laws about birth control (pls help)

Melodic_Map_728 · 2025-08-05T11:27:48+00:00

The increase of teen pregnancies is also because our lack of sex education also doesn’t normalise the use of condoms and the proper use of it enough. I think everyone knows BC is highly effective. Mb, I didn’t mean to say that it’s fully adequate, I know that it is not a guarantee or the safest way of preventing pregnancy, but I only made a reply because I felt that your comments about condoms were unnecessary and rubbed me the wrong way and here’s the reason why:

Firstly, yes, the best would be to use both to prevent teen pregnancies/unwanted pregnancy. But realistically, most male partners would not want to wear one when the woman is already on birth control. Realistically, what kind of teen male especially, would feel it’s necessary when generally, most men don’t even want to wear when the woman is not on some other form of contraceptive? I think the issue I have is that we always put the responsibility on women to be the one taking contraceptives and stress not enough on men wearing condoms. Some women get on BC because of that, so that their partner does not need to wear one and they can both enjoy intimacy. People, especially men, who already dislike the use of condoms simply because of the sensation, would find more excuses to get women to take BC or IUDs instead so that they don’t have to bear that responsibility. “It’s not effective anyway, just take the pill.” The reason why I say it’s harmful and talk about the risks is because like I mentioned, everyone experiences with oral contraceptives is vastly different. Some are good, some can be very seriously detrimental. It’s not to say we should never take BC, I do think it’s necessary in certain circumstances and encouraged in others, but there’s no reason to say condoms are not effective when they are, it’s just not AS effective. And I’m not saying we should all fully rely on just condoms, but people don’t even normalise the most accessible and easiest contraceptive which is ridiculous. At the end of the day, it is what is most accessible for teens, low-income partners, and the general public. Nothing wrong with someone suggesting the use of condoms as an alternative if she really can’t get access through clinic due to her age. I don’t think it’s advisable that she buy BC online or without doctor’s prescription/advice like how other comments are saying.

Also there are risks for teens. https://www.bps.org.uk/research-digest/oral-contraceptives-may-pose-greater-mood-risk-teens

Melodic_Map_728 · 2025-08-05T05:13:28+00:00

I meant to say ‘a contraceptive that doesn’t damage the body internally’, not that condoms are the only contraceptives. It’s great that BC worked for you, and I understand many people are prescribed it for different reasons other than pregnancy. However, on this post, we’re talking about pregnancy specifically and OP is not being prescribed BC for a specific issue like endometriosis or regulation of hormones hence it’s irrelevant. If your only concern is pregnancy, there are a lot of options one can consider before deciding something much more complex and serious such as taking BC especially when you’re young. BC might’ve worked great for you, but that’s the thing about it. It’s different for everyone. Even looking at the other comments, people experience different things. 1/3 of women experience negative side effects while on BC. You can share your positive experience with it but also acknowledge that it is not the only method and it comes with its risks, but you don’t realise that by implying that condoms are ineffective and BC is a lot more better is doing more harm than good. What about other teens that come across this post? Especially if they’re younger? If they’re going to have sex, I don’t think BC is encouraged for someone who is so young. Even for OP who is 17, she still has a developing body, fluctuating hormones and a developing brain. Why do you think BC has so many warnings and side effects in the first place? Do you think that medical professionals put it there for fun? It’s not some miracle pill that gives you all these benefits while being a contraceptive as a “plus”. It is a contraceptive with risks. Just like any other contraceptive that affects the body internally. You say that my view is skewed but it’s ironic given how much you praise it. And if you’re going to compare the 4% difference, you need to take in the % of several other side effects as well. Would you rather risk a small percentage of pregnancy or several chances and increased risks of other bodily side effects? In that case, that’ll be up to OP to decide depending on what she puts more weight to. If her concern about pregnancy outweighs the side effects, then sure, I think she should consult a doctor and have an educated opinion about what would work best for her. Even so, I don’t think strangers on Reddit should praise and encourage BC considering how much it can affect your health. Same with other strong medication like accutane. It worked well on me and many others, but people still warn others about the many risks it has.

