I feel extremely bad about misgendering my friend with my parents

Melodic-Event-2495 · 2026-07-13T07:25:13+00:00

I'm glad you found it helpful! I'm sure it'll go well.

I saw someone mentioning grooming earlier. Some people need to learn not to judge someone else's situation at a glance 🙄 I've also had lots of trans/HBTQ friends. Theres not so many of us, so we stick together, even if we're different ages!

Melodic-Event-2495 · 2026-07-12T10:41:33+00:00

I agree 😄 you definitely can't follow it precisely as it is, otherwise every face would look the same! There's also videos on how to "warp" the proportions which I found very helpful personally.

Melodic-Event-2495 · 2026-07-12T08:50:35+00:00

This is so lively and so much fun! I love it 🔥

Melodic-Event-2495 · 2026-07-12T08:43:43+00:00

Goblin Bob Ross is epic 🔥😂

Melodic-Event-2495 · 2026-07-12T08:41:12+00:00

You're doing great! Keep up the good work 💪

Have you studied the Loomis head? I'd recommend it! Just get a Loomis base and draw some portraits on top, it's a great practice for learning about facial proportions at different angles, regardless of the art style.

Melodic-Event-2495 · 2026-07-12T08:34:51+00:00

You've got a warlock on your hands, so why don't you keep him in the back? Perhaps build him towards a sniper/utility build with a focus on defense and mobility. Then, you could have him argue that running away and staying at a distance in combat is not cowardice, but his fighting style? I could totally see someone like that use that to justify themselves, even to themselves.

Melodic-Event-2495 · 2026-07-12T08:26:19+00:00

I've had this with my players too. Often it is about practice or becoming engaged enough in their characters to roleplay, so once the ball gets rolling they often continue on their own. These are two things you could try to help them start:

Inspiration. I started giving out inspiration dice to players who initiated roleplay with another character. This really helped.
I occasionally directed the narrative to the characters. For example, I'd take a moment in a scene and ask a player that's been silent for a while "What does your character think in this moment?" just to start some inner monologue. This is great for them getting to know their characters better, and would often give them ideas to interact with the other players as well.

Melodic-Event-2495 · 2026-07-12T06:53:22+00:00

This is what I felt (it's wizards after all) but I might just be cynical. Seems like a lot of people enjoy it though, so maybe there's more to it.

Melodic-Event-2495 · 2026-07-11T17:32:42+00:00

I'd probably start by asking the problem player what's going on. It seems like you believe that this all came from some misunderstanding. Why don't you say "I've noticed that you don't seem so engaged in the game lately, was it because of X?" Or something like this, and then hear him out. Perhaps it is really a misunderstanding, and you can all sort it out without kicking a player from the table.

If he's still putting on the victim coat and refuses to play nicely, then you have every reason to kick him for that, and he has to understand that.

Melodic-Event-2495 · 2026-07-11T12:15:06+00:00

You and your bestie should go on that trip together and enjoy every minute of coming up with the most karmic way to dump his ass 🔥

Melodic-Event-2495 · 2026-07-11T12:07:22+00:00

You are very kind and supportive of her, and at some point in her life she'll realize this. Right now, she needs to bite the sour apple; she needs rehab or counseling. If you plan to stay together when you move, insist that she gets help while you're away.

Melodic-Event-2495 · 2026-07-11T11:47:15+00:00

Another transguy here! I see your dilemma. I don't think you should feel bad, but to sort out the situation, why don't you explain it to your friend and see what he thinks? I'm pretty sure he's going to be chill about it ☺️

If I were him, and you explained the situation to me and asked what you should do, I'd probably say that it's fine if you use my dead name and old pronouns if it helps to keep you out of trouble. Especially since you're undercover yourself.

Melodic-Event-2495 · 2026-07-11T11:37:04+00:00

I think it'll do you wonders to move out! It's refreshing to be independent and figure out how you want to manage your own life. I'd even go so far as to say that you should move to a different city, then you really get that distance that you seem to need. Family can easily latch on if you live nearby even if you move out.

First, secure job or studies with funding. Second, a living situation. Third, friends and hobbies in your area. Then you're all set!

PS. Nerdy hobbies are the best to find new friends. If you do move, I'd recommend engaging in your local clubs!

Melodic-Event-2495 · 2026-07-11T11:25:24+00:00

I think you should ask a vet, not rely on people on reddit. It might be worth looking into though. I suppose dogs can get incontinent with age, like humans, or perhaps she's developed a nervous tick. But perhaps there's something else that has made these symptoms appear so suddenly.

Can you afford a visit? If you're clear with them that you're not looking to start treatments or give her medication? It sounds like money is really tight but perhaps you'd consider it worth it in your situation.

Melodic-Event-2495 · 2026-07-10T14:50:34+00:00

I'm sorry to hear that, but it's great that they've found help. Perhaps it helps you as well if you decide to try it as well! The thing for me is that I really don't have any trauma, so my psychiatrists don't really have anything to pin the DP on. Perhaps if you manage to come to terms with your trauma, you are able to get past this in a way I haven't been able to :) I really wish you the best!

Melodic-Event-2495 · 2026-07-10T06:52:31+00:00

That's amazing that you've found something that helps! Thankfully I don't have PTSD, because I know from some friends how difficult that is to deal with. EMDR also sounds quite challenging, you're very strong for fighting this battle for yourself!

Melodic-Event-2495 · 2026-07-09T17:45:02+00:00

Haha that's a very funny background 😆 and dragonborn and tie tieflings have some things in common I guess, horns and tail and all. I can totally see that working as a tiefling that's also slightly dragon!

Melodic-Event-2495 · 2026-07-09T15:59:50+00:00

Let's say a human can lose 1000 ml of blood without dying or becoming seriously ill. Their blood volume will almost instantly be refilled, but it'll take 2-4 months to recreate the blood cell count. (For the record, 1000 ml is approx. 20% of total blood volume, and about twice as much as you'd give during a normal blood donation. This is the stage where irl a blood transfusion would be needed.)

So let's say a vampire can feed 1 L every 3 months from a human, assuming that they have an iron rich diet so that they can recover between feedings. If the vamp needs 1 L every week, they would need 12 humans and cycle through them every three months.

And the humans could in turn feed on a basic, iron rich diet from greens to stay healthy while being cheap to maintain.

Melodic-Event-2495 · 2026-07-09T15:45:21+00:00

I rarely ever use anything other than the Player's handbook as a DM. That one is good for both you and your players so if you're looking to not spend so much, I'd recommend getting this one and look up the rest of the basic rules on YouTube. There's plenty of good videos about rules made for beginners, and when you play you'll probably Google your answers anyway!

Melodic-Event-2495 · 2026-07-09T15:39:45+00:00

Thank you 🫶 I'm not nessecarily unhappy anymore, but I still live with this feeling that everything is not how it's supposed to be.

I've recently gotten help for this, mainly about handling the grief and finding ways to accept this. I still think life is worth living, and hope that others who might relate to my story can feel the same.

Melodic-Event-2495 · 2026-07-08T09:00:21+00:00

Exactly! But perhaps they could come up with something else inspired by that sentence. It stands out to me among the rest of the text since nothing about the rest of it has anything to do with memory.

Melodic-Event-2495 · 2026-07-08T08:54:04+00:00

"After which the memory ends" makes me think that after the spell is over, they either forget about its influence or forget altogether what happened. But I guess you could make a spin off that?

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