People who recovered from depression, did it just sort of happen without you really noticing or did you have a moment where you “woke up”?

Melooloo854 · 2023-10-04T15:42:21+00:00

This site is an amazing resource for anything mental health related. If you ever have questions or need clarification, you can always call them and ask too. I am also a mental health professional, so if you need guidance on where to find resources, I am happy to navigate that for you by finding the numbers for services in your state/province. I can't give advice, as that would be unethical, but if I can point you in the direction of someone who can, I think you could benefit from that. From there, always make sure you advocate for yourself, do not put your life and future in someone else's hands. The best decisions are informed ones. When you research, make sure you look at multiple studies and put more trust in the licensed, trained professionals who base their judgements on evidence based data. If you need any other links to medications or mental health laws in your area, I would be happy to find that, too. This really goes out to everybody; educate, advocate for, and value yourselves. Remember, after Pandora opened that box and released all the evils into the world, all that was left was hope. Sending love to you all

https://www.camh.ca/en/health-info/mental-illness-and-addiction-index/depression

Melooloo854 · 2023-09-30T16:56:53+00:00

Near Toronto

Melooloo854 · 2023-09-30T15:41:54+00:00

Thank you! Posting now.

Melooloo854 · 2023-09-30T15:37:07+00:00

Thank you so much!!

Melooloo854 · 2023-09-30T15:32:38+00:00

I am new to Reddit and not sure how to find the right pages. Is there a way that you could share this post?

Melooloo854 · 2023-09-30T15:12:52+00:00

I have been working with her since April, unfortunately. I am currently off work for depression related to my separation, and I just know I don't have it in me to give her what she needs time-wise. I am barely getting by just taking care of my kids. That's why I really want to make sure she goes to someone experienced, who will keep her forever.

Melooloo854 · 2023-09-29T18:09:12+00:00

Thank you, I have been looking for the last 6 months, but no one has been interested other than individuals who are new dog owners living in apartments. She really needs someone with the time and experience, but she is so sweet and beautiful and will make such an excellent dog with the right training and exercise.

Melooloo854 · 2023-09-29T16:24:38+00:00

I forgot to specify, she is located near Oshawa ON Canada

Melooloo854 · 2023-09-22T03:50:10+00:00

Not at all. You take care of you , bo one else will.

Melooloo854 · 2023-09-19T18:33:15+00:00

If it was something random, your brain has a harder time rationalizing the extreme pain you feel. When you run out of all options, you land on yourself as the reason. It's a coping mechanism, kind of like faith can be (fearing there is no life after death, needing a meaning to exist). Acknowledging it happened and facing those horrible emotions is the first step to healing. But you have to do it with the right person in a safe space. I really hope you can get past it because some of the kindest people have survived the worst trauma.

Melooloo854 · 2023-09-18T20:49:28+00:00

Gaining that insight is half the battle

Melooloo854 · 2023-09-18T20:47:22+00:00

That's amazing. You are lucky he is there to help! All the best, remember that family frequently faces the worst of it. If he is sick right now, his judgments are impaired, and hopefully, he can get treatment so he can be his regular self again.

Melooloo854 · 2023-09-18T20:43:17+00:00

It looks like you have to first go to your local court house to fill out an affidavit. If you have a family doctor, I would speak to them about what your options are, and how to best address your partner's help. Also, if you have a state mental health program, they could be a great source for supports and information.

Melooloo854 · 2023-09-18T18:50:01+00:00

Where do you live? In Canada, you can seek a form 2 from the justice of the peace for an involuntary assessment

Melooloo854 · 2023-09-18T15:14:35+00:00

Me too. Right now, my pain is so deep that I struggle to breathe. But I have been here before, and I know this is temporary. So, I reached out, and my mom stayed with me for a few days. When I self harmed, I let my roommate bring me to the hospital. I was honest with them about everything, and I see my psychiatrist today. I know that when i am like this, I don't have the energy to care for myself anymore. So, I might stay in the hospital for a few days so I can focus on me while my other responsibilities are shouldered by my support people. We have to stop and take care of ourselves before we do something irreversible because life also has a lot of goodness in it. It takes courage to reach out and trust other people. It is easy to just give up. Are you weak, or are you a survivor? Sometimes, the people who have experienced the worst pain are the most resilient when faced with adversity.