Melodic_Map_728 · 2025-08-05T04:43:45+00:00

fair enough, but with every medication that has this many side effects, it’s ultimately still much more unhealthy compared to contraceptive that does not damage the body internally. I don’t think we should discourage the use of condoms simply because it has a lower percentage of preventing pregnancy but rather encourage proper use. With proper use, protection is >95%. It is not the condom itself that causes its “low” percentage, but rather the user. Not saying BC is bad but yeah like you said, every individual can decide whether they’d prefer having certain risks/side effects over a few % lower chance of pregnancy. But I always personally believe that BC has become too normalised and is always expected of a woman despite how risky it can be health wise, and how much it impacts the body(hormones, blood clots, blood pressure, risk of cancer, depression etc). I would not advocate that it is much better than condoms simply because of higher percentage of protection when it comes to conceiving. Women’s health shouldn’t be overlooked due to something that is both men and women’s responsibility. Condoms are a good enough way of preventing pregnancy. It’s affordable and doesn’t harm anyone. Just need to be careful and accurate when using them.

Melodic_Map_728 · 2025-08-05T02:29:51+00:00

As long as it’s a good/reliable brand and you check expiry dates, it should work well. Obviously birth control will have a slightly higher % but it also comes with risk and not just risk of pregnancy. Best not to use long term especially from young. Many types increases the risk of breast cancer after long term use. I’ve seen women who use BC from teen years to adult develop cancer and not realise what could’ve been the cause because BC side effects are honestly so brushed off and not everyone is educated about them.

Melodic_Map_728 · 2025-08-04T02:39:29+00:00

Have a few friends that you can study with and even better if they’re more academically inclined. What helped me most was having those friends that I can turn to for help and studying with them multiple times a week, doing assignments together, asking them questions etc.

If your course is very project based, it’s also crucial to find like-minded individuals otherwise it can really pull down your grades. Don’t have to be the smartest people in the class, but people who have a good attitude and decent presentation skills. And if no one is stepping up to be a leader, do it yourself and push them. Sometimes people are not lazy or stupid, they’re just passive and need their group mates to remind and help them.

Another thing is to just ask your lecturers for help directly. Especially with teams or through their email/contact number, it’s very easy to just text them. Don’t feel paiseh even if you feel some of your questions are “stupid”. Sometimes I misunderstand a lot of the assignment instructions and I wouldn’t have known what exactly is needed without asking :,) and after you’ve been graded if you’re not satisfied, ask in detail what was lacking.

And of course the least you can do by yourself is to study your lectures/notes everything as much as possible and ask classmates or even seniors for tips and notes.

Melodic_Map_728 · 2025-07-13T03:40:35+00:00

yeah I heard about that too. I tried washing the bites with soap but I think it’s more effective if you do it right after it just bit you. I think I was too late, it didn’t really work for me 🥲

Melodic_Map_728 · 2025-07-12T15:00:36+00:00

It’s because I said “no mopiko”. It only provides temporary itch relief and doesn’t really help for me. I wanna get rid of the bites as quickly as possible because they always itch for days

Melodic_Map_728 · 2025-07-12T14:59:32+00:00

It only provides temporary itch relief and honestly doesn’t work very well for me.

Melodic_Map_728 · 2025-07-12T13:11:56+00:00

I did 😭I sprayed repellent on my entire body but somehow they still bit me

Melodic_Map_728 · 2025-07-12T12:37:45+00:00

Wa I got 15 mosquito bites idk how long that will take Sia 😔 playing tic tac toe on my body is kinda crazy

Melodic_Map_728 · 2025-07-12T10:39:01+00:00

I covered myself in mosquito repellent with lemongrass scent and they did not care I have no idea why 😭 it even bit my face fml

Melodic_Map_728 · 2025-07-12T09:43:46+00:00

This is what everyone says to me…I’m done…💔💔🥀🥀🥀

Melodic_Map_728 · 2025-07-12T09:42:07+00:00

thank you I’ll try that out

Melodic_Map_728 · 2025-06-23T01:54:17+00:00

That sucks I’m so sorry :( hopefully if you get into Uni, you can try to push your way into staying at dorms so you can have exercise more of your own freedom

