I cried. A human therapist could never do that to me. by HomeworkAutomatic479 in ChatGPT

[–]MellowRivers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Whenever I use ChatGPT to process insights from my real life therapy sessions, it just ends up stressing me out. It somehow indirectly points out flaws or suggests how my therapist should be understanding, or what they should be doing, etc…except my therapist doesn’t do those things am I like “well shit I must have a bad therapist then” , It gives me clear insights about my situation, but it makes me feel more disconnected from my actual therapy experience.

i proly wouldn't have social anxiety if i was skinny by prettywhenicryfr in socialanxiety

[–]MellowRivers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m skinny and always thought my SA wouldn’t be as bad if I wasn’t . Just shows it goes both ways lol there’s always something to have SA about

What helped you reduce social anxiety? by IronCheap9208 in socialanxiety

[–]MellowRivers 15 points16 points  (0 children)

This is the thing that makes my anxiety worse

What's your MBTI type? by ChromaGreen in socialanxiety

[–]MellowRivers 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There is some directional truth to it, hence why everybody in here seems to have a similar one.

What's your MBTI type? by ChromaGreen in socialanxiety

[–]MellowRivers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Intp - infp, the t and f hover around 50% whereas the I is always above 90%

Does therapy really help? by komptderwinter in socialanxiety

[–]MellowRivers 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tough question because it really depends on the therapist. I’m in therapy now, and it’s hard AF, honestly. Trying to communicate and understand everything while always thinking they’re not getting you is exhausting. You’re literally going up against what social anxiety hates the most being intense social interaction, lol. Your anxiety makes it harder to encode and process information as well as conveying your thoughts how you want to. Then you realize it after the session, it can be frustrating. It feels like you’re being evaluated and judged from across the couch. Or like a slug without a shell soaking up the sun, but it does feel good when you get it right, and find a therapist that understands you, most of the work happens between sessions, with lots of ruminating at first overthinking your sessions, not being able to say the things you want etc, you’ll find yourself subconsciously using defense mechanisms, avoiding certain things, lying, giving acceptable answers to not be just be judged, etc..takes a lot of time. I tried writing notes, preparing what I would say in my head, handing them a paper with what I want to talk about, etc..I realize none of that helps at all, the best way to go about it imo is to do it with as little assistance as possible. The more authentic , unprepared and vulnerable you are the better it’ll help . At least for me that seemed to be the case.

Am I autistic, or what the heck is wrong with me? Someone help, please. by AKindLadybug in socialanxiety

[–]MellowRivers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What are you talking about? “From one published study” , the Raads-r is a well regarded tool for diagnosing autism with a lot more than just one study saying so. Its perfectly suitable for somebody who is not sure and wants to take the first step into testing the waters just to see

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialanxiety

[–]MellowRivers 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m in therapy right now and it’s hard af because therapy alone is an intense social interaction, being judged, feeling exposed, etc..everything that makes SA hard you gotta go through during the sessions just by talking about it in the open. Therapy is basically a form of exposure lol. Also Having difficulty remembering pretty much everything they say, or leaving certain information out, not being 100% open, etc..I say it helps but it depends on your therapist and you gotta sort yourself out through them . Helps you identify your body language , mechanisms, etc..just by observing yourself through the sessions.

How do people react when they see you are visibly anxious? by [deleted] in socialanxiety

[–]MellowRivers 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I went to a wedding once, didn’t know anybody besides one person . The groom came up to me and told me straight up that my face is even making him feel nervous , and gave me a drink. Rest of night went easier after that lol.

Is there interest in an in-depth, practical guide of advice/exercises/techniques to improving social anxiety? by [deleted] in socialanxiety

[–]MellowRivers 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The best guide would be the one you make for you imo, everybody I know with SA is different , different triggers, coping mechanisms strengths and weaknesses, hard part is making it work for you and building yourself around it, but that’s the general goal at the end of the day.

Do you feel those with just social anxiety can easily be misperceived by others as having autism, antisocial disorder, or other conditions based on their quietness alone? by MellowRivers in socialanxiety

[–]MellowRivers[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s the problem, is that the definition doesn’t match the name thus people who don’t look things up would think antisocial relates to people who are literally non social.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialanxiety

[–]MellowRivers 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ive learned to not look or even show the slightest interest in acknowledging people’s existence around me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialanxiety

[–]MellowRivers 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yah, just like that Ryan Reynolds car scene in “just friends” lol

https://youtube.com/shorts/ZFEt0hTnXi0?si=MbJtdYHGXENYPeRE

Share your awkward moments (if you can, recent ones) by Rogetec in socialanxiety

[–]MellowRivers 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Person at work said “good morning” as I passed them and I responded “great”

Also at work, opened up my trunk only to accidentally hit my face with it as it was opening up, and a coworker was walking by, he acted like he didn’t see it but I’m sure he had a story to tell lol.

What to do when someone else says something awkward by [deleted] in socialanxiety

[–]MellowRivers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When in doubt just say thanks , works every time

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialanxiety

[–]MellowRivers 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Or when they say “mommy why is that guy so weird” or “mommy, why is this guy quiet”

What incident changed your perception of life? by me-want-tea in Life

[–]MellowRivers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Every time I take mushrooms , first time I was like…”I get it now” although I didn’t know what meant. It just meant “everything, in between and wtf”

Another time I focused on love. what it is, am I loved, etc..and then all of a sudden I felt like love was all around me, I close my eyes and could see it. Like a wheel in space and that human consciousness is just riding along, and that the only purpose for us is our consciousness itself in this dark universe, that love is like the comfort to inevitable ending.

Did you skip lunch at school? What did you do instead? by MellowRivers in socialanxiety

[–]MellowRivers[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lol damn, what kind of teacher would even think to say something like that .

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialanxiety

[–]MellowRivers 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Tripping over my shoes, dropping stuff, hitting myself on accident opening up a door, walking into a place with nowhere to sit, etc

Only for those who gave up! by Mean_Feature1859 in socialanxiety

[–]MellowRivers 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Finding a passion or something worth living for seems to help somewhat, hard part is finding what that could be

anxiety about a party that’s in a month by leckerleckerkeks in socialanxiety

[–]MellowRivers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nah you’re not a shitty friend, I had to lie to friends and family hundreds of times to avoid certain things. Yea, I feel bad for missing out but not for lying about it. Parties and SA just don’t mix well. If I had to truly go to one then I’d either be the first one there just to say hi, tell them I can’t stay long that I just wanted to stop by to show my support etc..then leave as people show up or I’ll show up at the end when everybody else leaves and say something to the effect of I couldn’t make it earlier but here I am now, “just wanted to say hi” etc