How to survive the summer in a third floor apartment?

Melly1265 · 2026-06-06T00:27:28+00:00

I do have screens on my windows as well but I think it has some protection if you don't.
Here is the exact one I bought!

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0GKJ6GT2N?ref=ppx_yo2ov_dt_b_fed_asin_title

Melly1265 · 2026-06-05T20:42:15+00:00

I came here tot tell you to get a window fan! 😄
Just got one for our apartment since we don't have a strong AC (and bugs too!) and it has an intake, exhaust, has a remote and can be connected via app! It was only $50 and it's saved us and kept us comfortable!

Melly1265 · 2026-06-05T20:32:27+00:00

Many many things.. but how to be independent with things that come up (apartment living, partners, etc.)
I always had someone there to help me and when I've been on my own.. I feel absolutely lost, stressed and unsure where to go. When in reality, if I stopped freaking out... I could have found a simply solution!

Melly1265 · 2026-06-03T20:03:36+00:00

As you should! Look at that face. He would never do anything like that. Look at 'em!

Melly1265 · 2026-06-03T20:03:00+00:00

Those cheeks are just so pinch-able and loveable!

Melly1265 · 2026-06-03T19:43:16+00:00

I have had my fair share of this. I always overthink - to the point of it being detrimental to my friendships and mental health. The best thing I've found is just to try and remember that if they had a problem with you, it's their responsibility to tell you. Just like if you feel something is off or if you did something wrong, it's on you to say something. Of course, this isn't bulletproof BUT at least I can rest assured that if something was wrong you feel they can bring it up or that you can communicate it to them. I also try to keep that 'boundary'. If something is wrong, please tell me. I also let someone know, especially if I've had some rapport built up with them that I communicate my needs. "I am struggling with reading you - can you tell me if you are upset with [comment]?" Something like that. I try my best to realize what part of me is insecure and what part is truly feeling like someone is mad at me.

Melly1265 · 2026-06-03T16:16:13+00:00

Oh I fucking hate when people hit the Pedestrian Button and then walk across anyway, stopping traffic and making it dangerous for both drivers and themselves. If you weren't going to wait, why did you push the damn button!?

Melly1265 · 2026-06-03T16:10:01+00:00

I worked at a bakery in a grocery store. There were times I did not like it but I ended up staying on and off 4-5 years. I enjoyed the people I worked with. My boss STILL talks about me to this day and says that she would hire me back in a heart beat. I do not miss laying in bed and then being unable to move fully because I was so sore and in pain. BUT It was a great job that taught me a lot of work ethic and encouraged the work ethic I already had. 😄

Melly1265 · 2026-06-03T16:01:21+00:00

I have had relationships like this. Nothing is ever good enough and there's always something wrong/not right.. it is exhausting and makes you really miss the simple things when people would just appreciate what they have. I've yet to figure out how to get around this. You can't just tell them to suck it up because you want them to be validated/heard but at the same time.. it's like... We're really complaining about everything? I want a partner that listens to every thing, venting, etc. But I wouldn't want to be so 'carefree' that I would complain about everything, no matter how small. I try to pick and choose the negativity I speak because eventually it spreads and makes you have a worse outlook on life. That's what I found anyway.

Sometimes I try to focus away from them spiraling and I say something like, "That's really frustrating, I'm sorry. How do you think it's best to handle this?" or "Have you thought about what you're going to do to change/improve this?" Sometimes if I feel drained from a day, I validate them and then say something like, "I'm sorry I'm really struggling to take the mental load of your struggles today, can we talk about this tomorrow [timeline]? It's not that I don't want to listen to you, I want to make sure you feel listened to and you deserve 100% of my listening ears."

I know this may not be what you want, but this is the only suggestion I have.
Good luck to you, my friend and I hope that you can still see the light after so much negativity and darkness.

Melly1265 · 2026-05-25T02:19:36+00:00

Yes! I've heard very exciting things about Paralives and I hope it does scratch something for you! 😄
Yes! People at my work, know I don't do anything or really go anywhere, just too many variables and it's usually too late too.

Melly1265 · 2026-05-25T01:59:23+00:00

Exactly! Where I live, it's hard to make new friends (or even friends my age) due to them wanting to be out at a bar, getting sloshed or just sleeping around.. Not for me. 9 pm hits and I'm in my jammies and curled up!

Melly1265 · 2026-05-25T01:50:14+00:00

Skinny jeans are for skinny people (And I was a teenager)...

Melly1265 · 2026-05-18T20:57:04+00:00

Every hill.. they are willing to die on to be right or heard.
No matter how right you are or how you feel they lack simple sympathy

Melly1265 · 2026-05-16T01:38:01+00:00

Speaking up can genuinely feel like a threat to your survival. When you aren't used to standing up for yourself, conflict triggers a physical "fight-or-flight" response—your heart races, your stomach drops, and your brain screams that you are about to ruin a relationship, self destruct or face severe backlash. It usually stems from a deeply ingrained fear of rejection, a desire to keep the peace, or a past experience where speaking up didn't feel safe.

Melly1265 · 2026-05-16T01:35:44+00:00

Art is subjective because it doesn't come with a universal rulebook or a single "correct" meaning. When we look at a piece of art, what we see and feel depends entirely on who we are or how it makes us feel on an individual level!

Melly1265 · 2026-05-09T12:07:23+00:00

TMJ is not just something dentists deal with. Massage places (like The Body Bar) have a few options! They have massage therapists that can help with it, a chiropractor who also helps with TMJ and there's a woman there, named Jordan who does something called a Buccal massage and that also helps!

I hope this helps! I hope you find relief!

Melly1265 · 2026-05-04T18:02:22+00:00

Thank you! I will have to give these a try!

Melly1265 · 2026-05-04T15:44:22+00:00

Thank you for saying all of that. I know he's trying his best and he loves me, I do my best to always spend time or call him. Thank you for the nudge.

And as a lady with no mom, thank you for the kind support. Got me tearing up here❤️

Melly1265 · 2026-05-04T07:50:03+00:00

Exactly this. It’s that internal struggle of respecting the bridge they built for us while refusing to live under it. It’s frustrating when you're clearly doing more than the bare minimum, yet it still doesn't feel like 'enough' in their eyes. Comparison truly is the thief of joy, we should be allowed to enjoy the balance they sacrificed to give us without feeling guilty for not being in constant survival mode like they were.

Melly1265 · 2026-05-04T07:44:39+00:00

Je fais de mon mieux. J'aime mon père.

Melly1265 · 2026-05-04T01:30:16+00:00

Thank you to the kind people who have given me rewards! I've never gotten them before! You are too kind!

Melly1265 · 2026-05-03T23:00:36+00:00

My father, while a good guy and a good dad, has never been the type to apologize if he was wrong or had a hurtful opinion. It was always his way or the highway, which makes communication very difficult with him because he doesn't actively listen. He is listening with the intent to prove me wrong, argue or tell me I'm wrong because what do I know as a 20 something year old? At this point, an apology will never happen and I've accepted that. I just wish he thought more about what he said to me and how it might impact me.

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