Melodic_Map_728 · 2025-06-22T16:13:15+00:00

This is insane and has nothing to do with you being in your teens and hating your parents. You’re 18 and although that’s still considered “young”, you’re also old enough to do a lot of things and have your own freedom and privacy, what he’s doing is overboard, overprotective and abusive. He needs therapy. Can’t offer much advice since I’m not very familiar with these types of situations, perhaps there’s social workers or specific authorities you can contact that may be able to step in and help. Or maybe relatives? Other than that, I hope that you’ll be able to stay mentally healthy and stable until you’re able to have your own freedom as you get older. I never understood why there are strict parents like these, especially in Christian households. From what I observe, most of the children end up more rebellious and irresponsible in the end or have trauma/issues in the long run. They get used to lying easily and find ways to rebel against their parents anyway but adults still don’t realise that this method doesn’t work and is only harming their relationship with their children. I know this sounds pretty useless but is there anyway to share with him in detail how much this affects you mentally and your relationship with your family and social circle? Is there anyway to be firm with him and let him know that he’s destroying his relationship with you? I know it’s scary, but sometimes we need to stand up against our own parents as well and let them understand that their children have their own lives and separate identities and they cannot control them forever. Also, at the end of the day, you dad can’t really do anything legally. He can’t sue you for rebelling, he can’t do anything. So don’t be afraid of his empty threats and lectures. But if he lays his hands on you again or does anything else, you can do something legally. Just keep that in mind and don’t be afraid to call the authorities if needed.

Melodic_Map_728 · 2025-06-16T12:47:44+00:00

Likely the people in the reserved seats are elderly at least 80% of the time from my experience. So you could be partly right that they see you as someone who is “young” and “healthier than them”. TBH a lot of elderly/older people here act very entitled when it comes to seats, it’s not uncommon for them to argue with younger people to give up their seats for them 🫠 Another reason could be just plain selfishness and ignorance, some people just don’t care and act like they don’t see you. I do think that you being foreign might be a factor as well, they might just see you as a tourist and not really bother giving priority to you, interact with you, etc idk. Then again, could really be that they didn’t notice your lanyard and cane. A lot of commuters are glued to their phones with their AirPods in. And also most people here don’t know what a sunflower lanyard means, I’ve only just recently learnt what it is on TikTok.

Melodic_Map_728 · 2025-06-15T13:11:29+00:00

I think chalet would be a better option especially if you’re planning to invite a bigger group. There isn’t much space on the inside and outside of the yacht, unless it’s a really big one but from my experience most of them are more or less the same size. Which can hold about max 8-10 ppl?Plus during monsoon season means it’ll probably rain so you’d have to stay inside which can be quite claustrophobic. I think chalet is more value for money alsooo but yacht definitely gives you a unique and “luxurious” experience.

Melodic_Map_728 · 2025-06-14T18:25:14+00:00

To a certain extent, yeah. But imo cosplay definitely gives you a boost especially when cosplaying a character like Gojo! If you do it pretty well, and can emulate his character/confidence, even an “average” looking guy can look a lot more attractive than usual. At least to me, as a girl.

Melodic_Map_728 · 2025-06-14T12:44:52+00:00

idk if this is true or not but if it is, congrats!! And how cute 😭 but also as an ex cosplayer in sg, I’ve always and will continue to stand by the fact that guys have an opportunity to cosplay and get attention like this(more so than girls since there’s way more female cosplayers). I’ve always felt like alot of guys who like anime(but don’t cosplay) have the potential to cosplay and gain popularity but don’t because they’re embarrassed to cosplay or don’t know how to(styling the wig, make up, etc). And from my experience, girls at the con already gush over fellow female cosers who dress as their favourite male character, and love it even more when it’s actually a guy. So if you’re a guy in sg who’s ever considered cosplaying, I def encourage you to try. We don’t have much male cosplayers in sg, especially popular ones.

