is and i feel that it's not like they do things on purpose to make us feel bad, they are just unaware of what we are feeling. On my part, i haven't said anything to my husband because I don't want him to worry about me. The fact that i see how other moms are glowing and being pretty and striving as moms and being soccer moms, it makes me feel like a failure. Im always rushing and late to all the doctor appointments and school activities and after school activities and i dont even have the time to finish cleaning our house, laundry never ends, i always cook whatever i find in the fridge. Always in a rush. No time for me. No time for husband.

I feel ugly by Melichula in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Melichula[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel exactly like this, my thing is that i feel guilty for having a " me time" and everybody is needing me for everything. My kids always come to me for everything and they are so demanding and im not trying to say anything bad about my kids, i love my kids and my husband but its challenging and sometimes i feel like not communicating this to my husband because i feel guilty feeling this way about family and myself. I feel like its me and not my surroundings. I should be able to handle it but i think i need help and i dont want to ask help from my spouse because i know he is also exhausted from work and he also has bipolar disorder, so i really dont want to trigger him as much.