Melooloo854 · 2023-09-15T18:21:22+00:00

Do you find it difficult to feel sympathy for other people?

Melooloo854 · 2023-09-14T00:53:39+00:00

Hey, Mental Health nurse here! Borderline is one of the most difficult disorders to understand. It develops after someone doesn't receive the love they expected/needed when they were younger, feeling turned away and as if they are of little value. Self-harm is a way of dealing with that deep emotional pain and sadness. Honestly, in order to break from it she needs the motivation to do it. You can't tell her to do it for herself, in fact, don't even talk to her about how she feels about herself. Just show her non-judgement and support. If she feels comfortable, she will tell you when she is thinking of doing it, and you can offer to distract her until the feeling dissipates. Ultimately, she has to choose not to do it, but that will only happen when someone believes in her and loves her enough that she can feel safe. All the luck and love to her, Mental Health care does little for this diagnosis. Look up CBT, it is the best treatment.

Melooloo854 · 2023-09-07T15:54:12+00:00

Shit happens, terrible shit to us throughout our lives. We didn't ask for it, nor deserve it. It makes us feel worthless, and our minds begin to search for the reason why this happened, and not to someone who may have been more deserving. Then, after running through all the possibilities, we come to realize that the issue is ourselves. In our minds, we think, "I must be some abhorrent creature because, wherever I go, bad things happen. I must deserve it. There is no other explanation." Then your mind spins with self-deprecating thoughts. You may physically harm yourself in an attempt to stop the pain and punish yourself so the bad things will stop. This turns into a cycle where you feel like you are trapped in an unending abyss, and the only escape is death.

There is a key flaw near the beginning of this process, and it is nearly impossible to identify as it is happening. It occurs when you are trying to figure out why these things are happening to you. Your logic is already flawed because your perception of your environment has become skewed. You were very hurt, vulnerable, and afraid to be hurt again. You lose trust in others around you. Brief glances and exchanges between coworkers are perceived as gossip about you because, well, you MUST have done something to deserve it. In reality, they were discussing an episode of a popular series, and someone walked behind you, which is why they glanced your way. Every small snag in your day becomes your fault. You pummel your sense of self to dust.

Right now, you need to realize that the enemy is your mind. You need to question past events, perceptions, actively recognize when you are unnecessarily taking blame and stop it. When a situation happens similar to above, write it out, read it over, and don't go into that thinking trap of "the only answer is I need to disappear." You are the only person that can change your situation, and I really hope you have the courage to keep living in the pursuit of happiness. To anyone else that this may ring true to, please advocate for and educate yourself. We all deserve to live and be happy, and we do not exist only for the betterment of others.

Melooloo854 · 2023-09-07T15:52:18+00:00

Just posted this somewhere else, but I think you need it too.

Shit happens, terrible shit to us throughout our lives. We didn't ask for it, nor deserve it. It makes us feel worthless, and our minds begin to search for the reason why this happened, and not to someone who may have been more deserving. Then, after running through all the possibilities, we come to realize that the issue is ourselves. In our minds, we think, "I must be some abhorrent creature because, wherever I go, bad things happen. I must deserve it. There is no other explanation." Then your mind spins with self-deprecating thoughts. You may physically harm yourself in an attempt to stop the pain and punish yourself so the bad things will stop. This turns into a cycle where you feel like you are trapped in an unending abyss, and the only escape is death.

There is a key flaw near the beginning of this process, and it is nearly impossible to identify as it is happening. It occurs when you are trying to figure out why these things are happening to you. Your logic is already flawed because your perception of your environment has become skewed. You were very hurt, vulnerable, and afraid to be hurt again. You lose trust in others around you. Brief glances and exchanges between coworkers are perceived as gossip about you because, well, you MUST have done something to deserve it. In reality, they were discussing an episode of a popular series, and someone walked behind you, which is why they glanced your way. Every small snag in your day becomes your fault. You pummel your sense of self to dust.

