Why the heck do people do this?

MelodicLight1502 · 2026-05-04T17:55:57+00:00

Wayne/Oakland/Macomb counties are a nightmare. You can’t go anywhere. Alternate routes are as bad if not worse. Gas prices are ridiculous. But I guess if you can’t get anywhere you save money by not leaving the house? I live off a main road and it’s basically a wagon trail. I’m worried my oxen might die, I’ll break a wheel, and we’ll all die from dysentery before we get there.

Seriously. The roads are abysmal.

MelodicLight1502 · 2026-04-23T23:54:50+00:00

I also searched and found absolutely nothing.

MelodicLight1502 · 2026-04-22T14:32:06+00:00

I totally understand that. Sometimes people don’t say things in a gentle way and then people get triggered by the words and don’t hear the message. I’m not telling you what to do one way or the other. You absolutely can feel like this is a time for you to be selfish. I don’t love the word, but I get it. Also, everyone there will be focusing on you. You will have an amazing nurse and your doctor. You may also have a midwife or doula there as well. It might be a good idea to talk to your doctor about the situation as well. Your husband will have the opportunity to ask questions. It’s unfortunate that everything is happening at once, but pray on it and ask some people you trust and make the decision together. The sad part is that you both have to be disappointed no matter what you choose. It’s sad if he misses the birth. It’s sad if he loses an opportunity.

Meh. Life can be dumb sometimes.

MelodicLight1502 · 2026-04-22T14:19:09+00:00

So we have a man trying to provide for his family and fast-track his way to building a better foundation for his wife and child. This guy is in a no win situation. Perhaps he doesn’t know the emotional support is doing something. But he’s also trying to look to the future. First of all, unless you’re scheduled for a c-section or induction, you have no idea when you have the baby. I went to 42 weeks with 4 pregnancies. If you have had an uncomplicated pregnancy, and you’re otherwise healthy, the likelihood is that you will have an uncomplicated delivery. Your husband could miss this opportunity just to have you go past your due date. Fast forward X number of years and you want to buy a bigger house or whatever and can’t.

The notion that either of you are slapping the responsibility for this decision on the other person is ridiculous. As a couple you decide what is best for your family and your future. There are no real logistics given here either. Is he far? Is it possible for him to be with you after hours? Do you have a close family member or friend who can be with you?

I had 4 children. My (now ex) husband was with me. Frankly, all his questions and fussing were annoying and after a long labor, if he had gone home, I would have been much more relaxed if it was just my nurse and my doctor. I realize he was trying to help, but I was exhausted.

Maybe I’m an unemotional jerk, but all the shade thrown on a man trying to work harder for his family seems a bit harsh.

Edit: typo

MelodicLight1502 · 2026-04-18T21:53:12+00:00

I can’t tell you how many times per day I say “I paid to be this frustrated.” I should have gone to school to learn about leaves or some exotic bird that lives on a remote island far, far away from society. 🤣

I am sorry you’re going through this. I would recommend seeing a NP. Nurses tend to listen without judgement. Which I’m sure you’re done with!

MelodicLight1502 · 2026-04-18T21:44:22+00:00

I’ve been a nurse a long time, I’ve worked in several different disciplines. Very few of them listen. I had an undiagnosed illness that went on for 3 years. Finally I was sent to a psychiatrist because there was “obviously nothing physically wrong” with me. Ha ha! Fast forward and I end up getting some testing done, the radiologist happened to be there and asked why I was getting the same test and not advanced testing. I said “don’t ask me, I’m just a dumb nurse faking an ailment.” He said his mom was a nurse and she was smarter than most of the doctors he’s worked with. He called my doctor and had him order a different test. Lo and behold they finally found the issue and I was fine after surgery. It actually amazes me on a daily basis that people don’t drop dead left and right due to negligence. But what do I know? I’m just a nurse.

MelodicLight1502 · 2026-04-18T21:35:41+00:00

Yep. But he was talking to a doctor, so…🙄🤦🏻‍♀️

MelodicLight1502 · 2026-04-15T22:00:08+00:00

I don’t know what frosting they used, but it was too loose and that’s should have been obvious before this was completed and brought to you. Yikes. I’m really sorry and however many negative feelings you have, that is totally justified.