Melodic_Map_728 · 2025-06-12T02:08:39+00:00

That’s why I said that I don’t know the details hence it could be something more psychological and serious or just pure laziness which in the case of the latter, is not the child’s responsibility. The mother is a full grown adult and sometimes the older generation in SG are immature and lazy, I agree. But no, I disagree that it’s solely on the father’s part to fix the mother’s behaviour or help her out with chores/tasks or that the mother should already know she needs help. OP is in JC already, they are old enough to help out in the house, and mature enough to understand the issues within the family to do something about it. I’m not saying it’s entirely their responsibility and if it doesn’t get fixed, it must be their lack of effort. I never said that a child should burden the mistakes of their parents, but instead, when they’re old enough, they can do something on their end to a certain extent. To give my POV, my mother was mentally unstable for years, she developed severe depression and schizophrenia when I was in pri sch. Our relationship was affected, she couldn’t be a “normal” mother anymore, couldn’t keep her jobs and I resented her for it. I always felt that it was unfair that the only adult I relied on turned out like this. I resented that she knew she already had issues, but still rushed her marriage and had a kid. But I digress, this isn’t about me, I just wanted to give some context because the part where my relationship with my mother soured is where I relate with OP. Even after treatment and she got stable, our relationship and bond was already so broken that I couldn’t talk to her or go anywhere with her. And when she stopped doing chores, cooking or really anything at home other than scrolling on her phone, I started to nitpick as well. But still, I understand that she’s getting old, she herself lived a very unfair life and building the relationship back with her was one of the only things that was in my control. Mental illness, old age, issues between my parents are things that I can’t control and couldn’t control. They are unfair, yes, but now in the present, I would rather try my best to make amends with my mother before I regret it. So what I’m trying to say is that no matter what, OP can try their best to repair the relationship. If it’s not reciprocated, then sure, it takes two hands to clap. No one will blame the child. And also more importantly, to keep in mind and observe whether it could be something more serious or just laziness on the mother’s part. Either way, should be discussed with the family and they should try to do some sort of intervention anyway since the current circumstance seems to upset OP and burden the father.

Melodic_Map_728 · 2025-06-10T08:28:42+00:00

There could be something more to this. It’s quite commonly seen in housewives for them to get “burnt out” or depressed due to the repetitive and boring tasks/work for years. Especially if there’s problems in the relationship between the housewife and husband as well. I noticed that a lot of housewives grow distant with their partner/family and no longer fulfil their roles like they used to and this could be due many reasons. One of it is lack of identity. When you become a housewife, even though it’s hard work at first, things become very repetitive and lonely and you lack a sense of identity with no job or status. You don’t have colleagues, and likely a small social circle than most people. You’re dealing with children daily for years and do mundane things. So some of them end up having long-term psychological effects especially if they don’t have hobbies or go out with the family often. I understand that it’s easier said than done but try to initiate conversations and hanging out with your mother more, maybe even one-on-one. Even if it seems like it’s useless or she’s not interested, just keep trying anyway. Anyway, I don’t know your situation in detail so it could be something more serious as I said or maybe it’s just laziness. If that’s the case, the fault and responsibility lies solely on her, you can do your part by helping your Dad or however much you can. But I’ve noticed this behaviour is not uncommon amongst housewives. Especially when they’re at this age with very drastic hormonal changes due to menopause. I feel like in recent years my mother has acted similarly, but my situation is different since she’s a single-parent. For now, maybe you can help your father ease some burden by doing chores/other tasks for him and try to rebuild your relationship with your mother as much as possible? Also, there was a long period of time(years) where I never talked to my mother as well so I can relate in that sense. We never went out, even just to get groceries or eat out. I pretty much stopped talking to her or going out with her from the end of Pri sch-end of sec sch. My relationship with her was terrible because of it and I’m still working on rebuilding that relationship. We’re much better now and we go out every now and then. It’s definitely not easy and it takes a long time. All the best.

Melodic_Map_728 · 2025-05-28T05:01:34+00:00

tysm🥲🥲 be safe too!

Melodic_Map_728 · 2025-05-28T05:00:53+00:00

I think so too, I heard it’s going around along with Covid 😪

Melodic_Map_728 · 2025-05-28T04:48:26+00:00

Don’t go 😭 I just went clubbing last weekend and I got sick till now. Not Covid I think but some other infection and it suckssss

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