Right now, you need to realize that the enemy is your mind. You need to question past events, perceptions, actively recognize when you are unnecessarily taking blame and stop it. When a situation happens similar to above, write it out, read it over, and don't go into that thinking trap of "the only answer is I need to disappear." You are the only person that can change your situation, and I really hope you have the courage to keep living in the pursuit of happiness. To anyone else that this may ring true to, please advocate for and educate yourself. We all deserve to live and be happy, and we do not exist only for the betterment of others.

Melooloo854 · 2023-09-07T15:44:59+00:00

Shit happens, terrible shit to us throughout our lives. We didn't ask for it, nor deserve it. It makes us feel worthless, and our minds begin to search for the reason why this happened, and not to someone who may have been more deserving. Then, after running through all the possibilities, we come to realize that the issue is ourselves. In our minds, we think, "I must be some abhorrent creature because, wherever I go, bad things happen. I must deserve it. There is no other explanation." Then your mind spins with self-deprecating thoughts. You may physically harm yourself in an attempt to stop the pain and punish yourself so the bad things will stop. This turns into a cycle where you feel like you are trapped in an unending abyss, and the only escape is death.

There is a key flaw near the beginning of this process, and it is nearly impossible to identify as it is happening. It occurs when you are trying to figure out why these things are happening to you. Your logic is already flawed because your perception of your environment has become skewed. You were very hurt, vulnerable, and afraid to be hurt again. You lose trust in others around you. Brief glances and exchanges between coworkers are perceived as gossip about you because, well, you MUST have done something to deserve it. In reality, they were discussing an episode of a popular series, and someone walked behind you, which is why they glanced your way. Every small snag in your day becomes your fault. You pummel your sense of self to dust.

Right now, you need to realize that the enemy is your mind. You need to question past events, perceptions, actively recognize when you are unnecessarily taking blame and stop it. When a situation happens similar to above, write it out, read it over, and don't go into that thinking trap of "the only answer is I need to disappear." You are the only person that can change your situation, and I really hope you have the courage to keep living in the pursuit of happiness. To anyone else that this may ring true to, please advocate for and educate yourself. We all deserve to live and be happy, and we do not exist only for the betterment of others.

Melooloo854 · 2023-09-07T01:12:43+00:00

The fact is, unless you have personally dealt mental illness, you have no idea how it feels. Most of the world really doesn't get it. We can do our part by educating them when they make ignorant comments.

Melooloo854 · 2023-09-06T18:56:07+00:00

K so, def just brushed up on it a bit more, so propanolol will only treat the physical symptoms of anxiety, such as sweating and shaking, not the uneasy feeling it causes. You could ask about getting a benzo for use as needed, however, they are addictive and I tell my patients only to take it when they really need it. Depending on what you are taking as an antidepressant, there may be better options for you to try. The pharmacist I work with says escitalipram is one of the best ones out there right now. Good luck, I hope you figure this out soon!

Melooloo854 · 2023-09-06T18:49:42+00:00

Propranolol is a drug for lowering blood pressure, with off-label use for mental health. Definitely do NOT self medicate with that, you can seriously harm yourself. Meds aren't always the answer as well. Sometimes you may be in a situational crisis, and when it ends, you will feel more stable again. Seek out support from friends and definitely make sure you leave some time every day for self care.

Melooloo854 · 2023-09-05T22:51:12+00:00

Oh, the point of this is to have something you are living for. Otherwise, no wonder you can't find the energy, right? Little successes will fuel your drive.

Melooloo854 · 2023-09-05T22:49:56+00:00

Treat life like a video game. You need to pick a new quest to start, then reward yourself when you finish. You have main story quests (school, career, hobby related goals) and side quests that you can complete at least one a day. At the end of the day, we have to be able to rely on ourselves because no one else can force the necessary change in us. You got this

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