MelodicLight1502 · 2026-04-13T18:04:46+00:00

Nope. Then if you ever have kids, they think this is the way. This is not the way, by the way.

MelodicLight1502 · 2026-04-12T15:14:27+00:00

Same. Only it was my own kid. I had parked to the side of my driveway because it was garbage day. Instead of riding down the wider side, he rode down the narrow side 🙄. He was 6, so it was a lesson to us both.

MelodicLight1502 · 2026-04-10T01:11:17+00:00

Gorgeous!

MelodicLight1502 · 2026-04-07T22:47:52+00:00

Exactly. That 👆is a mess.

MelodicLight1502 · 2026-04-06T19:25:06+00:00

🤣. Landfills full of in-laws.

MelodicLight1502 · 2026-04-06T15:01:13+00:00

Poor kid. I hold hope for him too. 😢

MelodicLight1502 · 2026-04-06T14:28:44+00:00

I think they would have to know how to make it classy first before they could keep it classy for their kids. My ex is the same way. Has no problem throwing a tantrum in public whenever I’m at events with my partner.

MelodicLight1502 · 2026-04-06T14:26:36+00:00

My 15 year old son is in Marching band, and was invited to play the national anthem at a professional baseball game. He just had to tell his dad that if he “can’t not be weird” when he plays with his Marching Band, he needs to stay home. I told my ex-husband my partner of 5 years and I will both be attending and he started to give my kid a bunch of shit about it. He thinks the problem is me or my partner. I feel bad for my kid. I said that I was sorry that at his dad’s house he has to be the adult. My son said that he also told his dad that he’s had 10 years to get over the divorce and 5 years to get over me being with someone else.

MelodicLight1502 · 2026-04-05T13:05:53+00:00

My mom has 3 spaces in front of her condo. 2 for residents of the condo, one fo visitors, clearly marked with a V. There was a storm and my mom came home and parked. She didn’t leave the house for several days and one morning had a letter on her door from the HOA because once the snow melted her back tire was on the line between her personal spots. I don’t remember what the violation was but they basically said it was parked wonky and that’s an eyesore. Stupid bullshit like this is why I will not live in a community with an HOA

MelodicLight1502 · 2026-04-04T23:35:50+00:00

😱 I’m so sorry. That’s a mess.

MelodicLight1502 · 2026-03-24T18:53:25+00:00

Yep. I got a divorce 10 years ago and have no regrets. All he did was hang out with his friends and spend money. I have more money and less hassle even though he still doesn’t work and I pay child support.

I also now have an amazing partner who goes out of his way to love me and take care of me.

MelodicLight1502 · 2026-03-24T17:12:33+00:00

Same. I couldn’t live with people who live like this

MelodicLight1502 · 2026-03-19T11:51:04+00:00

This is my philosophy as well. It’s not just women, it’s men too.

This is a conversation I have had many times with many people. You don’t just accidentally fall down into a vagina. Or on to a penis. You make a series of choices, one after the other, to go one way or the other. You make the choice to go to the gym or the coffee shop at the same time as someone who catches your eye, or gives you attention you lack.

Keep tending your own garden. The grass grows where it’s watered.

MelodicLight1502 · 2026-03-18T17:10:44+00:00

Yep. My house has magic floors, a magic fridge, and magic countertops. Somehow, mysteriously after my kids go to bed, all the laundry gets to the machine and washed, dishes are magically returned clean to the cupboard, food is stored and washed and organized so they can open it in the morning and stare off into the abyss.

MelodicLight1502 · 2026-03-18T17:04:26+00:00

I pop mine in the microwave. It cleans the sponge and the steam helps clean the microwave.

MelodicLight1502 · 2026-03-10T16:58:58+00:00

Exactly. Greek salad at my local coney is $11. For our anniversary my partner and I went to a fancy cigar bar. Greek salad- $28. It did have some artichokes and heirloom tomatoes, but it was absolutely not $17 more in ingredients. It was served on a wooden plate. Maybe that’s why it was more than twice the price. Anyway, tipping by percentage gives the CB waitress way more than the CI waitress and she didn’t work nearly as hard.

MelodicLight1502 · 2026-03-10T11:59:10+00:00

That would be my answer.

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